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7 Habits of Highly effective People
Original Book by: Stephen Covey
Presented by: Afzal Khan

Disclosure
• Based on a book by the same name
• Author: Stephen Covey
• Published 1989
• Many ideas taken from the web

Personality Ethic
• The success literature of the last half of the 20th century
largely attributed success to personality traits, skills,
techniques, maintaining a positive attitude, etc. This
philosophy can be referred to as the Personality Ethic.
•‫القرن‬ ‫من‬ ‫األخير‬ ‫النصف‬ ‫من‬ ‫كتاب‬ ‫أنجح‬20‫إلى‬ ‫نجاح‬ ‫كبير‬ ‫حد‬ ‫إلى‬ ‫يعزى‬
‫إيجاب‬ ‫موقف‬ ‫على‬ ‫والحفاظ‬ ،‫والتقنيات‬ ‫والمهارات‬ ‫الشخصية‬ ‫السمات‬‫وما‬ ،‫ي‬
‫األخالق‬ ‫شخصية‬ ‫باسم‬ ‫إليها‬ ‫يشار‬ ‫أن‬ ‫يمكن‬ ‫الفلسفة‬ ‫هذه‬ ‫ذلك‬ ‫إلى‬.

Character Ethic
• However, during the 150 years or so that preceded that
period, the literature on success was character oriented.
It emphasized the deeper principles and foundations of
success. This philosophy is known as the Character
Ethic, under which success is attributed more to such
characteristics as integrity, courage, justice, patience, etc.
•‫وخالل‬ ،‫ذلك‬ ‫ومع‬150‫واأل‬ ،‫الفترة‬ ‫تلك‬ ‫سبقت‬ ‫التي‬ ‫ذلك‬ ‫نحو‬ ‫أو‬ ‫سنة‬‫دب‬
‫المنحى‬ ‫والطابع‬ ‫النجاح‬ ‫على‬.‫أعمق‬ ‫النجاح‬ ‫وأسس‬ ‫مبادئ‬ ‫على‬ ‫وشدد‬.
‫ويع‬ ‫بموجبها‬ ‫والتي‬ ،‫األخالق‬ ‫شخصية‬ ‫بأنها‬ ‫الفلسفة‬ ‫هذه‬ ‫وتعرف‬‫نجاح‬ ‫زى‬
‫الخ‬ ،‫والصبر‬ ‫والعدل‬ ‫والشجاعة‬ ‫النزاهة‬ ‫مثل‬ ‫الخصائص‬ ‫من‬ ‫أكثر‬

Character Ethic: primary traits
• Personality Ethic are
secondary.
• Secondary traits may help one
to play the game to succeed in
specific circumstances
• Long term success requires
both
• Ralph Waldo Emerson: "What
you are shouts so loudly in my
ears I cannot hear what you
say."
•‫شخصية‬‫األخالق‬‫والثانوي‬.
•‫الصفات‬‫الثانوية‬‫قد‬‫تساعد‬‫واحد‬‫ل‬‫لعب‬
‫اللعبة‬‫لتحقيق‬‫النجاح‬‫في‬‫ظروف‬
‫معينة‬
•‫يتطلب‬‫النجاح‬‫على‬‫المدى‬‫البعيد‬‫على‬
‫حد‬‫سواء‬
•‫رالف‬‫والدو‬‫إمرسون‬: "‫ما‬‫كنت‬
‫هتافات‬‫بصوت‬‫عال‬‫في‬‫أذني‬‫ال‬
‫أستطيع‬‫سماع‬‫ما‬‫تقوله‬."

