The document discusses making better decisions and living life intentionally. It provides examples of some of the top 25 regrets people have, which fall into the realms of finances, relationships, and character. It advocates beginning with the end in mind, making choices now to avoid regrets later. The following weeks will focus on topics like how to make better decisions, get out of debt, build strong relationships and avoid traps like anger and unforgiveness.

1. 您的探索现在开始。

3. 我希望我知道 I wish I knew

4. 我希望我知道 I wish I knew
活出一个没有遗憾的人生，
活出一个有目的的人生
Living a life without REGRETS,
living a life with PURPOSE

5. Forbes Magazine (18 Aug, 2012)
“ 25 个人生最大的遗憾。而你的是什么呢？”

6. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:

7. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言
Learning another language

8. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言
Learning another language
• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去
Not asking that girl/boy out

9. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言
Learning another language
• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去
Not asking that girl/boy out
• 过于埋头于工作而牺牲了家庭和友谊
Working so much at the expense of family and
friendships

10. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what
others thought about me so much

11. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what
others thought about me so much
• 自信心不足
Not having enough confidence in myself

12. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what
others thought about me so much
• 自信心不足
Not having enough confidence in myself
• 依据父母的想法过生活而不是过自己想要
的生活
Living the life that my parents wanted me to live
instead of the one I wanted to

13. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游
Gone on more trips with the family/friends

14. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游
Gone on more trips with the family/friends
• 让我的婚姻破裂
Letting my marriage break down

15. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游
Gone on more trips with the family/friends
• 让我的婚姻破裂
Letting my marriage break down
• 让我的孩子做更多的事情
Taught my kids to do stuff more

16. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet
with a family member or old friend

17. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet
with a family member or old friend
• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the
wrong group of friends when I was younger

18. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet
with a family member or old friend
• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the
wrong group of friends when I was younger
• 弃了自己想要的工作而选择了务实的工作
Choosing the practical job over the one I really
wanted

19. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处
Spending more time with the kids

20. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处
Spending more time with the kids
• 当我还有机会时，没有好好照顾自己的健
康 Not taking care of my health when I had the
chance

21. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处
Spending more time with the kids
• 当我还有机会时，没有好好照顾自己的健
康 Not taking care of my health when I had the
chance
• 没有探望一位垂死的朋友
Not visiting a dying friend before he died

22. 25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子
Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 成为一位更好的爸爸或妈妈
Being a better father or mother

23. 3 个主要人生遗憾的领域
（从 20 ， 30 ， 40 到临终）
3 main realms of life regrets
(from 20, 30, 40… death bed)

24. 3 个主要人生遗憾的领域
（从 20 ， 30 ， 40 到临终）
3 main realms of life regrets
(from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance

25. 3 个主要人生遗憾的领域
（从 20 ， 30 ， 40 到临终）
3 main realms of life regrets
(from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance
• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships

26. 3 个主要人生遗憾的领域
（从 20 ， 30 ， 40 到临终）
3 main realms of life regrets
(from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance
• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships
• 品格的领域 The realm of Character

27. 在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应
对 When it comes to life, we tend to
approach it in few ways:

28. 在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应
对 When it comes to life, we tend to
approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction

29. 在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应
对 When it comes to life, we tend to
approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction
• 附和 Conformity

30. 在人生里，我们总是用以下方法来应
对 When it comes to life, we tend to
approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction
• 附和 Conformity
• 独立 Independence

31. 在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活
In this series, we want to approach life with
INTENTIONALITY:

32. 在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活
In this series, we want to approach life with
INTENTIONALITY:
• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始
In self help books = Begin with the end in mind

33. 在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活
In this series, we want to approach life with
INTENTIONALITY:
• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始
In self help books = Begin with the end in mind
• 在工程学里 = 逆向工程
In engineering = Reverse engineering

34. • 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端
In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is
better than its beginning”
在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活
In this series, we want to approach life with
INTENTIONALITY:

35. • 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端
In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is
better than its beginning”
在生活中，如何开始是其次但如何完成是关键
Truly in life, it’s not how you start but how you
finish.
在这一个系列，我们要有目的地的生活
In this series, we want to approach life with
INTENTIONALITY:

36. 有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

37. 有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living
• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应
该如何生活
Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and
determining how we should live NOW.

38. 有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living
• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应
该如何生活
Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and
determining how we should live NOW.
• 向前预期生命和回头活出生命
Anticipating life FORWARD and living it BACKWARD

39. • 为现在做出更好的决定，以免以后有更多
的遗憾
Making better decisions NOW and having fewer
regrets LATER.
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

40. • 为现在做出更好的决定，以免以后有更多
的遗憾
Making better decisions NOW and having fewer
regrets LATER.
• 忍受现在的不舒适和痛苦的改变，以便以
后可享受自由和奖励
Enduring uncomfortable or even painful changes
NOW and enjoying the freedom and the reward
LATER.
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

41. • 哈巴谷书 2:2
“ 耶和华回答我说：“把异象写下，清楚地
记在泥板上，使读的人容易明白。”
Habakkuk 2:2 (NKJV)
“Write the vision, And make it plain on tablets, That
he may run who reads it.”
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

42. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

43. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定
How to make better decisions
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

44. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定
How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

45. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定
How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
•如何获得财务利差
How to gain financial margin
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

46. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定
How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
•如何获得财务利差
How to gain financial margin
•如何拥有稳固的婚姻
How to have a strong marriage life
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

47. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活
How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

48. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活
How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
•如何避免愤怒
How to keep anger at bay
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

49. 接下来的几个星期，《我希望我知道》
Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活
How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
•如何避免愤怒
How to keep anger at bay
•如何避免无法饶恕的陷阱
How to avoid unforgiveness trap
有目的地的生活 Intentional
Living

50. 第一部：如何做出更好的决定
Part 1: How to make better decisions

51. 决定我们终点的，
是我们的决定，而不是我们的欲
望
Our Decisions, not our Desires
determine our Destinations.

