2014 JUNE #BookCLUB summary of "Taking Back My Yesterdays: Lessons in Forgiving and Moving Forward With Your Life" by Linda H. Hollies @LoveLearningNOW
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3. Deborah Tinsley Taylor
Having been transformed she is surrounded
by a royal clan of queens
a colony of survivors
like a toddler she learns to crawl
then walk as she drops her buckets
She drops them down
only to pull up rivers of living water
4. When you stop crying for yourself and the
pain of yesterday, what will you do with that
Who will you be after you take back your
8. Define your fears of forgiving.
Name what you could do if your fears were
not part of your life.
Listen for your inner voice.
10. What needs to be done to bring closure to the
relationship that has caused you so much pain?
If the relationship was a pie, cut in eight pieces,
how many pieces are actual pain? How many
pieces from shame and humiliation? How many
pieces are your need and desire for revenge and
payback? How many pieces are your anger that
this was done to you?
Draw the pie. Look at your true feelings.
11. Who have you hurt in a similar
manner? What relationship did you
just drop without explanation? What
steps do you need to take as you face
your own actions?
12. What are my goals for next week’s gift of
What accomplishments do I celebrate this
Many instances and people have been
blessings to my life this week. What am I
especially grateful for?
15. How difficult it is to let go of the anger,
guilt, and hostility which builds within us.
“What did I do/not do that has caused others
to treat me in this way?” This question, in
many different forms, rises up to haunt us as
we live with our pain.
We must come to comprehend that life is not
fair! Folks don’t always make the best
choices for the outcomes of their lives or
18. Valarie J. Bridgeman Davis
The violence you used against me—
that whirlwind that wrecked my life—
well, I have learned to harness winds and
The violence, I have turned to my own
20. What are the unrealistic expectations you are
holding against the person you need to forgive?
What is the actual power struggle about between
your significant person and yourself?
What are some ways you can begin to give up
control of, yet still care about, the significant
person in your life?
When you release him or her with your
forgiveness, you will be free to change and you
allow that person to change also.
26. The question is not, “Have you ever been lost in
the wilderness?” The question is, “How did you
survive while you were in the wilderness?”
The wilderness is a place that each one of us will travel.
The wilderness is known to everyone.
The wilderness is a metaphor for indecisions, lack of
direction, unclear focus and generally being lost.
The wilderness is a call to:
29. Have you ever found yourself in a
predicament and wondered why it happened?
Ever find yourself overwhelmed by an
unexpected situation and wondered what you
did to deserve it?
Ever find yourself in a place where there
were few friendly faces and nobody even
cared to know your name? And you wonder
how you ended up in the middle of the mess?