The Character Ethic
• Absolute principles that exist in
all human beings.
• Examples of such principles are
fairness, honesty, integrity,
human dignity, quality, potential,
and growth.
• Principles contrast with practices
that are for specific situations
whereas principles have universal
application.
•‫المبادئ‬‫المطلقة‬‫التي‬‫توجد‬‫في‬‫ج‬‫ميع‬
‫البشر‬.
•‫ومن‬‫األمثلة‬‫على‬‫هذه‬‫المبادئ‬‫هي‬
‫العدل‬‫واألمانة‬‫والنزاهة‬‫والكرامة‬
‫اإلنسانية‬،‫والجودة‬،‫وإمكانات‬،
‫والنمو‬.
•‫مبادئ‬‫تتناقض‬‫مع‬‫الممارسات‬‫التي‬
‫هي‬‫لحاالت‬‫محددة‬‫في‬‫حين‬‫مبادئ‬‫لها‬
‫أغراض‬‫عامة‬.

The Seven Habits Move us
through Stages
• Dependence: the paradigm
under which we are born,
relying upon others to take
care of us.
• Independence: the paradigm
under which we make our
decisions and take care of
ourselves.
• Interdependence: the paradigm
under which we cooperate to
achieve something that cannot
be achieved independently.
•‫االعتماد‬:‫نموذج‬‫بموجبها‬‫نولد‬،
‫واالعتماد‬‫على‬‫اآلخرين‬‫لرعاية‬‫لن‬‫ا‬.
•‫االستقالل‬:‫بهذا‬‫النموذج‬‫نجعل‬
‫قراراتنا‬‫ونعتني‬‫بأنفسنا‬.
•‫االعتماد‬‫المتبادل‬:‫بهذا‬‫النموذج‬
‫ن‬‫تعاون‬‫لتحقيق‬‫ما‬‫ال‬‫يمكن‬‫تحق‬‫يقه‬
‫بشكل‬‫مستقل‬.

Habit #1
Be Proactive
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

What happens to a bottle of
soda when you shake it up?
It EXPLODES!
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Sometimes things go wrong,
and we feel shaken up. As
a result, we might
EXPLODE on someone or
something. This is called
being REACTIVE. Has this
ever happened to you?
Explain what happened and
why. Was this a good way
to let go of all of your
feelings? Why or why not?
Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
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you make a choice about
how you react to the things
that happen in your life.
You act like a water bottle.
You might get shaken up or
mad, but you stay calm and
don’t explode!
When you are PROACTIVE,
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Is it hard to stay calm
(like a water bottle) even
when things don’t go your
way?
Why or why not?
What steps could you take to
be more PROACTIVE and
calm when things aren’t
going well?
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Proactive vs. Reactive
When you are REACTIVE, you
could explode at any minute.
Things happen and they “catch
you off guard”. You aren’t
ready for things that might
happen. You deal with things
when they happen instead of
being prepared.
When you are PROACTIVE,
you make good choices about
how you respond to something
happening. You are always
ready with a calm attitude.
You do things to make sure
that the right things will
happen. You are prepared for
anything that might happen.
When things don’t go your
way, you aren’t happy, BUT you
stay calm.
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How do you feel on days like
this?
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What about sunny days like
this?
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If you could “carry the
weather with you”….
you could have a
good day no matter
what comes your way.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Do you think it is possible
to carry your weather with
you? What do you think
this means? How would
your life be different if you
could carry happiness or
peace with you no matter
what things happen?
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circle
of
influence
circle of
concern
Focus on things you can
change or influence
Circle of Influence
Things you can’t
control
Things you can
control or change
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Things you CAN’T
control or change:
•Other people
•The weather
•Things you did wrong in the
past
•How other people treat me
•Homework
Circle of Influence
Things you CAN
control or change:
•Your attitude
•Your mood
•Your reaction to good and
bad things that happen
•How I treat other people
Can you think of other
examples from your life?
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Be Proactive
• Change how you handle things. Make a choice to be
positive and focus on those things that YOU can
change.
• Make a positive difference in your family, your business,
your community and the world!
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Where do you fall?
Very
Reactive
Very
Proactive
How could you be
more proactive?
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Habit #2
Begin with the
End in Mind
Based on the work Stephen Covey

