2. Wrong Way – Getting Angry
Bully insults a student (no cursing), trying
to upset them
Target becomes frustrated, slowly
becoming angrier and more upset
Bully thinks it’s funny that the Target is
getting so upset, and bullies them even
more!
Make sure you don’t laugh!
3. Right Way – Staying Calm
Bully insults a student (no cursing), trying to upset them
Target lets the Bully know in lots of ways that it’s okay
for them to call you names and that they can do it all day
if they want to
Target treats the Bully as if he/she were doing you a
favor by letting you know what’s wrong with you
Target responds with humor to an insult (if you think I’m
ugly, you should see my sister!)
When Bully stops insulting the student, Targets asks “are
you finished? Are you sure? If you want to do it some
more, I really don’t mind.”
5. Wrong Way – Getting Upset
Student comes up to you, telling you about
a rumor they heard about you
Target becomes more and more upset and
argues with him, insisting it’s not true
Wants to find out who started the rumor
Student who told you about the rumor
thinks it’s funny how you’re becoming
upset, and doesn’t give you a lot of
information
6. Right Way – Staying Calm
Student comes up to you, telling you about
a rumor they heard about you
Target asks “do you believe it?”
If he says “no,” say “good”
If he says “yes,” or “I don’t know,” say “you can
believe whatever you want.”
If he asks “but is it true?”
Repeat: “you can believe whatever you want.”
8. Wrong Way – Begging, Pleading
Student A tells Student B “if you are really
my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”
Student B responds with
“oh, please don’t make me choose.”
“it’s not fair! You can’t ask me not to be friends
with Kelly!”
“okay, I won’t be her friend.”
9. Right Way
Student A tells Student B “if you are really
my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”
Student B responds with
“I’ll always consider you my friend, but if you
can’t be my friend because of Kelly, I will
understand.”
