In order to change the world, we need to change ourselves. We need to be happy if we want others to be happy around us. Here are some ideas.

1. Thumb Rules for a Happy
Professional Life
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Providing Technical and Management Solutions
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Consulting Compliance
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4. The Ideal Work Life
Self Manager
Engaged
Control Enjoyable On-time
staff
High
Productive Rewarding On-budget
Quality
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7. Harold & Maude. 1971. Hal Ashby. Paramount Pictures
Maude: A lot of people enjoy being dead. But they are not dead, really. They're
just backing away from life. *Reach* out. Take a *chance*. Get *hurt* even. But
play as well as you can. Go team, go! Give me an L. Give me an I. Give me a V. Give
me an E. L-I-V-E. LIVE! Otherwise, you got nothing to talk about in the locker room.
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8. REFERENCE POINTS
Teach Like Your
Hair’s On Fire ~
Rafe Esquith
Good Business ~
Start with Why ~
Mihaly
Simon Sinek
Csikszentmihalyi
Rules of Thumb ~
Alan Webber
Work Smarter, The Confidence
Not Harder ~ Course ~ Walter
Jack Collis Anderson
The Rules of My Stroke of
Work ~ Richard Insight ~ Jill
Templar Bolte Taylor
“There is nothing new under the sun but there are lots of old things we
don't know.” Ambrose Bierce
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9. Open & Willing
Knowledge
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10. Open & Willing
Knowledge
Ideas
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11. Open & Willing
Knowledge
Ideas
Perspectives
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12. Open & Willing
Knowledge
Ideas
Perspectives Harold: Maude.
Maude: Hmm?
Harold: Do you pray?
Vocabulary Maude: Pray? No. I communicate.
Harold: With God?
Maude: With Life.
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13. Be Genuine
Victimus Infinitus
Put the Past in the Past
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14. Be Genuine
Put the Past in the Past
Build on your Strengths
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15. Be Genuine
Put the Past in the Past
Build on your Strengths
Accept yourself –
unconditionally
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16. Be Genuine
Put the Past in the Past
Build on your Strengths
Harold: This is real nice. Makes me
want to do somersaults.
Accept yourself – Maude: Well, why don't you?
unconditionally Harold: I'd feel stupid.
Maude: Harold, everyone has the right
to make an ass out of themselves.
Don’t allow others to You just can't let the world judge you
too much.
define your worth
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17. Manage Your Mind
Put what YOU WANT first
Help others help
themselves
Sacrifice / Deprivation
does not work
Only you can control your
Thoughts and Feelings
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18. Manage Your Mind
Ease the Pressure
Approach your work relaxed
Enjoy your work
Paradox of Perfection
Keep your perspective
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19. Guilt Worry Fear of Failure Anger
• “Feeling sorry for • “If you see ten • “Our doubts are • “If a small thing has
yourself, and your troubles coming traitors, and make us the power to make
present condition, is down the road, you lose the good we oft you angry, does that
not only a waste of can be sure that nine might win, by fearing not indicate
energy but the worst will run into the to attempt.” William something about
habit you could ditch before they Shakespeare your size?” Sydney J.
possibly have.” Dale reach you.” Calvin Harris
Carnegie Coolidge
Tools for Personal Effectiveness
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20. Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste
of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.” Dale Carnegie
Guilt Fix-it
• A bad case of ‘should haves’ • Recognize the past for that it is
• Most useless emotion of all • Practice feeling guilty – 15 minutes a day
• Conditioned as children by parents, • List all the things you are avoiding by
teachers, and religion feeling guilty and resolve to do
• Perfect excuse for inaction something about them
• Hold others responsible • Accept past mistakes and misfortunes –
• Winning approval or pity learn from them
• Put guilt wielders in their place
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21. “If you see ten troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that
nine will run into the ditch before they reach you.” Calvin Coolidge
Worry Fix-it
• Future oriented fantasies • List worry items from 5 -10 years back,
• Another excuse to be ineffective which one of those came to pass?
• It’s Hard Work! • List all the worst things that have
• Shows you care instead of enjoying the happened in your life – how many came
present – fake! as total shock?
• Easier than changing • List all the things could go wrong in the
next 24 hours
• Get loads of sympathy
• Confront it
• Replace worrying by planning
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22. “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft
might win, by fearing to attempt.” William Shakespeare
Fear of Failure Fix-it
• Short-term pay-off – easy way out • Meet the problem head-on
• Excuse for not attempting anything new • Set your own standards. It’s your choice.
• Provides you the luxury of becoming a • Evaluate by degrees of success, not 0-1
critic • Don’t have to achieve excellence in
• In life, it isn’t what you lose that counts, everything
it’s what you gain and what you have left • Recognize failure as a learning experience
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23. “If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that
not indicate something about your size?” Sydney J. Harris
Anger Fix-It
•“The world and its people must live up to my • Vent anger constructively
expectations” • Look at an opportunity to improve, thank it
•Has neurotic rewards, and excuse for incompetence • Take your work seriously, not yourself
•It’s their fault, therefore you don’t have to change • Develop a sense of humor
•Gets you loads of sympathy, attention, and power • Accept what the world is – a bit imperfect
over people who will let you manipulate them • Practice tolerance and serenity
•License to behave badly, exonerating you from the • Give yourself a rain-check
responsibility for unsatisfactory behavior
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24. “What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do
what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel
useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.” Julia Cameron
• Challenging
Career • Attainable
• Specific
Business
Personal
Goals • Measurable
• Compatible
Relationship
• Flexible
• Set Target Dates
Goal
Setting Use time
Manage
Mind and
Motivation
Social Recreational effectively
“How to”
plan
Personal
Material
Growth
It’s Your Life!
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25. More Personal Effectiveness Strategies
Organize your Improve Ability to Improve Follow-
Setting Priorities Improve Memory
Workspace Concentrate through
Problem Solving Effective Procrastination,
Time Inventory Not-to-Do List
Strategies Scheduling Overcome it!
Write Less,
Minimizing Read Better and
Effective Meetings Communicate Delegation
Interruptions Faster
more
Conflict Creating
Communication Personalities and How to Avoid Planning for How to Find New
Strategies How to Deal with Conflicts Change Opportunities
Them
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26. What’s a Full Life?
Fast Car
Intense Positive Emotion
Short Duration
Thrills Moment-by-Moment Memory
Zone / Flow
Purpose Pure Raw Pleasure
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27. What’s a Full Life?
No feelings - Calm, Serene
Thrills
Zone / Flow Time Stops
Purpose
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28. What’s a Full Life?
Thrills
Zone / Flow
Purpose
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29. "There is no end of your life until your last breath. We can all do
something to help someone."
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30. Mindfulness allows us to Savor the Pleasure
Meditation
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31. Mindfulness allows us to Savor the Pleasure
Meditation
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32. Thank You
Soma Bhadra
www.consult-proteus.com
soma@consult-proteus.com
(858) 353 2805