9. Nelson Mandela
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“The first thing is to
be honest with
yourself. You can
never have an
impact on society if
you have not
changed yourself.”
10. Sources of Conflict
o Spiritual sources of conflict
Result of original ancestor’s separation from God
and negative influence from evil spiritual forces
o Individual sources of conflict
Disunity within the individual and confusion of
values
o Family sources of conflict
Family dysfunctions affect succeeding
generations.
o National/international sources of conflict
National policies affect future generations and
can lead to conflict within or between nations.
11. Historical Sources of National Conflict
o National crimes burden
future generations.
o US Civil War
o Ethnic/religious
resentments accumulate.
o Balkan conflicts
12. Individual Choice:
To resolve or repeat past conflicts
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Past
Future
Each person passes
on either the problem
or the solution.
13. Does Fighting Resolve Conflict?
Fighting can be necessary
For self-defense
To defend the weak
Fighting does not resolve conflict
Defeating an enemy does not answer
his grievances or end his hatred.
The defeated are tempted to seek
revenge.
14. Results of World War I
Left:Left: General Ferdinand FochGeneral Ferdinand Foch
(2(2ndnd
from right) at Germanfrom right) at German
surrender insurrender in
Compeigne forest near ParisCompeigne forest near Paris
Above:Above: Adolf Hitler (withAdolf Hitler (with
hand on hip) visiting thehand on hip) visiting the
site of the Germansite of the German
surrender, June 22, 1940surrender, June 22, 1940
15. 15
Results of World War II
George C. Marshall and the MarshallGeorge C. Marshall and the Marshall
PlanPlan
16. Basis for Conflict Resolution
Indemnity conditions:
Efforts to reverse the
process by which the
original harmony was lost.
Lost Restored
State
of
Conflic
t
State of
Harmony
18. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 1.Self reflection &
reorientation
o Consider how one might have dealt with the
problem differently.
o Take responsibility for one’s contribution to the
conflict.
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“We never get rid of
an enemy by meeting
hate with hate; we
get rid of an enemy
by getting rid of
enmity.”
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
20. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 2.Reversal & restitution
o Address whatever caused the other
to feel hurt and violated.
o Be open to efforts to reconcile.
o Seek to correct injustices.
21. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 3. Reconciliation & renewal
o Give up claim for retaliation.
o Forgive and be open to receive
forgiveness.
o Resolve to help the other to change.
o Foster good will.
22. Actions That Lead to Peace
Humility: - Admitting to not always being right
- Being open to learn from others
Generosity: - Giving beyond convenience
- Giving unconditionally, without
expectation of return
Service: - Showing acts of caring to meet others’
needs
- Respecting the dignity of the recipient
- Reversing exploitation through service
23. Greatest Act of Love:
Winning over one’s enemy
Giving even to those who have done one harm
o Converts the enemy into a friend.
o Reverses ancient patterns of abuse and revenge.
24. Jesus Christ
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“I say to you, love your
enemies, and pray for
those who curse you, do
good to those who hate
you, and pray for those
who persecute you, so
that you may be sons of
your Father in heaven.”
Matthew 5:44-46
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Islam
“My Lord, who is the
greatest of Thy servants
in Thy estimation?”
“The one who forgives
when he is in a position
of power.”
Hadith of Baihaqi
27. Attitude of an Ambassador for Peace
o Show concern for both sides.
o Affirm the value of both sides.
o Gain trust from both sides that each is being
treated fairly.
o Aim for a win-win outcome.
o Guide both sides beyond blame and accusation.
28. Mediation Skills: Towards the Offender
o Help the offender accept responsibility.
o Encourage admission of wrong.
o Help the offender accept the challenge of reconciliation.
o Avoid labeling and blaming.
o Praise and offer a second chance.
29. Mediation Skills: Towards the Offended
o Help the offended forgive and release
grudges.
o Help the offended recognize own faults.
o Help the offended to accept an apology.
o Foster harmony and friendship with the
offender.
30. Promoting Peace and Reconciliation
o Service programs
o Sports competitions
o Cultural programs
o Dialogue between religions
o Women as peacemakers
31. Mahatma Gandhi
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“When I despair, I
remember that all
through history the
ways of truth and love
have always won.”
32. Anwar Sadat
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“Any life that is lost in
war is a human life, be it
that of an Arab or Israeli.
Innocent children who
are deprived of the care
and compassion of their
parents are ours. They
are ours, be they living
on Arab or Israeli land.”
Speech to the Israeli
Knesset
33. Rev. Sun Myung Moon
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“The reason why God does
not punish an enemy is that
He is thinking of the
enemy’s parents, wife and
children who all love him.
When you understand that
heart of God, could you
take revenge on your
enemy?”