4. Susan Jean Elliott
(born November 19, 1956)
AN AMERICAN
AUTHOR,
RELATIONSHIP
COACH, AND A
LAWYER FROM
NEW YORK CITY.
STATES THAT EVEN AFTER
AN AMICABLE BREAKUP, IT IS
EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS,
AT LEAST
„INITIALLY‟.
5. GETTING PAST YOUR BREAKUP:
HOW TO TURN A DEVASTATING LOSS
INTO THE BEST THING THAT EVER
HAPPENED TO YOU
6. “MOST PEOPLE CANNOT REMAIN FRIENDS
AFTER A BREAKUP, BUT IF IT WILL EVER BE, IT
WILL BE LATER ... MUCH LATER. THE
ATMOSPHERE IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING A
BREAKUP IS TOO EMOTIONALLY CHARGED
FOR IT TO HAPPEN RIGHT AWAY, IF AT ALL.”
(ELLIOTT, 2012, PARA. 2 )
7. WHICH STATEMENT IS CORRECT?
Difficult to be
friends?
Not Difficult to
be friends?
12. THE TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS (SEPERATED BY
GENDER)
45
40
35
30
25
Male
20
Female
15
10
5
0
<18
18-25
26-35
>36
Male
Female
Age
<18
12
10
18-25
32
41
26-35
>36
0
2
0
3
Gender
13. TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS THAT HAD A
RELATIONSHIP BEFORE
30
25
20
Male
15
Female
10
5
0
Yes
No
Gender
Male
Female
Had a relationship before?
Yes
17
27
No
29
27
14. IN THOSE 44 PARTICIPANTS WHO HAD A
RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, IT LASTED:Gender
Male
Female
Relationship lasted for
<1 year
11
18
1-2 years
5
3
2-3 years
0
3
3-4 years
0
3
>4years
1
0
15. IF YOU HAVE AN EX (IF YOU
DON‟T, IMAGINE YOU HAVE
ONE), YOU WOULD:
The questinos
48. REFERENCE
McLeod, S. A. (2011), Psychology Research
Report, Retrieved from
http://www.simplypsychology.org/researchreport.html
The Lifescript Editorial Staff ( 2007, November 09 )
, Should You Be Friends with Your Ex? Retrieved
from
http://www.lifescript.com/life/relationships/wreckag
e/should_you_be_friends_with_your_ex.aspx
Elliott, S. ( 2012, May 15 ), Friends With Ex: Should
You Be Friends With Your Ex Post-Split? Retrieved
from
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/15/friends-
Before we start our presentation, we would like to express our sincere gratitude to Miss Pang Chia Yee, our social psychology lecturer for guiding us and giving us some useful tips for this study and also for teaching us about social psychology which has helped us to complete this project more efficiently. We would like to thank all the participants involved in this study for providing us with the required information for this project, excusing us of our intrusion and also for taking the time to fill up the questionnaires. Lastly, we would like to thank our group members who have given their cooperation and participation and have set apart time to contribute to this report in the midst of their busy schedule.
Optional<Brief explanation on how difficult can it being friends after breaking up>Not how it used to be?blablalbalba
According to a 2004 NBC.com poll, 48% of people surveyed said they remained friends with their ex. And 18% of those surveyed said that they have tried (to be friends), but it did not work.
(The Lifescript Editorial Staff, 2007) However, on the other hand, Susan Jean Elliott (born November 19, 1956) is an American author, media commentator, and lawyer[1] from New York City,, states that even after an amicable breakup, it’s extremely difficult to be friends, at least initially.Now what does she mean by extremely difficult to be friends, ‘initially’
Now first things first, let’s talk about Susan Jean Elliott, she got divorced, and she’s was working at the same place where her husband is during that time, do you see how difficult that situation is? She’s with him at the same office for the past 2 years and now is having difficult functioning and also being friends with him.She wrote the book, Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You.*show picture*
This is one of the things that she wrote“Most people cannot remain friends after a breakup, but if it will ever be, it will be later ... much later. The atmosphere immediately following a breakup is too emotionally charged for it to happen right away, if at all.” (Elliott, 2012, para. 2 )This is the statement in which she believes that it is difficult to be friends with your ex
So which statement is correct?in order to investigate, we conducted a survey. The aim of this survey is to identify whether couples that break up can still remain as friends or not. The hypothesis is
METHODSParticipants:We randomly selected 100 persons that comprises of random strangers, friends and family members both around campus and our respective homes and hang-out spots.
Procedure:We constructed a survey questionnaire of around 10 questions excluding personal details such as age, gender and whether the participant had an ex before. Participants were approached and asked if they can help us to complete our survey questionnaire for social psychology assignment. Upon completion of the questionnaire, we retrieved it and replied with a simple thanks. We repeated this steps until we obtained our desired amount of information which is 100 surveys. Then we analyzed the data and wrote a report containing our findings.
We will not do anything that would make the participant feel uncomfortableEthnic considerations 1,Surveys will be conducted by voluntary participants only.2.Even the experiment had started, participants are allow to stop the survey if they wanted to. 3.The filled survey forms will not be exposed except for the experiment conducting team.
A. From this question we found that more males (25 out of 46) would say ‘hi’ to their ex than compared to females (20 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement while females are not sure.
B. From this question we found that more males (25 out of 46) would still think of their ex as friends than compared to females (26 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement whereas females are not sure.
C. From this question we found that more males (20 out of 46) would continue chatting with their ex than compared to females (15 out of 54). On average, both males and females are not sure about this statement.
D. From this question we found that more males (30 out of 46) would wish their ex on special events than compared to females (21 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement while females are not sure.
E. From this question we found that more males (29 out of 46) would voluntarily offer help to their ex than compared to females (20 out of 54). On average, males agree to this statement whereas females are not sure.
F. From this question we found that more males (12 out of 46) would continue to hang out with their ex than compared to females (10 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
G. From this question we found that more females (10 out of 54) would mention their ex in front of their friends than compared to males (5 out of 46). On average, both males and females are not sure about this statement.
H. From this question we found that more males (13 out of 46) would keep thinking about their ex than compared to females (8 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
I. From this question we found that more males (9 out of 46) would hope to get back into a relationship with their ex than compared to females (3 out of 54). On average, males are not sure about this statement while females disagree with it.
J. From this question we found that more males (5 out of 46) would not date another person than compared to females (4 out of 54). On average, both males and females disagree with this statement.
Based on the survey we carried out, the female participants are slightly more than the amount of male participants which majority of them are aged from18-25 years old. Out of 100 participants, 44 of them broke up before and 65% of those who broke up, their relationship lasted less than a year.
All in all, we can see that males tend to agree more to this survey whereas females tend to disagree more. In total average, males have 4 ‘agree’s, 5 ‘not sure’s and 1 ‘disagree’ whereas females have 6 ‘not sure’s and 4 ‘disagree’s. Since we have obtained slightly more disagrees than we have agree, we have to conclude that couples that break up cannot remain as friends. The hypothesis is not accepted.