I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that
have meaning and make a difference. I am an
important part of my business. I look for ways
to be a good citizen.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
What is “the end” for
you? What do you
hope to be doing ten
years from now?
Twenty? Make a list of
things you want to do
in your life.
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Draw a picture of
something that represents
you. It could be an
animal, plant, machine, a
food, etc. Explain why
you chose what you did.
Before you figure out the “end”,
you have to take a look at who
YOU are!
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In ten years a newspaper decides to do a
story about YOU! They interview four
people about you. These could be friends,
colleagues or family. What would you want
them to say about you?
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Mission Statement, Part 1:
Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write
words that describe you.
YOU
Artistic Athletic
KindReader
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Mission Statement, Part 2:
Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be.
Make a list.
I want to be a:
1.Hard worker
2.Good student
3.Kind person
4.Talented artist
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Mission Statement, Part 3:
Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a
sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be. Here
are some example:
My mission is to:
•Laugh a lot
•Learn as much I can
•Work hard at home, work and in my sports
•Be kind to others
•Take good care of myself.
•To get better at my art.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
How does saying
“no” sometimes
help you with
“beginning with the
end in mind”?
What things do you
have to say no to?
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Finish these sentences:
~If my future had no limits, I
would choose to be…..
~I want to be a person who…
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How good are you at beginning
with the end in mind?
I always keep
the end in mind.
I only think
about today.
Why did you rate
yourself this way?
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Habit #3
Put First
Things First
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

I spend my time on things that are most
important. This means I say no to things I
should not do. I set priorities, make a
schedule, and follow my plan.
I am organized.
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Going for Your
Goals
At Home Goals At Office Goals
Set two or three goals for
at home and for at
school.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Sometimes not being brave
gets in the way of doing things
that are important to you.
Putting first things first might
means putting aside your fears
to reach your goal. Has fear
ever kept you from doing
something great or important?
Explain.
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Big Things and Little Things:
Putting first things first means planning your time around the most
important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to the little
things that take your time.
Big, Important Things
That Take Your Time
Small Things, Less Important
Things That Take Your Time
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Brainstorm some things
that you do that wastes a
lot of your time.
Sometimes these things
are fun and relaxing. If
you do them too much
though, they may get in
the way of the important
things.
Time Wasters:
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Write out your regular
schedule for a full
day, from start to
finish. Is it
organized? Do you
waste time, or put
first things first?
Organizing Your Days
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Making it Happen
Now choose one goal for home, and one goal for work. Write
your goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you
can do to help you achieve those goals.
Memorize my
multiplication
facts
Play x
games
Make
Flash
Cards
Practice
in the
car…
Have
somebody
quiz me
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Where do you fall?
I always put
first things
first!
I never to set goals
or put first things
first.
How could you be better at
putting first things first?
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Habit #4
Think Win-Win
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Is this picture a good
one for
Think Win-Win?
Why or why not? If so,
defend your answer. If
not, design a better one
and explain your
thinking.
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I want everyone to be a success. I don’t
have to put others down to get what I
want. It makes me happy to see other
people happy. I like to do nice things for
others. When a conflict arrives, I help
brainstorm a solution.
We all can win!
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Think Win-Win Road Blocks
•I’ll step on you to get ahead.
•I am a loser. I can’t do anything.
•At least I am better than her/him.
•I’ll let someone else win again.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Have you ever “stepped
on” somebody else to
win? Have you pushed
someone aside so you
could get something
good? How does this
feel? Give an example.
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Do you always let other people
win? Do you not raise your
hand to answer a question
because you know somebody
will answer? Do you let people
jump in front of you? Do you
let people treat you poorly? (If
so, you are not practicing
Think Win-Win.) Describe a
time when you let people
“step on you” to win.
Human Doormat:
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How To Think Win-Win
In order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You must not care
what others think of you. You will be happy to see others be successful.
Make a word & picture
splash to show what
makes you unique.
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Where do you fall?
Very Good!
I want everyone
to do well.
Very Bad! I don’t
like to see other
people win.
How could you be better at
Think Win-Win?
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Habit #5
Seek First to Understand,
Then to Be Understood
Based on the work Stephen Covey.

