Lessons Learnt By Living

AN EXCERPT FROM LESSONS LEARNT BY LIVING
Sanath Dasanayaka
All Rights Reserved
© 2016 by Sanath Dasanayaka
This document is copyrighted and protected by all applicable laws.
Reproduction of this document is strictly forbidden unless
permission is given by the author prior to reproduction.
8/31/2016 Lessons Learnt By Living by Sanath Dasanayaka 2

“Life is an amazing journey that should be really. Yet, most of
us forget fully living it, by being busy with our lives. Most of us
try harder to put bread on our table and to live better, by
ignoring the very best truth of life itself; enjoying and living it.
Many people rest on their deathbed, worrying of a half-lived
life and leave this world with broken heart. This shall not be
mine. So, life is all about the journey not about the
destination.”
-Sanath Dasanayaka

NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR
Dear reader,
This book is an account of my personal experiences and insights in my own mind. For years,
I have been exploring deep bottoms in my mind searching for the ways to have more love,
happiness and better relationships in my life. This is the result of my search for years.
As I believe, all of us are here, in this world, to gain more love, happiness and better
relationships in our life aren’t we? Right here, with these 30 simple ways, you will indeed
have more love, happiness and better relationships in your everyday life. You will follow one
simple way a day and have amazing results. You will feel more successful and
accomplished. Simply, you will transform your entire destiny with this ultimate guide.
Sanath Dasanayaka
10th June 2016
Colombo, Sri Lanka

TABLE OF CONTENTS
1. Get your moment
2. Love unconditionally
3. Live your day fully
4. Little things matter
5. Smile more
6. Relax for a while
7. The size of your tummy
8. Remember, everything changes
9. Let go of what is not ours
10. Be understanding
11. Don’t be afraid to say “sorry”
12. Stop holding it in your heart
13. Stop waiting, initiate now
14. Never stop improving
15. Dream big

16. Live your dreams everyday
17. Stop grieving and be ready for war
18. Be like nature
19. Hopes keep you alive
20. Completion does not matter
21. Remember lessons learnt
22. Who is your queen?
23. Have great kids
24. Do what you fear most
25. Brave men make brave decisions
26. The fruits of taking risks
27. Break the chains
28. Be a warrior
29. The story of a legend
30. When you look back

01. Get your moment
 Have you recently got a flash in your mind? an idea about something
amazing?
 As I believe, life, itself sends us guiding lights from time to time.
 Those guiding lights can change your entire life in no time. Instantly.
 Those, who act on their flashes immediately, become successful. Achieve
more in life.
 So, from today, when you get a flash, never ignore it.
 Take actions right away. It is your gold mine.

02. Love unconditionally
 I loved many women in my life. Yet, my love for any of them was not
unconditional. I loved all of them till they were with me.
 With the time, all of us become mature. I too did. And, I realized that the
love remains the entire world together.
 This world is a better place that we can happily live in, because many great
people sacrificed even their entire lifetime for healing our own world.
 So, love all unconditionally. Love your spouse, kids, parents, relatives,
friends, neighbors unconditionally. Be the difference. Be a real human.

03. Live your day fully
 The death of one of my good friends really made me think about our life
again. He had forgotten to live his life fully. So, he died with a half-lived life
and a broken heart.
 Life is not too long as we think. If you are 30 years old when reading this.
You have only 360 more months to live. Simply, you have only around
11,000 days.
 So, start living your days fully, since many days are together is a life.
 Then, what is the meaning of hatred and jealous? We all die sooner or later
and will be buried next to each other.
 So, start living your days fully right now.

04. Little things matter
 A little positive change in every day life makes a man’s destiny. A little
change in public opinion grows massive and outcasts the president of the
country.
 So, little things matter. Never underestimate the power of them.
 Then, do little good things every day. Kiss your wife, smile with the man
next to you. Give your mother a hand in the kitchen.
 All will love you and respect you.

