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The document discusses proper etiquette and manners. It provides guidance on practicing good manners in various settings like home, school, and in public. Some key points covered include maintaining an 18-inch personal space, using polite words like "please" and "thank you", introducing people properly, having good table manners, and being respectful and courteous to others in school and in public places. The document emphasizes that manners should be practiced everywhere and there is no limit to improving one's etiquette.
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- 6. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com • Where do you take your Etiquette? The question is... The answer is... • Everywhere! • Home • School • Public
- 7. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Having Good Manners What’s the Payoff? • Your parents will be impressed • Your friends will be surprised • Your teachers will notice • Life will be easier
- 8. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Manners – Up Close and Personal • Know common courtesies • Use words that work • Prepare to meet and greet • Learn table tips
- 9. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Rate Your Smile A. I don’t smile. I’m mysterious. B. I smile while laughing like a hyena. C. My smile is a smirk. I’m cool. D. I smile to say I’m friendly. Answer You guessed it - D is the best
- 10. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Respect Others’ Space: What’s a Good Comfort Zone? A. A foot if I like them. Four feet if I don’t. B. Create an 18-inch personal zone. C. Move closer until they feel nervous. D. Space is an abstract concept. Answer B. 18 inches
- 11. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners High Five Hygiene • Wash and wear your manners • Privatize your grooming • Ban body noises
- 12. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.comPersonal Manners Words Are the Currency of Etiquette Spend Them Wisely • “Please” and “thank you” not only golden oldies • “No problem” is a problem • Code words exclude others • Slang confuses others
- 13. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners How to Stop Swearing in 21 Days! Which techniques could work for you? A. Fine for each swear word B. Friends catch your slips C. Replace good word for swear word D. Imagine Grandma listening in Answer All of them if you do them
- 14. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.comPersonal Manners I’d Like You to Meet… Introduce People According to Custom • Younger person to older person • Male to female • New friend to old friend • Employee to boss • Student to teacher • Friends to parents
- 15. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Introduction - Stick with a Plan • Mention each name twice • Tell something about each person You: Emma, meet Mrs. Sampson, my basketball coach. She helped me improve my free throw percentage. You: Mrs. Sampson, I’d like you to meet my sister Emma.
- 16. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners The Dreaded Handshake • Stand up • Make eye contact • Shake with medium firmness • Shake three times • Add a greeting– “Hello.” “How are you?”
- 17. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Wow! Look at That Table Dining Decoder • Your napkin goes: ___ on the table ___ in your lap • Your beverages are on: ___ left or ___ right? • Side foods are on: ___ left or ___ right?
- 18. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners Silverware – The Shiny Truth • Use silverware first from ___ inside or ___ outside? • A knife is a: ___ spear ___ food holder ___ pointer ___ none of the above • Between bites put your utensils: ___ in your hands ___ on table ___ on plate
- 19. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Personal Manners What’s on Your Plate? If you don’t like a food: ___ hide it in napkin ___ eat a few bites ___ say it’s gross If you don’t know how to eat a food: ___ don’t eat it ___ ask someone how ___ watch others Your mouth is full. Someone asks a question: ___ answer anyway ___ ignore the question ___ signal you’ll answer later
- 20. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com School Manners Be a PRO at School Manners Bully proof classrooms, hallways, cafeteria • P – Pledge patience • R – Respect the rules • O – Own your behavior
- 21. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com School Manners Classroom Code Learning is your #1 job Classroom don’ts: • Disrupt • Cheat • Monopolize Classroom do’s: • Do bring supplies, patience, respect
- 22. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com School Manners Cliques are Crummy • Avoid categorizing people • Say “hi” outside your group • Rejection breeds retaliation • Stand up to your crowd
- 23. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com School Manners Break the Bully Chain Bullies are made, not born • Teasing • Name-calling • Shoving • Threats • Violence
- 24. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com School Manners Serve Up Manners in the Cafeteria • Forget food fights – you know that • Others’ food is off limits • Cliques not on menu • Keep it clean
- 25. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Public Manners Take Your Manners Public • P – Politeness is portable • U – Use the basics • B – Be nice to everyone • L – Leave a place better than it was • I – Invert rudeness to niceness • C – Continue courtesies
- 26. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Public Manners Travel with Style • Practice patience in line • One seat per passenger • Skip the picnic • Do not disturb – other passengers
- 27. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Public Manners Manners Shine in the Dark • I’m on time ___ yes ___ no • I stay in my seat ___ yes ___ no • I face the back when I pass down a row ___ yes ___ no • I stop talking once the feature starts ___ yes ___ no • I pick up my trash ___ yes ___ no What’s your Movie Mojo?
