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1. ONLINE DATING
A few years ago I learned a major life lesson: The initiation of conversation is half the battle, so start
the conversation.
I didn’t learn this from Big Daddy, (God I miss the days when Adam Sandler was funny!),but instead
from a buddy of mine in college.
The concept was quite simple...
Add everyone who you had even walked by in college on Facebook. Then, before a night out, start
the conversation online! Our very own version of ‘Online Dating’- well except way more successful,
fun, and completely free. One of these online conversations would start something like the chat
below:
After this conversation was started online, we would approach that person with confidence that
night, knowing that all we had to do was pick up from where we left off.

2. The rest was history...
Okay, history is probably an over statement but this worked amazingly well for meeting new people,
firstly online, then importantly in real life.We had hit the preverbal college jackpot!We were opening
up our social circles with every night out and meeting really cool people in the process.
Lesson - Don’t spend a drunken night saying stupid stuff and getting ever drunker while trying to
dance close to a random girl. Prepare! – break the ice and start the conversation online! Once the
conversation has started, the rest is easy.
I would explain to other people about how easy this was, telling them that they need to start using
Facebook to meet new people but no one would believe me. That’s when it became almost like a
personal quest of mine to share this major life lesson - in order to make friends in a really effective
way you need to"start the conversation" - forget online dating - this is called social discovery!
Okay, so let me prove my point. The following are the bare facts that made this strategy so effective.
1. Face to face rejection:
Rejection is hard to take. People hate interviews for jobs and driving tests because these are
opportunities for rejection. There is only one thing worse than rejection - face to face rejection.
So, why in the pursuit of happiness, or the opposite sex, would you set yourself up for face to face
rejection time and time again? The beauty of this technique is that it almost completely eliminates
the chances of a face to face rejection as well as hugely increasing your chance of meeting someone
really cool. As Billy Joel famously said, “I really wish I was less of a thinking man and more of a fool
not afraid of rejection”. Well Billy, today is your lucky day.
2.
Time to think

3. You know that moment when you’re like -“WTF did I just say?” - Well chatting to someone for the
first time online means you get that little bit more time to think about the perfect thing to say. For
me, a notorious panic talker, this was huge and made an amazing difference in the quest to meet
new people.
So, as you can imagine, college was going great when the discovery of this life lesson was made. Yet
we quickly began to encounter problems, not with the life lesson, but with the system.
1. Being ‘That Guy’
After a while, when you have been using Facebook to meet new people a little too much, and have
added quite a lot of people that you don’t really know, you start to get the reputation of ‘that guy’
who adds everyone! This isn’t good, trust me!
2. Run Out Of People
Once number one has started to set in and you begin to become more aware of your ‘adding’
behaviour, the pool of people that you could meet, quickly diminishes.
3. What To Start With, It’s Such A Gamble
The ice breaking comments are similar to a roulette decision - there are a million conversations I
could start with this person but what will be the conversation that will make us click. The problem
being that you don’t know this person - coupled with number 4.
4. It’s All So Random
The major stick out problem has to be that all of this behaviour is completely random, there is no
rhyme or reason for adding this person and not adding that person. This means that the chances of
meeting someone meaningful starts to also diminish and in your quest to meet new people, you
either become too choosy or not choosy enough.

4. So, one amazing life lesson, but also one system that was not made for purpose. I now knew that I
needed to not only share this life lesson, I needed to create an environment in which it
blossomed.Hello Speeksy!Forget online dating, Speeksy is a platform for everyone, for everyday use,
in one of the most difficult things in the modern world, create new meaningful relationships.
Speeksy, a play on ‘speak easy’, is a social discovery platform that enables you to make meaningful
connections to people by starting the conversation online. It has all the benefits that I have
mentioned above as well as eliminating the weaknesses of using Facebook to meet new people.
Speeksy makes the connections between people based on their mutual friends, common interests,
and location. Speeksy takes all of this information from a ‘one click’ sign up process. In one click,
Speeksy usersare opening up their social circles and discovering new, meaningful people, in the most
efficient way. So join the conversation! Visit http://www.speeksy.com
In case I don't see you... good afternoon, good evening, and good night!
Yours,
Phily – Head of Preaching and Revolutions at Speeksy