Voices 2014 presented by Global Tech Women Inner Success and Inner Critics: Claiming Success While Taming Inner Critics (2 Sessions) Session 1: Diffusing the Inner Critic

1. Global Tech Women VOICES
07-March-14
Stacey Sargent
Facilitator, Coach, Program Designer, Speaker, Author and
CEO of Connect Growth and Development

2. The Book, The VOICES Sessions
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Introduction = Why Me, Why at Work
This is How We Roll = Stories, EQ, WPI, Coaching, Sharing
Inner Critic (07-March-2014; 11:00 PST)
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The Cast of Inner Critic Characters
Know Thyself, Know Thy Critic = Message, Triggers, Whole-Person Intelligence tracking
Show Me the Data! = Truth Series, Hot Words, Rules in Play
Taking a Different Look = Helpful, Both/And, Shadow, Check It Out, Feedback, Normal
The Divine Flaw
Inner Success
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(08-March-2014; 15:00 PST)
Work Your Core = Values, Identity, Feelings
Know Thy Success, Know Thyself = Successes and Prouds
Rocking Your Strengths PLUS = Strengths, Energy, Flow, SuperPowers
Your Definition of Success
Work Your Crew = Rock/Coach/Friend, Board of Directors
Be in Action
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Cultivating Your Practice

3. CAST OF INNER CRITIC
CHARACTERS
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4. Classic Critics
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5. SHOW ME THE DATA!
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7. The Truth Series
Is it 100% True? Y/N
What is
MORE true?
Data,
Specifics +
Examples!
What is
LESS true?
What else could
be true?
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Thoroughly take the
opposing, positive
viewpoint.
Turn the situation
and/or the message
upside down,
around, invert it
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8. INNER SUCCESS BUILDERS
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9. Divine Flaw
DIVINE FLAW
What matters most is
where the critic attacks

10. Work Your CORE
Values
Feelings
Identity
Strengths
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11. Core Values

12. Core Values
• STEP1: Put a line through LESS important values
• STEP2: Repeat, with the remaining words, which of these
are LESS important?
• STEP3: Select SIX of the remaining words as your MORE
important values
• STEP4: Stack rank, 1st most important value to 6th most
important values

13. Who are YOU?
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14. Core Identity
Imagine yourself as four dinner guests. They can be real people,
fictional characters, or your own made-up personifications.
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Who are they? Choose a label, name or the character.
If each identity had an area of expertise, what would it be?
What are three core values of each identity?
What is the favorite topic of conversation for each identity?
Which of the Six Classic Critics might trip it up?
How would it most likely be triggered and what would the I.C. message
likely be?
• What’s on the line for this particular identity, what really matters to it?

15. KNOW THEY SUCCESS,
KNOW THYSELF
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16. Successes + Prouds
• Think of two moments where you felt very
successful.
• Think of two moments where you felt very
proud of yourself.
• Increase your awareness
1. What characteristics, strengths, skills were present
about YOU, about the situation?
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17. CULTIVATE YOUR PRACTICE
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18. Stacey’s PRACTICE
• Learn about myself and my patterns
• Be ready for the critic
• Get very clear on my core
• Recall my Divine Flaw
• Get external perspective and feedback
• Have a great crew
• Let it flow, healthy venting and expression
• Emotional hijack
• Gratitude & Compassion
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19. Planning + Practice
• Think ahead into the next 2 weeks, when and
where are IC moments likely?
• What 2 tools are you going to practice?
• Meet with your crew in 2 weeks
• Share your stories, what you’re learning
and what you’ll be practicing the next 2
weeks
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20. Stacey Sargent, MA, Principal
Stacey Sargent has a passion for helping leaders and teams connect to higher levels of
performance! She has been coaching and consulting, helping clients face change,
improve performance and have positive impact to business results for 17 years.
Clients often refer to Stacey’s ability to bring an authentic and approachable manner, to
ask the right questions, bring focus to leverage points and to help create accountability
and business results in the work she does. She works in partnership with her clients in a
direct, open and respectful manner. She uses emotional intelligence, communications
and paradoxical and systems thinking as ways to create a higher return on investment in
life and work for her clients.
Stacey has worked in several key industries performing leadership, strategic, design and vision roles in business,
accounting and finance, consulting, client relations, design and development. She understands business - the
people, the numbers and the systems – that can be connected together in ways that transform. She has worked
across industries in higher education, government & municipalities, and manufacturing. She is able to
communicate across hierarchy, industry and focus so that people can come together to achieve high performance.
Stacey traveled the USA, Latin and South America helping organizations deal with change and challenging their
processes to gain more efficiency and effectiveness.
Stacey holds a Master of Arts degree in Applied Behavioral Science from the Leadership Institute of Seattle at
Bastyr University and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Business Finance from Western Washington University in
Bellingham, WA.
www.ConnectGD.com
Stacey@ConnectGD.com
206.226.8928
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21. Resources
BOOKS
Emotional Capability
•“Working with Emotional Intelligence” and “Primal Leadership”, by Daniel Goleman
•“Authentic Happiness” and “Learned Optimism”, by Martin Seligman
•“Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us”, by Daniel Pink
Inner Critic and Doubts
•“The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are”, by Brene Brown
•“The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It”, by
Valerie Young
Leadership
•“How Remarkable Women Lead: The Breakthrough Model for Work and Life”, by Joanna Barsh and Susie Cranston
•“The Leadership Challenge”, by Kouzes & Posner
•“The Practices of Adaptive Leadership” and “Leadership on the Line” by Heifetz & Linsky
Success
•“Now, Discover Your Strengths”, by Marcus Buckingham
•“The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms”, by Danielle LaPorte
•“Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes”, by William Bridges
•“Search Inside Yourself”, by Chade-Meng Tan
BLOGS+ SITES
•www.ConnectGD.com = Stacey Sargent: connections on success in work and life, blog
•www.HBR.org = business, leadership, strategy and more
•www.greatergood.berkeley.edu = research and writing on mindfulness, positive psychology, etc.
•www.TED.com = a few of my favorites, just search on the speaker name…
•Brene Brown, On Vulnerability in 2011 and 2012
•Sheryl Sandberg , Why We Have too Few Women Leaders
•Simon Sinek, How Great Leaders Inspire Action
•Richard St. John, Success Is a Continuous Journey
•Arianna Huffington, How to Succeed, Get More Sleep
•Shawn Anchor, The Happy Secret to Better Work
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