- 28. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Public Manners ‘Sweatiquette’ for the Gym • Sniff - wash your workout clothes • Whiff – wipe off equipment • Share machines • Enter a no-compete zone • Keep your eyes on the prize, not gym members
- 29. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Public Manners Get a 5-Star Restaurant Review • Review dining etiquette • Decide how to pay • Hold the mayo, but limit substitutions • Nix table hopping and eavesdropping • Yes, yes, yes – leave a TIP
- 30. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com How Would You Rate Your Manners Future? • ___ I’ve got my silverware and I’m good to go. • ___ I could be valedictorian of classroom manners. • ___ I’d be welcome on any bus, train or airplane. • ___ Let me introduce you to my new polite self. There’s no curfew for etiquette Practice manners day and night
- 31. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Review 1. Where should you practice good manners? • Everywhere 2. How much personal space should you give another person? • 18 inches — about an arms length 3. Why is over-using code words and slang impolite? • Code and slang excludes people who can’t translate 4. How many times should you shake a person’s hand? • Three times
- 32. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Review 5. Name several bully behaviors. • Teasing, name-calling, shoving, threats, violence 6. How can you be a PRO in the classroom? • Pledge patience. Respect rules. Own your behavior. 7. Why is it rude to eat messy food and drinks on a bus? • They could spill on the person next to you
- 33. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Review 8. What two things should you towel at the gym? • Yourself and the equipment after you use it 9. Is it okay to ask for substitutions at a restaurant? • Yes, but just one or two 10. Are you ready to polish your manners? • YES!
- 34. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Etiquette Activities • List five things you plan to do to improve your manners. • List five things you wish others would do to improve their manners?
- 35. Made by : Prakash Thapa © prakashthapa08@gmail.com Thank You
Editor's Notes
- The idea that good manners are just about eating is out of date. Manners are now portable and go with you wherever you go. Manners are personal. You want to be courteous to all the people with whom you interact. You can also put manners in your backpack because they belong in school. And when the day is over, don’t leave your manners in your locker. Take them home with you, or wherever you go.
- Don’t think for a minute that manners are only for goody goodies. People use good etiquette because it’s the mannerly way to behave. Manners help a culture work smoothly. But there are other solid reasons to say “please” and “thank you,” smile to peers in the halls and turn off your cell phones in the movies. People respond positively to others who are polite. Giving off a good vibe will impress your parents and teachers, and maybe even surprise your friends in a good way.
- There are some basics that are considered the ground rules of politeness. Use common courtesies like showing up on time and opening doors to make a good impression. Consider how what you say affects others. Use words that work. Introducing people can be awkward. Learn to meet and greet others with confidence. When you sit down to the dinner table have a game plan. Know the tips for using utensils and eating foods. You can put your personality into personal manners.
- All through the day you’ll find situations to practice being polite. Most of them will give you an opportunity to flash a smile. How would you rate your smile? Rare? Overboard? Smirk? Friendly? A smile, a grin, or a happy laugh all signal that you are a friendly person who will be nice to know.
- Have you ever felt a little creepy when someone got up in your face during a conversation? On the other hand, it seems weird when a person tries to talk with you from the other side of the room. Although some cultures vary on the exact amount of personal space to give someone, the standard is 18 inches. A good way to remember is to use the length of your arm as your guideline.
- If you’ve ever been around someone with bad breath and bad body odor, you’ll immediately understand why good hygiene is actually part of good manners. Wash your clothes, body, hair, teeth and maybe even your car while you’re in cleaning mode. People appreciate combed hair, clipped fingernails, tidy eyebrows, nice make-up and food-free teeth. And they don’t want a front row seat for your grooming, so hide your hygiene. And those body noises like burping aren’t funny. You might get a laugh but it’s not going to be the start of a comedy career or a lasting relationship.
- How many people do you talk with every day? 10? 20? 30? More? Your family, friends, teachers, classmates, bosses, co-workers and sales and service professionals all react to what you say. Use a few language golden rules to make your conversations positive and productive. People have been saying “please” and “thank you” for centuries because they are quick and polite ways to acknowledge the importance of another person. A new trend of saying “no problem” instead of “you’re welcome” is catching on. It’s a trend to end. “Problem” is a negative word. Using code words or inside jokes outside your group excludes people who can’t translate. Edit slang words when you’re in a work situation, on a college interview or in a conversation with older people who might be out of the pop culture loop.
- There are lots of reasons people swear: to be cool, to intimidate others, to start an argument, or because they’re too lazy to think of another word. None of these reasons are good justifications for a language breakdown. So if you’d like to break your swearing habit, you can reprogram your behavior in 21 days without anyone washing your mouth out with soap. Put money in a cup when you swear. Ask your friends to catch your swearing. Figure out alternate words for your swear words. You can even make them fun words. Or imagine your Grandma listening into one of your swearing tirades. What would she think?