05. Smile more
 Smile more.
 Most of us have forgotten the value of our smile with our busy lifestyle.
 Your smile empowers people and it makes them feel great feelings.
 Smile more with your spouse, kids and even with coworkers when you are
in office.
 indeed, practicing a great habit enriches your entire life.

06. Relax for a while
 Today is another nice day in June. I woke up earlier and started my writing.
 I was just restless to write something and my mind was heavy with the
thoughts about daily tasks.
 When I tried hard to control my feelings, thousands of thoughts came into my
mind as a massive torrent.
 It remind me of relaxing our body and mind for a while, every day. With our
daily routine, we don’t even have a few minutes to relax ourselves.
 So, stay calm and quiet for at least 5 minutes daily. You will heal your body,
mind and soul. You will be more energetic and appealing soon.

07. The size of your tummy
 Did you look at you tummy recently?
 The size of our tummy says how healthy we are.
 With our busy lifestyle, daily, we have food containing more fat and sugar.
 So, from today, make a little change in your lifestyle. Start eating more
vegetables, fruits, grains. Stop smoking and eating food with more sugar
and fat.
 In this way, you live longer happy.

08. Remember, everything changes
 Rome was legendary and fabulous. Her glory was everywhere. People
loved her. They thought that Rome would exist forever. Yet, today, Rome is
nothing, but the history ended a long ago.
 This reminds us the law of nature; everything changes. Nothing exists
forever.
 But, we have entirely forgotten this very true law.
 Today, one can be poor, broken and unhappy. But, does it mean he will
remain the same for his entire lifetime?

09. Let go of what is not ours
 We make bonds and relationships in our life and hold them firmly. Yet, what
happens when we make relationships with what is not ours, and grab those
relationships tightly? Feel desperate.
 Letting go of is different from giving up.
 Many years ago, one of my good friends loved a girl, who was pretty. Yet,
in values and attitudes, she was not meant to him.
 He grieved for her for months.
 Finally he realized she did not belong to him. Realized he deserved better.
Let go of her forever.

10. Be understanding
 Wise men love learning new things, reading new books and having new
experiences.
 Learning new things and having more experiences in life widen the
understanding of men about the life itself.
 Men, who are very understanding, shine at work, become great in family
life.
 So, try to become more understanding. Leave your old limiting beliefs
behind. You won’t imagine how good you will be at work, in your
relationships and in family life.
8/31/2016
Lessons Learnt By Living by Sanath
Dasanayaka
16

11. Don’t be afraid to say “sorry”
 All of us make mistakes. Faults. No reason to wonder.
 When something wrong was done by us, most of us feel terrified and ashamed. We
feel sorry.
 Yet, we become reluctant to say “sorry.” It is not coming out of our mouth. And, we let
it go unanswered.
 A fault that is taken apologize, is over. It is just the history. No more matter.
 when a fault is not apologized, it accumulates. You allow people to keep your faults in
their heart by letting go of it.
 Some are afraid to say “sorry” since they think; saying “sorry” will bring them down.
 It won’t. Saying “sorry” means you are humble enough to admit your faults.
 Finally, resolving faults is what real men do.

12. Stop holding it in your heart
 Hatred. All of us know the word. Most of do hate one or more in our life.
But, do you really know the worst effect it can do to a man?
 The most shocking effect of hatred is the termination of peace in mind of
the man, who hates.
 Hatred, itself caused two world wars, which can be shown as the ultimate
destroying impact on humans.
 Hatred among nations turned into great wars and ruined many countries.
 Remember, if you hate one man today, the whole world may be on fire
someday, because of your hatred.

13. Stop waiting, initiate now
 Many of us really love waiting for others to do something for us. It is very
human nature, which is so bad.
 we wait for the God to make this world better, we wait for the destiny to
make us rich and we wait for doctors to make us healthy.
 Yet, we are scared of initiating. We just pass our responsibility to others.
 We are here, in this world to initiate and innovate.
 So, from today, start initiating. If you had an argument with your wife, be
the first one to apologize. It won’t be bad for you. Your love will grow as
you ever imagined.
 Stop waiting for your destiny to make you rich. Take actions to make you
rich, wealthy and happy.

