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1. Working with Parents
Class 1 CDA 103 B

2. Relationship with Parents begins
before Birth

3. Our first
human
connections
lay the
foundation
for all
future
relationships

4. Erikson’s 1 Development Task
st
• Trust versus Mistrust
• Feeding and Comfort Behaviors
– Key to development of trust
– Infants trust when they come to
expect their needs will be met
– Balance needed between trust in the
caregiver & a healthy sense of
mistrust necessary for self-
protection
– Cultural differences exist in feeding
and comforting practices

5. Forms of Attachment
Securely Attached
Insecurely attached
 Avoidant
 Resistant
Consistent Across Cultures

6. Parenting Practices Produce
Attachment
• Securely attached: regulate emotions,
show empathy & ability to modulate
and direct emotion
• Insecurely attached: respond
abnormally to other children’s distress,
to stranger’s and care takers

7. View Video Clip on Bowlby’s
Attachment Theory
http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwxjfuPlArY&feat

8. Journal 1: Please
Respond
a. What is attachment theory?
c. What is its purpose of the stranger
test?

9. Journal 2: Apply
a. What can happen when there is
serious disruption in the early
relationships between parent and
child?
c. How can we help parents build secure
relationships with their children?

11. Play
Builds
Strong
Family
Bonds

12. Kinds of Play
• Dramatic Play & Modeling
– Imitation of behavior patterns
– Interaction using imagination and
fantasy
– Playing house, fire fighter, super hero
• Games & Rituals
– Contributes to learning about rules
– Experience cause & effect &
consequences
– Duck, Duck, Goose to Soccer

13. Constructive Play
• Helps child
– Explore the physical environment
– Test scientific problem-solving ability
– Negotiate use of shared materials,
space & tools
– Complete projects with observable
results

14. © Allyn & Bacon 2007

15. Active Physical Play
–Helps child develop muscle
strength, coordination, control
and agility
• Rough-and-tumble play
–Look for a “play face” when
attempting to figure out if
child is playing or fighting

16. Imaginative Play
• Helps child
– Explore and rehearse social roles he/
she has seen
– Test ability to negotiate with others
– Regulate emotions through
imagination
– Examine personal concerns in
nonthreatening way

17. © Allyn & Bacon 2007

18. Functional Play
• Helps child
– Develop needed everyday life skills
– Learn & rehearse social roles and
cooperative routines
– Set and achieve manageable goals
– Develop competence in family &
society

20. Journal 3:
 How do fathers & mothers play
differently with their children?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JP
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axb

21. Baumrind’s 4 Dimensions of
Parenting
• Expression of warmth or
nurturance
• Strategies for discipline
• Quality of communication
• Expectations for maturity

23. .
Baumrind’s 3 Styles of
Parenting
• Authoritarian—high expectations with
low nurturance
– children conscientious, obedient, and
quiet—but not happy
• Permissive—little control, but nurturing
– children lack self-control & not
happy

24. 3. Authoritative – Parents provide
limits, guidance and model compromise
With this approach, children are
most likely to be
successful,
articulate,
intelligent &
happy

25. Parenting Styles
Style Control Warmth Discipline
Authoritarian High Low Strict Rules
Authoritative High High Discussion
Permissive Low High Rare
Neglect Low Low Absent

26. Recent Studies
• Link between parenting styles and child
behavior is more complex
– Impact of child’s temperament
– Influence of community & cultural views
on child’s perception of parenting
– Positive examples of authoritarian
parenting in urban families
• Produce high-achieving, emotionally
regulated children
• Strict and warm can be successful

27. Journal 4:
 What are your views on
parenting?
 As a teacher, how can you
influence positive parenting
practices?

28. Techniques of Discipline
• In deciding which technique to apply,
parents should ask:
– How does a technique relate to my child?
– Child’s temperament/age/perceptions
• Culture is a strong influence
– Expectations
– Offenses
– Punishments

29. What About Spanking?
• Reasons for parenting variations:
culture, religion, ethnicity,
parents’ upbringing
• Developmentalists caution children
who are physically punished tend to
be more aggressive
• Domestic violence of any kind can
increase aggression between peers
and within families

30. Journal 5:
•In United States, is time-out a
Developmentally Appropriate
Practice?
•What are alternatives?

31. What is the purpose of guidance?

32. The purpose of guidance is
Self Control

33. What is self control?
Self Control is
becoming the master of myself!

34. Why is guidance positive?

35. Positive Guidance
• We are modeling what we want the
children to learn to do
– Restrain our first inclination
– Use quiet voices
– Look for a solution that helps
everybody
• If we model disrespect, the children will
be disrespectful

36. How do we help children
change their behaviors?

37. Changing Behaviors
1. Identify the child’s need being
expressed by the behavior
2. Help a child notice the problem
behavior that needs to stop
3. Then help the child to identify the
behavior that will replace the problem
behavior and will meet the same need
4. Practice the replacement behavior

38. Self-Regulating Learners
Journal 6:
•What helps children become
self-regulating learners
•What do self regulating learners
look like?

39. Self-Regulating Learners
• Know themselves – strengths-
interests- distractions
• Know and apply successful learning
strategies
• Recognize & differentiate contexts
adjusting their behavior accordingly
• Manage their own volition to reach
their own goals

40. Emotional Regulation
• 1st we learn awareness of own
emotions; this is called
Emotional Literacy how to the
interpret and express emotions
• Next we apply that Emotional
Literacy to become aware of the
emotional response of others

41. The Challenge of Media
• Television & video games offer a
dilemma for parents
– Parents find video a good babysitter
– Parents believe video can sometimes
be an educational tool
• Research suggests turning off the TV
to avoid exposing children to video
violence as it results in human violence

42. Thomas and Chess:
Temperament
• Temperament is the
inborn/characteristic way a person
reacts to the world.
• Three temperament styles:
– Easy: 40% of children
– Difficult: 10% of children
– Slow-to-warm-up: 15% of children
– Other (combination) : 35%
Understanding Human Development by
Craig/Dunn © 2007 Pearson Education

44. Rothbart
• Temperament style may change
through interactions with family &
other caregivers.
• “Fit” of parent & child
temperaments
– determinant of infant-caregiver
interaction
– determinant of child adjustment

46. Recall Erikson’s Model for
building successful human
relationships