- You’re standing with two people who don’t know each other. They are waiting for you to make the introduction. Panic. What are you supposed to do? First of all, be aware that there is a hierarchy of who to introduce to whom, often based on age or gender. Introduce the person lower in hierarchy to the person who is higher. For example, introduce a younger person to an older person, a male to a female, a new friend to an old friend, an employee to a boss, a student to a teacher and a friend to a parent. Sure, it may be an old custom but everyone still follows it as a sign of courtesy and respect.
- You’re face to face with the two people you need to introduce. You know to introduce the younger person to the older one. What next? What do you say? Be sure to mention each name twice. Be sure to give a little information about each person to the other. This will help them start a conversation. Here’s how a good introduction goes: You: Emma, meet Mrs. Sampson, my basketball coach, who helped me improve my free throw percentage. You: Mrs. Sampson, I’d like you to meet my sister Emma.
- If it hasn’t happen yet, some day a person is going to stick out a hand to you and expect you to shake it. A handshake is often part of an introduction. You can learn this social skill in just a few steps. Stand up. Make eye contact with the person. Shake the person’s hand with a comfortable firmness. Avoid limp or bone crushing grips. The custom is to shake three times. Be sure to say your name, and add a few friendly words such as “Hello, I’m Susan Brown.” “How are you?” or “Nice to meet you.”
- When you are in a situation where you need to do more than take the mac and cheese out of the microwave, you may feel out of place. Take along your dining decoder and you’ll be just fine. When you sit down, place the napkin on your lap and keep it there. If you have to leave the table, place it on your chair. At the end of the meal, the napkin goes back on the table. You won’t eat or drink your table neighbor’s food and drinks if you remember that beverages are on your right and salads and side foods are on the left.
- You could see as many as six pieces of silverware at your place. Don’t know what to do? Just start with the outside utensils first and work your way in. For example, use the first outside fork for salad and the next one in for your main meal. A knife is used to cut food and to assist the fork by shoving food. It’s not for spearing food or eating foods or waving to make a point while you’re talking. Between bites of food, rest your silverware on your plate.
- You may not always like or even recognize food you’re served. So how can you be polite in sticky dining situations? Even if a dish isn’t your favorite, eat a few bites so it doesn’t become an island on an empty plate. If you’re not sure how to eat a certain food, watch how others eat it and do the same. Sometimes people ask questions when you’ve just taken a big bite of food. If you answer with food in your mouth, it’s gross. If you ignore them, it’s rude. Put your finger to your mouth to signal you’ll answer as soon as you’re finished.
- A rude school is a breeding ground for bullies. Once they start to rule the classrooms, hallways and cafeteria, school life can get complicated and hostile. Become a PRO at school manners every day and everywhere on your school campus and you’ll see good and friendly changes. P – pledge to be patient. Before you quickly say or do something, step back and be patient. R – respect the rules. It’s tempting to think you’re special and the rules don’t apply to you but they do. O – own your behavior. When you are the one who is rude, acknowledge your mistake and move ahead. Make a few changes and notice the positive reaction you get.
- You probably enjoy friends and activities at school. But the main reason you’re in the building is to get an education. Learning starts with respect for the teacher and the school’s goals, as well as your own. Most people get tired of the class clown and classmates who suck up all the attention in the room. Students also aren’t too crazy about peers who borrow supplies, homework, and answers to tests. You have a right and probably a duty to say “no” to unreasonable requests. This is where the PRO formula comes in handy. Pledge to be patient. Respect the rules, your teacher and your classmates. Own your behavior. When you’re the one causing chaos in the room, change course.
- You might categorize your classmates as best friends, good friends, friends of friends, casual acquaintances, people who are so-so and people you just can’t stand. That’s a lot of work, but unfortunately, judging others comes almost automatically. Everyone in school isn’t going to be your best friend or even one of your close friends. But don’t cast off everyone who isn’t like you. Snap judgments are often wrong and can be dangerous. Students who feel overwhelming rejection often retaliate in unhealthy ways. It’s hard to stand up for someone who your friends want to exclude, but try it. You might be surprised at the respect you get.
- A person doesn’t wake up one day and decide to pull a knife on someone. Bullies are made, not born. Bully behavior escalates in a fairly predictable progression. It often begins with teasing, then moves to name-calling. Then can come to shoving, and next grows to threats. Too often it ends in violence. The person doing all the bullying can grow more dangerous. The person who is the target of bullies can snap and become dangerous. So before you make fun of someone’s haircut or call another an idiot in what you consider a playful way, think twice. The situation could get out of hand.