14. Never stop improving
 All of us excel at something in our life. Some become great sportsmen. Some
love adventures and they develop their hidden talents to be great explorers,
who will ever live here.
 All people, who are called to be successful, have been developing their hidden
set of talents constantly.
 You may be good at writing, but, to be a great author, you need to improve
your writing skills constantly. It will lead you to a prestigious path of being a
great author.
 Recognizing your hidden talents and walking on a particular path are just
different from going to school, getting good grades and obtaining a well-paid
job. It is not about selecting your career. It is all about crafting your future.
 Then, starting from today itself, invest some time to recognize and improve
hidden talents of you. The investment will be rewarding, when the time passes.

15. Dream big
 Dreaming inspires us to go on long journeys in our life. It makes us successful,
wealthy and healthy.
 In the history, there was no man achieved greatness without dreaming. Every
single man dreamt big and achieved big. Without a dream. There is no gain.
 As Napoleon Hill says, “All achievements, all earned riches, have their
beginning in an idea.” A dream. Brilliant point.
 Do you remember when we were kids, we dreamt so big without boundaries?
We loved it.
 We have forgotten to dream like kids, since we are so restless to grow up and
try hard to put bread on our table.
 When we are grown up, we are so afraid to dream big. Others say what we can
do, what we cannot. From today, we will decide on our capabilities, what we
can do and what we cannot. Dream big.

16. Live your dreams every day
 So, I believe that you have dreams in your life now. What is your dream
visualized for a long time? Yet, are you living your dreams in every day life?
 Out of noise, visualize your dreams for at least 5 minutes every day. You
will forget about every day chaos. Dreaming will inspire you to work much
and achieve more. It will energize you.
 Dream for a while every day. The ultimate pleasure of life is waiting for you.
8/31/2016
Dasanayaka
22

17. Stop grieving and be ready for war
 All of us were born here, in this world same, naked, and screaming for life.
 Some were born into families with good money, educated parents and
happy family life. Some were into families with poor and uneducated
parents, troubles in family life.
 So, what is the difference between successful and unsuccessful men?
Men, who become successful in many areas in life, believe in themselves
and their dreams.
 Yet, the unsuccessful ones do not dream at all. They limit their inner
potential concerning others’ opinions on their potential.
 The man, who is so eager for success, makes something stunning. No
matter how hard and disadvantageous the situation is. They do not grieve.
They starve for success.

18. Be like nature
 Block the way of a river. It just finds another way and keeps on flowing. Cut
a tree. It does not stop and grows constantly. Simply, nature does not give
up.
 Yet, what about us? Are we like nature? Some of us.
 Many of us cannot speak even a single word, when obstacles arise.
 Strong ones don’t let obstacles to get to them. They believe in the strength
of their capacity. They believe of their confidence.
 Some of us think one time defeat as the life-time defeat. They have just
forgotten that everything changes. Nothing can defeat you for a lifetime.
 If you were defeated in the past, look out for your second chance. It shall
be here waiting for you at this very moment.

19. Hopes keep you alive
 Centuries ago, in the time of great wars, many men went to battles but a few of
them returned home.
 How did they come home alive, when all others were dead? People amazed.
 At one time, a Great War battalion departed for a battle in a far continent.
Months later, only two soldiers returned home.
 When they were asked how survived, one said, “I was given hope. It was what
kept me alive. Hope to return home, see my kids and wife.”
 In your lifetime, you will certainly be in situations, where everything is
happening against you.
 When things are very harsh, just pat yourself on the chest and say to your
heart “Dear heart, just be patient. Everything is going to be all right.” It will
inspire you.

20. Completion does not matter
 “Stop hoping for a completion in anything in life,” says David Deida in his book, the
way of the superior man.
 Sometimes, we try hard to be completely good men. There are not men, called
completely good men. Humans are both good and bad.
 he point is to practice new good behaviors with time. There is no perfection.
 You don’t need to be complete in your life. No one is. Not even the most successful
men in the world.
 Try to be the best version of you in every faculty of your life, instead of trying to be
complete. Be the best version of you in your office. Be the best version of you when
you are with your spouse, kids and parents.
 Be the best of you when handling your finances and dealing with daily routine.

