Self confidence is a belief in yourself, your abilities, and mental attitude of trusting or relying on yourself. Confidence is learned, not inherited... let Marvin Himel walk you through tips and advice to learn self confidence to change your life.

1. The most important piece of the puzzle!
"Without self-confidence we are as babes in the cradle"
-Virginia Woolf

2. You can please some of the
people some of the time…
But you can’t please all of the
people all of the time.

3. What is Self Confidence?
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Self confidence is a
belief in yourself
and your abilities.
A mental attitude of
trusting or relying
on yourself.
Freedom from
doubt.

4. Where does self confidence
come from?
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Confidence is learned,
not inherited.
So if you lack
confidence, it probably
means that you were
criticized or undermined
as a child.
Don‘t panic – this lack
of confidence isn‘t
permanent; you can
still change.

5. Self-confidence is an attitude
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Allows individuals to
have positive yet
realistic views of
themselves and
their situations.
Trust their own
abilities
Have a general
sense of control in
their lives

6. Confidence should be based
on observed reality.
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It should be based on
the achievement of
performance goals.
You should be
confident that you will
perform up to your
current abilities.
Good self-confidence
comes from a realistic
expectation of success
based on well practiced
skills. ,

7. Goal setting is one way to
build self-confidence.
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Set measurable
goals and achieve
them.
Prove to yourself
that you are able to
perform and achieve
effectively.
Feel real self-worth
in your
achievement.

8. Feel Good when you Want
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Recognize when you
need to boost your
self confidence
Find 3 things that
make you feel good.
These can be
memories of good
times, a piece of
music, or a person's
face - use photos if
it helps.

9. I see myself falling flat on my
face – and then I do
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If you think you‘re a
failure, you‘ll fail.
Confident people
think themselves
successful and they
find success.
They literally run a
kind of internal
‗home movie‘ where
they are doing well.

10. Emphasize Strengths
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Give yourself credit for
everything you try.
By focusing on what
you can do, you
applaud yourself for
efforts.
Starting from what you
should do helps you live
within the bounds of
your inevitable
limitations.

11. Take Risks
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Approach new
experiences as
opportunities to learn
rather than occasions
to win or lose.
Doing so opens you up
to new possibilities.
Not doing so turns
every possibility into an
opportunity for failure,
and inhibits personal
growth.

12. Self-Evaluate
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Learn to evaluate
yourself independently.
Focusing internally on
how you feel about
your own behavior,
work, etc. will give you
a stronger sense of self.
Will prevent you from
giving your personal
power away to others.

13. Free yourself from "shoulds"
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Live your life on the basis
of what is possible for you
and what feels right to
you.
Instead of what you or
others think you "should"
do.
Find out what you want
and what you are good at,
value those, and take
actions designed to fulfill
your potential.

14. Experience success
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Seek out and put
yourself in situations
in which the
probability of success
is high.
Look for projects
which stretch — but
don't overwhelm —
your abilities.
Whatever you
accomplish, let
yourself experience
success and good
feelings about it.

15. Make decisions
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Practice making and
implementing positive
decisions.
Practice flexibility and
trust yourself to deal
with the
consequences.
When you assert
yourself, you enhance
your sense of
yourself, learn more,
and increase your
self-confidence.

16. Rely on your own opinion of
yourself
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Entertain feedback
from others, but
don't rely on their
opinions.
Depend on your
own values in
making decisions.
Decide how you
feel about yourself
and what is right
for you to do.

17. Spend Time Each Day With
Confident People
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Their energy and inner
strength is so inspiring
that you will find
yourself feeling more
empowered just by
listening to them talk.
And you can get tips
from them.
Even one good idea
could point you in a
whole new direction
you would not have
otherwise considered.

18. Find A Mentor
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Nearly all successful
people have a mentor.
You too need someone
who has already done
what you are working
to achieve who is
willing to advise you.
This person will help
you to succeed even
more quickly than you
can imagine.

19. Preparation Makes Perfect
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Have you ever watched
a top sportsperson in
action and wondered to
yourself at how easy
they make it look?
How did these
superstars get to the
top?
Practice, practice and
more practice.

20. Self Comparison Is Key
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Compare your progress
in life with your
previous results.
Look to the success of
others to learn and not
to measure your own
success.
When you put your
focus on the daily
improvement of your
own skills and abilities
you can and will grow
very quickly.

21. Know your worth
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Maintain an awareness
of all that you do for the
world.
Take a minute each
day to remind yourself - or write down -- what
you've accomplished.
Realize what you are
capable of doing and
you will feel stronger.

22. Keep up with the world
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Follow the news and do
your best to know a
little bit about
everything.
Learn something new
every day, and make a
point of having an
opinion on current
events.
This way, you won't
feel out of touch
anywhere you go.

23. Take confident action
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You wanted
confidence to help
you try and succeed
in new ways, right?
So get out there
and get at it!
You have to put
your confidence to
the test.

24. Challenges
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Ask ―What have I
accomplished that I
can give myself
credit for?‖
Are you relying on
your opinion of
yourself?
What ―shoulds‖ can
you free yourself
from?