Families & Friends of Murder Victims

1. July 2012 Birthdays & Memories

2. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV) Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support,
Newsletter July 2012 and friendship to persons who have
experienced the death of a loved one
Thank-you: through the violent act of murder
*Carol Anderson – Website
Share Sorrow…..
*Kaiser – Oakland
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta Share Strength
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church provide a pathway to well-being to those who
Grand Terrace have lost a loved one to murder and to those
Portola Community Center- Palm Desert who are victims of attempted murder.
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Love Gifts
Services/Victim Advocates Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation
*Family of Kris Flores made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday,
*Janet Garcia – facebook administrator anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because
*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for which are posted in newsletter. They are also
JULY 2012 made by caring professionals, organizations to
help in the work that FFMV does with
victims/survivors. These gifts help with the
FMV Newsletter is available via e-mail to expenses incurred in reaching out to others and
reduce mailing costs. operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love
To receive the newsletter and other Gift on check or envelope.
FFMV future events please send your e- Love Gifts can be mailed to
mail address to mail4ffmv@yahoo.com FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. -
and FFMV will e-mail you the newsletter 92423-1222
COLTON CHAPTER UPDATE
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish
There will be NO meeting Tuesday July 3rd
speaking (909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
We will resume Tuesday August 7, 2012
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803
(after 4pm)
*Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072
Grief Counselor
*Dawn Hall - (951) 757-4419 Inmate Locator, Department of Corrections
*Mary Stewart (951 698-5317) is now making it easier for people to locate
Emergency Consult for Suicidal or
prison inmates; it’s a free online search
Homicidal Participants:
* Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864 and is open to the general public.
* Ellie Rossi - 909-810-9133 http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov
Many we love have passed away too
Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims soon….without reason.
We remember them often in a
on thousand different ways….
In the morning…In the night…
Thank-you Janet Garcia- When we look at the stars….A date…
Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94 A song…A place…A smell
In Memory of all those who have left
us too soon…

3. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets on the 3 rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the
For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting
951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en
Next Meeting – July 18, 2012 Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las
7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com
Next Meeting July 12, 2012
st
1 Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group
Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
New Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to
Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions.
information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2 nd Wednesday of
Next Meeting – August 7, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave.
Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810
New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants)
6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
Portola Community Center Room 2
45-480 Portola Ave
(parking on Shadow Mountain) One Step at a Time
Palm Desert, CA 92260
760-568-2560- Call for directions Confront Sorrow,
Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com Express your Grief.
Candy- 691-200-0547
Candyclb@aol.com Face your fears and your ANGER.
Next meeting is July 18, 2012
Determine to live again.
Oakland Chapter
Accept the help of others.
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway, Make a start to put the stars back into
12th floor Room 1200 East your sky.
Contact Helene (510) 452-2553

4. Resources and Additional Support Services FFMV Fundraisers
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Cell Phones
Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino We ship your recycled phones, regardless
(909) 387-6540 of age or condition of the phone. This will be
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* Victorville/Desert
an ongoing fundraiser, so we encourage
area: (760) 243-8619
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim
year round participation.
Witness Centers: FFMV will receive between 50 cents and up
Riverside: (951) 955-5450 to $30 per cell phone.
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 * Contact Rita Marin at (909) 215-7063 or
Indio: (760) 863-8408 take your phone to your next chapter
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim Witness
Assistance Program offices:
meeting.
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts. Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office
www.wagv.org Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web site give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – 818-
get reward points that help defray the cost
378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com
* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928-4797
of printing, ink cartridges and office
www.crimevictimsunited.com or supplies.
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
PLEASE….Don ‘t throw away your old
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) VICTIMS ink cartridges! Continue to bring them to
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org us, or take them to Office Max, Staples or
* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999-7132 – Office Depot and give them 909-798-4803
562-508-2397
It’s an easy way to help
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
FFMV purchase office supplies.
* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN)
Foundation (916) 273-3603
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
I Never Got To...
* Resource for the Grieving and © Emilee Reynolds
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 I never got to give you a hug
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings held in before an angel took your hand
Orange County and gave you a tug
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com
* MADD – (909) 888-6233 www.maddsanbernardino.org I never got to give you a kiss
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457-0030 - before you made your final wish
jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities -
I never got to tell you I love you
S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
before you disappeared into the sky so blue
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* www.psychic4themissing.com
*Homicide Survivors Inc.
I never got to tell you Goodbye
todd.blumhorst@pcao.pima.gov before you got your wings and learned to fly
520.740.5729
all these things I wish I did whether by choice
Click on the links below or cut and past to or fate
your address bar, these are short clips of I was too late...
our VRW Memorial…Thanks Chris
http://youtu.be/9c_2GFYfGYU
and
http://youtu.be/YyiueOx_79I