52. 4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

53. 4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?

54. 4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:

55. 4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物？
Do I have a clear priority in life?

56. 4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物？
Do I have a clear priority in life?
– 我是否已搜寻了所有的事实 / 研究报告？
Do I gather all the facts / research thoroughly?

57. 1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否已听取各方？
Do I listen to all parties?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

58. 1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否已听取各方？
Do I listen to all parties?
– 我是否做了个冲动 / 情绪化的决定？
Do I make an impulsive / emotional decision?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

59. 1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性？ Do I
weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

60. 1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性？ Do I
weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?
– 我是否违反了任何道德 / 神的道德原则？ Do I
violate any clear moral / ethical principle of God?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

61. 1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事？
Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that
applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否做了个共同决定（夫妻）？
Do I make a together decision (for couples)
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

62. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

63. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

64. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel
• 爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人
People who love you / have best interest for you
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

65. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel
• 爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人
People who love you / have best interest for you
• 牵涉在问题或是参与在解决方案里的人
People who are part of the problem or part of the
solution
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

66. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•罗波安 （列王记上 12 ） - 拒绝了明智的忠
告，听取了错误的忠告
Rehoboam (1 King 12) – rejected wise counsel, listened
wrong counsel
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

67. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has
overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

68. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has
overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
– 箴言 12:15 愚妄人所行的，在自己眼中看為
正直，只有智慧人肯聽勸告。
Pro 12:15 - The way of fools seems right to them, but the
wise listen to advice
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

69. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has
overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
– 箴言 15:22 不經商議，計劃必定失敗；謀士眾
多，計劃就可成功
Pro 15:22 - Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many
advisers they succeed
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

70. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has
overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
– 箴言 11:14 沒有智謀，國家敗落；謀士眾多，
就能得勝。
Pro 11:14 - Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but
in an abundance of counselors there is safety
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

71. 2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告？
People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has
overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
– 这些大多数是由所罗门王写的：最有智慧的人
寻求明智的忠告
King Solomon wrote most of it – the wisest man seeks
wise counsel!
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

72. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

73. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定
For major decision in life:
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

74. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定
For major decision in life:
– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定
Never decide without seeking God
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

75. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定
For major decision in life:
– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定
Never decide without seeking God
– 别在不交托给神的情况下做决定
Never decide without submitting it to God
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

76. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•神知道最好的，神最爱我们
God knows best, God loves us most.
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

77. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•神知道最好的，神最爱我们
God knows best, God loves us most.
•罗得与亚伯兰（创世纪 13 ） - 罗得的决定
基于自然，亚伯兰的决定基于神。 Lot and
Abram (Gen 13) – Lot decided based on the natural,
Abram decided based on the divine.
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

78. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•箴言 16:3 當把你所作的交託耶和華，你的
計劃就必成功
Pro 16:3 - Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he
will establish your plans
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

79. 3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说？
Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•箴言 16:9 人心計劃自己的道路，他的腳步
卻由耶和華指引。
Proverbs 16:9 - In their hearts humans plan their
course, but the Lord establishes their steps
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

80. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

81. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
•我该如何反应？ 在下一步，我是否可相信上
帝 ? How can I respond to this? Can I trust God in the
next step?
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

82. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
•旧约： 大卫在每一场战争中都寻问耶和华
OT - David inquire of the Lord at every battle
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

83. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
•新约：保罗在圣灵的带领下改变已经决定好
的旅途
NT - Paul changes his planned journey as HS leads
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

84. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
•箴言 19:21 人心裡的謀算很多，唯有耶和華的計
劃能實現。
Pro 19:21 - Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the
Lord’s purpose that prevails
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

85. 4. 天意：神的介入 / 上帝的工作
Providence - the divine intervention / engineering
of God
•罗马书 8:28 我們知道，為了愛神的人，就是按他
旨意蒙召的人的益處，萬事都一同效力。
Rom 8:28 - 28 And we know that in all things God works for the
good of those who love him, who have been called according to
his purpose
4 个做出更好决定的指引
4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:

86. 决定我们终点的，
是我们的决定，而不是我们的欲
望
Our Decisions, not our Desires
determine our Destinations.

87. 反思 Take away reflections:

88. 反思 Take away reflections:
• 在过去，你是如何做决定的？
How did you make decisions in the past?

89. 反思 Take away reflections:
• 在过去，你是如何做决定的？
How did you make decisions in the past?
• 继续前行时，你会如何做出决定？
How are you going to make decisions moving forward?

90. 第一部：如何做出更好的决定
Part 1: How to make better decisions