This is a presentation for Nutley, NJ Parenting Advocacy group to help parents understand how to protect their children and what to do if they suspect abuse. I used current research and best practice when developing this presentation.
3. SEXUAL ABUSE
• Sexual Touching
• Fondling, kissing, etc.
• Non-Touching Sexual Offenses
• Indecent exposure, exposure to sexual act
• Sexual Exploitation
• Soliciting for prostitution, using child for
pornography
4. OUTCOMES OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL
ABUSE IN ADULTHOOD
• Chronic • Cognitive Issues
Psychological Issues • Suicide
• Loss of Trust – • Addictions
Relationship Issues • Aggression and
• Abnormal or Bullying
Distorted View of • Perpetration
Sex and
Relationships • Eating Disorders
• Identity Confusion • Adjustment Issues
5. WHY DON’T CHILDREN TELL?
• Threatened or Family/Pets Threatened
• Told it was a Secret
• Told they will get in Trouble – it is Their
Fault
• Try and Tell in Own Way but not
Believed/Understood
6. WHY DON’T CHILDREN TELL?
• Confused about the Relationship
• Repress Memories
• Cognitively Unable to Understand
What Happened
• Afraid of Being Taken out of the Family
7. WHO ARE THE PERPETRATORS?
• All cultures
• All races
• All Ages
• All socioeconomic statuses
• Men and Women
• Adults, Teens, and Children
• Friends, neighbors, parents, parents of
child‟s friends
8. WHO ARE THE PERPETRATORS?
• Often abused or Witnessed Abuse
• Form trusting relationships with victims
• Use force, coercion, threaten, guilt
• Often spend time grooming victims
9. HOW ARE CHILDREN TARGETED?
• How Child Behaved
• Innocent or Trusting
• Lack Confidence or Self-Esteem
• Family Problems
• Curious
• Access
• How the Child Looks
10. RECRUITMENT
• Frequented Places Children Go
• Welcomed into Home
• Approached by Child
• Have Victims Recruit Other Children
• Threatening
• Giving Gifts
11. STRATEGIES
• Offer to Play Games, Teach a
Sport, Play Musical Instrument
• Bribes or Presents
• Took for an Outing, Gave Ride Home
• Used Affection, Understanding, Love
12. STRATEGIES
• Asked a Child for Help/Gain Sympathy
• Gain Trust in Family or Other Adults
• Babysitting – 50%
• Using Online Websites/Social Media
13. GROOMING
• Gaining Child‟s Trust
• Talking About Sex
• Psychological Abuse
• Misrepresenting Abuse
• Start with Touching or Kissing
• Listening and Giving Attention
14. GROOMING
• Bathing, Undressing
• „Accidental Touch‟
• Often Back off and Then Start
Again
• Drugs or Alcohol
• Use Same Strategies Repeatedly
16. PREVENTION
• Avoid Isolated Places
• No Mouth Kissing
• Talk about “Creepy” Feelings
• Child Centered Play and
Discussions
17. INCREASE RESILIENCY
• Positive Self-Esteem
• Question Authority
• Compromise
• Family and Individual Time
• Teach about Secrets
• Stop Teasing/Name Calling
• Don‟t be Too Hard on Your Children
18. WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN
• Don‟t Trust Everyone – Say NO! Stop!
• Tell Me if Someone Tries to “Trick” You
• Tell Me if Someone Touches You in a
Private Place or in a Way You Don‟t
Like
• Don‟t be Fooled by “Special Favors”
19. WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN
• Never go to Public Bathrooms Alone
• Stay in Groups
• Tell me if Friends Promise you
Something for Going Somewhere with
Them
• Don‟t Take ANYTHING from Someone
Without Asking Me
20. WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN
• If Scared and Walking – Knock on
Doors Until Someone Answers (stay
outside)
• Always tell me where you are going –
even if it is across the street
• Be Leary of an Adult Approaching You
Alone
21. WHAT TO WATCH OUT FOR
• Someone More Interested in Your Children
Than You
• Overly Affectionate, Overly Loving
• Adults That Often Bring Gifts to Your Children
• Children Can be Abused Right in Front of
You
22. WHAT TO WATCH OUT FOR
• Anyone can be an abuser – even if disabled
• Children are Curious About Sex and Their
Changing Bodies
• Anyone Your Child Doesn‟t Want to Be Around
• Secretive about being on the computer/social
media
23. SIGNS OF ABUSE - MEDICAL
• Pregnancy of Child
• Sexually Transmitted Disease
• Sore/Pain Vagina, Penis or Anus
• Bleeding from Vagina or Anus
• Unexplained Bruising on arms, legs, etc.
