2. “PARENTING STYLE CAN BE
A PRODUCT OF THE
PARTICULAR CULTURE OF
ITS TIME”
- Celia Aguila, 2003
“PARENTING STYLE CAN BE A
PRODUCT OF THE
PARTICULAR CULTURE OF ITS
TIME”
- Celia Aguila, 2003
3. In a traditional Filipino family...
Father- head and the
provider of the family
mother takes
responsibility of
the domestic needs
and in charge of
the emotional growt
h and values
formation of the
children.
4. Moreover...
• fathers being providers and “protectors” but having limited
purview in the daily lives of their children and mothers
taking on the tasks of childrearing, discipline, and
“managing the home” (De la Cruz et al., 2001; Licuanan,
1979; Liwag, De la Cruz, & Macapagal, 1998).
• mothers are indeed more nurturant and involved than
fathers; mothers are also perceived to be more powerful
than fathers in that they give the directives and organize
the child’s activities. Although children do not perceive
differences in punitiveness between their parents
(Carunungan-Robles, 1986),
5. They both perform different tasks and
being remarked separately by the children.
Children see their mothers soft and calm,
while they regard their fathers as strong
and the most eminent figure in the family.
7. Parenting Practices
Working for your education
Tough love and being spoiled – at the same
time
“You’ll take care of me when I get old!”
The “final word”
strong respect for elders
Yaya
Time of Worship
8. Love it or leave it, Pinoy parents will do practically
everything in their power to make sure their
children will have the best education they can
get.
Pinoy parents are, by nature, obsessed with making
sure their kids graduate. However, this can take
on many aspects, depending on the type of
parent you have.
Working for your education
9. Tough love -by nature, very strict.
being spoiled -very pampered lifestyle (depending on their
financial capability), but with the understanding that they
should also work hard to be worthy of it.
However polar those two ideas are, the fact is, both ideas rely on
one thing: the way that Pinoy parents treat their children seems
to revolve around a reward system for doing well. Even the most
permissive and liberal Pinoy parent will always have “something
else” or “something better” when their children do well
Tough love and being spoiled – at the same
time
10. Pinoy parents also inculcate the idea of the
young taking care of their elders not because
of self-preservation, but simply because it’s
the right thing to do.
“You’ll take care of me when I get old!”
11. “isang huling salita”
This simply means that at some point, once the
term has been invoked, the parent’s orders or
ruling on something is considered law.
parent’s word will remain LAW
The “final word”
12. • Children are taught from birth how to say “po”
and “opo” to teach them as early as possible on
how to properly respect their elders.
• These words are used to show respect to people
of older level.
• Even adults will be criticized for not using these
words when speaking with their parents or
people older than them.
• Inside the family, the parents are expected to
receive the highest respect from the children
along with the elder siblings
strong respect for elders
13. One of them is the practice of always having
the child be accompanied by an elder,
whether a relative, a trusted family friend, or
the traditional “yaya”; sense of closeness
cultivated at an early age is key to the Pinoy’s
strong interpersonal culture.
Yaya
14. • Filipino family is very well-known due to their
strong bond with their religion as they
practice praying and worshiping most of the
time.
• Members of the family are gathered together
to spend their Sabbath day and pray to God.
Time of Worship
16. PUNISHMENTS
• the most commonly used punishments were direct physical
assaults, with indirect physical assaults and verbal attacks
as secondary methods of punishment
• Punishments may vary depending on the child’s age.
• In particular, younger children, especially boys are more
likely to receive direct assaults, while older children,
especially girls are more likely to receive verbal abuse and
humiliation or less severe measures such as grounding.
• This physical punishment is more likely to be enforced by
parents, especially mothers.
17. • The use of slipper to punish the child for doing
wrong. It can also be hanger, belt or sticks.
This kind of discipline punishment is one of
the most common behavior management way
used in both rich and poor family.
“Tsinelas discipline”
18. Parents allow their adolescent sons to come
home late and skew the curfew, but require
them to do the physically heavy work at
home.
Parents tend to be stricter on the girls when it
comes to curfew, but apparently pamper
them with shopping and other treats.
CURFEW
19. Others:
Men, especially fathers and older brothers, are
still expected to fulfill their breadwinner roles.
• The traditional roles can also be challenged by
the fact that there are increasing numbers of
single-parent household. “There has also been an
increase in the alternative forms of parenting, like
same-sex partnerships where the child has two
‘daddies’ or two ‘mommies’
• authoritative parenting styles to be the most
commonly practiced among Filipino families