21. Remember lessons learnt
 I have heard a wise saying “Those, who have forgotten their past, make the
same mistakes done in the history.”
 Our past, itself is a great teacher.
 Some forget past after becoming successful in life. It is not guilty or wrong.
Past is not to be worried about. We should actually forget it.
 Yet, lessons learnt from the past should always be remembered. For a
better tomorrow, the lessons should not be forgotten.
 Just forget the past failures and mistakes in your life. They are not
supposed to distract your present or future life. Yet, more importantly,
remember the lessons learnt from them.
 Here, you will achieve more and feel happy.

22. Who is your queen?
 Once, a wise man said. “Choose your lady wisely, she represents you.”
 When a woman is chosen to be your wife she will be your beloved queen.
No one can get to her. You will always love her. Trust her. Protect her.
 She will be your reflection. She will always represent you. As ancient People
respect women, who behave better. They respect you too, since she is your
queen. You are the one, who should be proud of her behavior.
 you shall chose a woman, who admires you, knows your value, sees you as
her hero (I love this point), believes in you, comforts you, shares your
dreams, loves you so much.
 Finally, she is supposed to be with you, though thousands are coming
against you.
 So, who is your queen?

23. Have great kids
 Someday, all of us would get married. Sooner or later, we all will have kids.
 Fathers are bound to be a role model for their kids and to provide them great
examples about life.
 Kids learn from you. Keep those learnings in mind. Try to copy your behavior.
You, yourself have to set positive examples for kids.
 So, be a great father. Set up good examples. Show your kids how much you
love their mother. They will learn to respect women. Show them how to treat
others better. They will be remarkable in life.
 Tell your kids stories of bravery and sacrifice; they will indeed be warriors and
heroes. Tell them fairy tales. They will dream for life.
 As the great father of a great man, you will fell delighted and accomplished in
your life, since you made him, with your beloved great wife.

24. Do what you fear most
 Men, who love doing what they fear most, achieve more and become greater in life.
They are on the way to be successful in many situations.
 When you do what you fear most, you test your limits and let yourself to become the
next higher self of you.
 When the fear of actions weakens, the greater the satisfaction and self-esteem. You
will keep on doing what you fear most, since you have succeeded in the past.
 for the first time, how do you initiate against what you fear most? It is the inspiration
of inner thoughts of bravery and the need for dignity in your own soul.
 Just imagine, one thing that you fear most in life is swimming. You cannot get rid of
your fear from staying just out of the pool. Yet, you will face you fear by getting into
the pool and learning how to swim itself.
 Do one thing that you fear most in your life daily. Your next higher self will come to
you.

25. Brave men make brave decisions
 The legendary day in my life, the day, I made the most critical decision I have ever
taken for years. I remember the day; I decided to become a self-development author,
instead of becoming a well-paid employee in a big corporation.
 I still remember how I really felt that day. I little frustrated. Of course, a little scared.
No steady paycheck, no guarantee and no pension scheme.
 For all of us, there are situations that you cannot escape from making bold decisions.
They are so need with time. They shape our reality.
 Brave decisions we make today will decide how well we will live when we will have
grown old.
 Make some brave decisions today. Do not worry about the outcomes. Just decide.
Start writing the book you always wanted to write, start the business venture you
dreamt for a long time.
 Once you made the decision, do not turn back. Be the best version of you. Push
harder.

26. The fruits of taking risks
 Adaptation to a certain structure or system is known as the most
demolishing fact in the entire world.
 It hinders innovations, stops growth.
 People, who are adapted, are not simply willing to change the familiar,
because they are very comfortable with it.
 Innovators changed the way you eat, you work, you communicate, you
dress and you travel; everything. They changed your entire lifestyle.
 Great innovators endured even a greater risk, when making their dreams
possible. Without taking risks, there will be nothing.
 Today itself, start taking more risks wisely. Know your limits. Know where
you will stop taking risks. Think of your level of risks. You know it better
than anyone else.