- The school cafeteria isn’t a fancy place with crystal water goblets and cloth napkins. The table manners police aren’t going to patrol your table. Still, you don’t want to be a total slob at lunch. You know food is for eating, not throwing, so we don’t need to go there. You wish you got what the person next to you has, but you didn’t, so keep your hands off his tray. Grabbing food off someone’s tray is actually bully behavior. Have you ever been the one sitting alone at lunch? It could happen. Reach out to another a person who is by him or herself. There are no cafeteria elves so make sure you clean up after yourself. That’s a good idea, wherever you are.
- “You must behave in public, young lady or young man.” Did you ever hear that warning when you were little? Well, it’s true, but it isn’t really that difficult to have good manners when you’re on a bus or at the movies or working out at the gym or eating in a restaurant, as long as you know some simple guidelines. Politeness is portable and goes where you go. Use the basics – good table manners, smooth introductions, etiquette and common courtesies. Be nice to everyone. Leave a place better than you found it. Take away your garbage and pick up after yourself. Invert rudeness to turn a negative into polite behavior. Continue courtesies as you discover new ways to be thoughtful.
- Everyone is going somewhere, and they’d like to get there with as little hassle as possible. If people use good manners on buses, trains, and airplanes, the ride is much nicer. Sure, you want to get on board and get settled. So does everyone else. Be patient in line, and boarding will be fair for all the passengers. Unless you buy two tickets, it’s one seat per customer. Don’t use an extra seat for your book bag or cello. When you have a lot of stuff, try to get a private ride. Finish your large drinks and messy meals before boarding. One quick stop, and the person next to you could be wearing your lunch. Imagine other passengers are wearing “do not disturb” signs around their necks. Keep your conversations low, and text instead of calling your friends. Bon voyage!
- Even though it’s dark in a movie theater, people can still see your manners. Here’s how you, and the rest of the audience, can enjoy the show. Be on time. If you’re late, go directly to the most open area - even if it’s the front row. Whenever you arrive, find your seat and stay in it. Hopping up and down to get popcorn and soda, and then hopping up again to go to the bathroom, is disruptive. Sit down in an aisle seat in the back if you can’t sit still, so no one behind you is bothered by your movements. If you must climb past people in your aisle, face them. It may be uncomfortable, but a smile is a better view than your backside. Notice who is behind you before you sit down. Avoid blocking someone’s view. You probably aren’t a movie critic, so don’t play one in the theater. Keep your observations to yourself. Movie time is quiet time. And pick up your trash on the way out. These same tips will work at concerts and sporting events.
- The world is working out in school gyms and health clubs. Remember, manners go along with the membership. Ever get a whiff of someone who wears the same outfit many times in a row without washing? Ugly. Workout clothes are wash and wear. Follow the instructions every time. Your towel should do double duty and be used to wipe off the equipment when you’re done. Share your equipment when you’re resting. Working out isn’t supposed to be a competition, so don’t try to outrun the guy on the other treadmill. And, even though you might be tempted, don’t stare and compare.
- When you walk into a restaurant, bring your money, your appetite, and your manners. Review table etiquette. Even if you’re only eating with your friends, don’t talk with your mouth full. No one wants to see your food. There are some other polite behaviors that are expected in a restaurant. Decide before you order how you will pay the bill. One person often pays the bill on a date. You can ask for separate checks, or decide to split one bill. Any way is okay, just so you don’t argue about it after the meal. It’s fine to ask for a substitution on a menu item, but don’t over-do it with lots of change requests. You might see friends at another table and want to say “hi.” Stop by for a minute or two, but don’t sit down. Remember, you weren’t invited, and others are waiting for you back at your table. You might overhear some juicy gossip at the next table, but don’t listen in, even though you might be tempted. Focus on your friends. And finally, before you go, leave a 15 to 20% tip. You’ll be welcomed back next time.
- How Would You Rate Your Manners Future? ___ You’ve got your silverware and are good to go. ___ You could be valedictorian of classroom manners. ___ You’d be welcome on any bus, train or airplane. ___ Introduce us to your new polite self. Are you ready to go out and astound your parents, teachers and friends with the new and improved mannerly you? Actually, if you spend this week just saying, “please, thank you, excuse me and you’re welcome,” they will be very impressed. Etiquette isn’t a skill you can learn overnight. You will have opportunities to practice being polite during your personal interactions, at school and in public. Are you up for the challenge and rewards?
- Teacher Key 1. Everywhere 2. 18 inches – about an arm’s length 3. Code and slang excludes people who can’t translate 4. Three times
- Teacher Key 5. Teasing, name-calling, shoving, threats, violence 6. Pledge patience. Respect rules. Own your behavior. 7. They could spill on the person next to you
- Teacher Key 8. Yourself and the equipment after you use it 9. Yes, but just one or two 10. YES!