5. July Birthdays
Aaron Luis Angulo
Angela Lynn Merth
Bella Villapando
Brian Douglas Kischell
Bryan O’Meara
Carlos Angelo Centino
Clasten Jr. Vaughn
Daniel Perez Jr.
David Allen Parrish
Devon Michael Williams
Elmer Benson
Frankie Cayetano
Josslyn Dinso-Brooks
Laura Sanchez
Mauro Valle
Michael Reed Jr.
Miranda Daly
Norma Gates
Paul Griego
Raymond Moreno
Rebecca R. Andrews
Ryan Blakeslee
Scott Campbell
Thomas Charles Pagent Jr.
Victor Bernard White Jr.

6. July Memories
Chelsea Buckley
Daniel Svoboda
David Charles Nystrom
Dillon Ray Keyes
Dominic Ortega
Don J. Burt
Elsie Redmond
Frank Salinas
Greselda Gonzalez
Jerald Eugene Svec
Joshua Chambers
Joyce Nelson
Kristhopher Flores
Manuel Rodriguez
Michael Alexander Corrales
Michael Hernandez
Michele Lynette Baily
Otillia Burton
Paul Griego
Roberto “Junior” Grijalva
Roghie (Ruhie) Ebrahimpour
TimothyGaines
Tom Meyers
Victoria Lee Castro
“Gone But Not Forgotten”

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Elmer Benson Kris Flores
7/08/1916 – 2/11/96 10/10/77 – 7/24/96
Still Unsolved
---------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________

8. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's
Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is
geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family.
Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino
Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help
them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so
successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held
annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose
lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well
as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns
from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim
Advocates donate their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities,
presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how
you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really
over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be
the same person who walked in.
That’s what this storm’s all about.”
-Haruki Murakami
By Memories of the Souls (album_

9. “We Come To Share Our Story”
A Day of Reflection and Healing for People who
have lost a loved one to murder.
When: Saturday, Sept. 15, 2012
RSVP by August 30th.
To the Office of Restorative Justice (909) 475-5474 or by completing the form below.
Spaces are limited.
Where: St. Andrew's Abbey in peaceful, beautiful and scenic Valyermo
31001 N Valyermo Rd.
Valyermo, CA 93563
(661) 944-2178 or www.saintandrewsabby.com
Registration: 8:00am - 8:30am
Reflection Day: 8:30am until 7:00pm
Cost: $25.00 per person
(includes continental breakfast, lunch and dinner)
Bring photo and/or memento of your loved one
This reflection day will be in English.
For More Info: Contact Sister Sue Reif at 909-475-5474 (office) or sreif@sbdiocese.org
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Registration Form:
Name:_________________________________________________________________
MailingAddress:_________________________________________________________
Email Address:_________________________________________________________
Home phone:__________________________________________________________
Cell phone:____________________________________________________________
Checks can be made out to "Diocese of San Bernardino." Please mail form and payment to:
Office of Restorative Justice, 1201 E. Highland Avenue, San Bernardino, CA 92404

10. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service
I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and
senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and
information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know
personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank
will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The
paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:
Hi Rose,
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested
can contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd
Pasadena, CA 91106
626-578-6300 ext.4478
frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one:
Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder,
Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?,
Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered.
I’m working on August memory board, so send me your loved ones picture.
Thoughtfully
Rose
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of
attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance
provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions
regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box
11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to
909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal
Revenue Service.
The Organization depends largely upon private donations to cover operational
expenses, but also seeks some funding. Tax ID #68-0299211
All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
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11. 2012 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name_________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code ______________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ donation for 2012
Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2012 donation

12. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and Congressman
Howard Berman as the Ranking Member.Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail won't be stalled thru radiation there as it is in
DC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee
2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor or
Co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.com
On the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)
On Twitter: @killed_in_china
In U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050