27. Break the chains
 We all are destined to be great, if you believe it or not. It is the very truth I realized
from spiritual practices and learning for years.
 This world is chaos, noise and disturbing. Our surroundings don’t let us to calm
down and discover the truth of life.
 Yet, the noise of your surroundings is not an excuse for your inability to discover the
meaning of life.
 The one, who is greatly in the need of realizing very truth of life, unveils anything,
explorers his own mind, learns new things and discovers path to stay out of crowd
and noise.
 After schooling for almost 15 years, we find a job in an organization, get married,
acquire a home and grow a family. Pay mortgages, pay bills and finally live paycheck
to paycheck.
 We are here for a greater purpose. It is something more than just living, satisfying
our basic needs. So, find ways to break your chains.

28. Be a warrior
 This evening, I watched a great movie; 300. It was a very heart touching movie
inspired by true events.
 It was about warriors, who always stood still and guarded what mattered to them.
 Remember, there are not fearless men. Simply, they have suppressed their fears.
They do not let their fears to control their lives.
 Sooner or later, you will have your calling to be a warrior. It will come with choices; to
be a warrior or not to be. What will you chose?
 In our life, all of us have times to test our limits and stand on our own feet firm. It is
our time to be a real life warrior.
 Finally, after all, what is the purpose of living, if we do not stand for what is ours? No
reason to live anymore.

29. The story of a legend
 Hercules, son of Zeus, a myth we all know of. Hercules was the one, who stood for men
when the cruel Gods were fighting against mankind. A legend.
 Men remember legends. Respect legends. But, a few of them really become legends
and live forever in hearts of thousands.
 All of us have the capability to become a legend. Sound unbelievable? Not really. We
all have the potential to become a legend.
 Be the bravest man you know. Be the most humble man you know. Be the most
honest man you have ever seen.
 You will be the most charismatic man people will ever know, see, meet and speak
with.
 Make little positive changes in your life; how you walk, how you dress, how you speak
with others, how you think.
 Just believe in me for now. You are going to be a legend soon.

30. When you look back
 Many of us undoubtedly have had a harsh course in creating the life we wanted, a
better and happy life.
 Whether you are broken or incredibly successful, they are the results.
 As I truly believe, who you are today is not the consequences of bad happenings to
you. But, it is the result of how you interpreted them and reacted to those
happenings in such a way.
 Men, who have achieved more in life, are called to be great ones. They have indeed
sacrificed a lot and tested their limits against all odds.
 I believe, all of us should have a life story that we are able to recall proudly and tell
our kids “Son, this is how your father got here.” Amazing. No?
 So, think twice before do something today. Never do something that you will have to
regret and be ashamed of yourself, when you look back.
 Wish you for a great journey. A tale of victory. A tale of courage and success.

Thanks for taking your valuable time to read this book!
This is an excerpt of my new book.
If you are interested in my book, you can buy full Kindle version
on Amazon by clicking
HERE
You can post a short review there. It really makes a difference for
me.
Thanks again for your support!
8/31/2016
Dasanayaka
37

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sanath Dasanayaka is a Sri Lankan Personal Development Author
and a Leadership Expert. He is a management graduate from one of
the prestigious state universities in Sri Lanka. He loves reading, writing
and adventures. Sanath's writings are basically on goal setting,
leadership, higher purpose of life and ways of living better.
Check out my blog for latest updates: https://sanathdasanayaka.wordpress.com
Connect with me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theofficialsanathdasanayakapage
You can follow me on Twitter: @w_dasanayaka

Lessons Learnt By Living

Recomendados

Recomendados

Más contenido relacionado

La actualidad más candente

La actualidad más candente (14)

Destacado

Destacado (6)

Similar a Lessons Learnt By Living

Similar a Lessons Learnt By Living (20)

Más de Sanath Dasanayaka

Más de Sanath Dasanayaka (9)

Último

Último (20)

Lessons Learnt By Living