• Chronic Urinary Tract Infections
• Hemorrhoids
• Injury to Palate
• Sore Mouth or Throat
24. SIGNS OF ABUSE – PSYCHOLOGICAL
SEXUAL INDICATORS
• Sexualized Play
• Sexualized Language or Statements
• Sexualized Drawings/Artwork
• Sexualized Play with Peers
• Grooming of Adults or Children
• Sexual Interactions with Animals or Toys
• Excessive Masturbation
25. SIGNS OF ABUSE – PSYCHOLOGICAL
ALL CHILDREN
• Problems Relating to Peers
• School Difficulties
• Sudden Noticeable Changes in
Behavior
• Fear
• Secretiveness
• Unusual Aggressiveness
• Excessive Masturbation
26. SIGNS OF ABUSE –
PSYCHOLOGICAL AGES 0-2
• Fear or Excessive Crying
• Separation Anxiety
• Vomiting
• Feeding Problems
• Bowel Problems
• Sleep Disturbances – Change in Sleep
Patterns
• Failure to Thrive
27. SIGNS OF ABUSE – PSYCHOLOGICAL –
AGES 2-9
• Nightmares or Change in Sleep Patterns
• Fearful Behaviors (people, places, activities)
• Change in Personality or Temperament
• Regression
• Urinating or Defecating Problems
28. SIGNS OF ABUSE – PSYCHOLOGICAL –
AGES 2-9
• Self-destructive/Risk Taking Behaviors
• Impulsivity, distractibility, daydreaming
• Psuedeomaturity
• Cruelty to Animals or Firesetting
• Eating Issues
• Fear of Being Left Alone
29. SIGNS OF ABUSE PSYCHOLOGICAL –
OLDER CHILDREN
• Depression • Promiscuity
• Nightmares/Diffic • Substance Abuse
ulty Sleeping • Aggression and
• Poor School Anger
Performance • Fearful Behaviors
• Running Away • Suicidal Gestures
30. WHAT TO DO IF YOU SUSPECT
A CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED
• Call Department of Children and
Families
• Hotline 877-652-2873
• Call the Police Department
• Nutley (973) 284-4940
• Find a Counselor for the Child and/or
Family
• http://www.nbcc.org/CounselorFind
31. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER
A REPORT IS MADE
• Investigated
• Nutley – Juvenile Protective Bureau
• Speak with Adults
• When Allegation has Credibility
• Forensic Interview of Child
• Physical Exam – Specially Trained Nurse
• Police will Contact DYFS
32. SOME WEBSITES
• http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/index.html
• Information and Blogs
• http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Child+Sexual+A
buse§ion=Facts+for+Families
• Information on Sexual Abuse
• http://www.stopcsa.org/index.html
• Information and Hotlines
• http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/Portal.aspx?AspxAuto
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• Government Sex Offender List
33. QUESTIONS?
Contact Information for
Dr. Edina Renfro-Michel
renfromichee@mail.montclair.edu
Notas del editor
Sexual touching – fondling, kissing, making child ouch adult sexual organs, penetrating a child’s vagina or anus in any way with an object that doesn’t have a medical purpose.Non-touching – indecent exposure or exhibitionism, exposing children to pornographic material, deliberately exposing a child to any sexual act, masturbating in front of a child, takingSexual exploitation – engaging child or soliciting child for purposes of prostitution; using a child to film, photograph or model pornography
As adults – untreated - PTSD, Depression, Eating Disorders, self-mutilation, perpetration, nightmares, flashbacks, fear, phobias, guilt, low self-esteem, memory gaps or lossCognitive issues – learning, understanding, attendingRelationships – often leading to being in abusive or being abusive in relationshipsAll depends on relationship with abuser, if there is treatment, type of abuse, length of abuse, if there is also violence, etc.
Repetitive abusers 30% 10 children or more, 1/3 of perpetrators are adolescentsMajority are married or in relationshipsDon’t believe what they do is wrong – 50% say they don’t see any distress in victims
Elliot, Michele – child abuse and neglect, “sexual abuse prevention: what offenders tell usAccess – child alone, Playground – friends of parents, befriends child, babysits, etc.Looks – small, , Child was pretty or attractive in a specific way to the perpetrator – what they wear (doesn’t matter)Kids taught to do what adults say no matter what
Places – parks, schools, shoppingmals, arcades, beaches, swimming pools, etc.Approached when child asked innocent questionGiving gifts to victims and future victims
Misrepresenting abuse -
Don’t make them touch someone they don’t want to touch,, no mouth kissing
Including play areas where you can’t see your child at every moment
Special favors – babysitter lets you stay up late if you do “something for me”
Children should always set at end of table or between parents at family dinners, in movie theaters