Listening Road Blocks
Spacing Out:
Your mind wanders when others
talk.
Pretend Listening:
You don’t really pay attention to
the other person, but you
pretend to. You say “yeah,”,
“uh-huh,” and “cool.”
Selective
Listening:
You listen only to the parts that
interest you.
Selfish Listening:
You always bring the
conversation back to you and
your life. You say things like “I
had that happen too” and “I
know how you feel.”
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
We all have times
when we are poor
listeners. Which
“Listening Road Block”
do you most often
use? Explain why this
happens.
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Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they
are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll have lots of
friends.
I’m All Ears
What are some ways that you
can show people that you ARE
listening?
Who is a good listener? Create
a list of people that you know
that listen well.
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Sometimes you have to listen with your eyes as much as
you listen with your ears. People say a lot with their body
language and facial expressions.
Listen With Your Eyes:
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Emotion Charades:
Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”.
Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face
and body. You can not use words.
•Angry
•Sad
•Embarrassed
•Tired
•Happy
•Thinking
•Bored
•Impatient
•Scared
•Worried
•Relaxed
•Frustrated
•Surprised
•Stressed
•Confused
•Flattered
•Nervous
•Annoyed
•Interested
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Mirror, Mirror
To be a good listener, mirror back what
someone says. Repeat back in your own
words what the person is saying. Use
statements like “You seem to be feeling…”
and “So what you are saying is…”
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Have you ever had a time with
your family or friends when you
knew that you needed to “zip
it” and just listen? Why is it
important to do this
sometimes? How does this help
the person you are listening to?
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Are you a good listener?
Very Good
Listener
Not Such a
Great Listener
How could you be a
better listener?
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Habit #6
Synergize
Based on the work of Stephen Covey.

I value other people’s strengths and learn from
them. I get along well with others, even
people who are different from me. I work well
in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to
solve problems. I know that “two heads are
better than one”. I am a better person when I
let other people into my life and work.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
They say that, “Two
heads are better
than one.” Do you
agree or disagree?
Why?
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Make a list of
times when you
have to work with
other people at
office, home or in
your social
gatherings.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Everybody is different, or
unique. In what ways is
this a good thing?
How does this help you
when you are working
with a group on a
project?
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How does everyone
being different make
things harder?
How can you overcome
these challenges?
Would it be easier if
everyone had the same
personality, looks,
talents and interests?
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Celebrate Differences:
Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with.
Come up with at least five differences and five things you have in
common.
Differences:
Employee 2
Differences:
Employee 1
Ways
You
Are
Alike
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
What does this quote mean?
Is it true? Is it a good thing
or a bad thing?
“Everyone is in love with
their own ideas.” ~Carl
Gustav
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“I have never in my life learned
anything from any man who
agreed with me.”
~Dudley Field Malone
How can having someone
disagree with you help you
learn? Explain your thoughts.
Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
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Dream Team
Person Reason
1. Juan He has great ideas.
2. Suzan She stays calm.
You have been asked to put together a team to accomplish the
targets. If you could choose anyone in your company, who would be
on your team. You must explain your reason. You may have 5
teammates.
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Synergy Action Plan
Define the Problem Make sure you understand the
problem or task.
Their Way Try to understand everyone’s
ideas. Listen carefully.
My Way Seek to be understood. Share
your ideas.
Brainstorm Be creative. Everyone create
new ideas.
High Way Find best solution.
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Where do you fall?
I work well
with others.
I’d rather work
by myself.
How could you be better at
working with others?
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Habit #7
Sharpen the Saw
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
A man has been working hard
to saw through a tree for over
three hours. He still hasn’t
cut through the tree trunk.
What might be wrong with
the man’s saw? What should
he do?
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I take care of my body by eating right,
exercising, and getting sleep. I spend time
with family and friends. I learn in lots of
ways and lots of places.
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Body:
Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep, Relax
Brain:
Learn, Read, Write
Soul:
Journal, Think, Pray
Heart:
Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
What do you do to take care
of your body? What do you
NOT do?
Could you make any
improvements?
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
How you are working to improve
your brain? What could you stop
doing? What could you start
doing? Can you think of someone
who really works on this area of
their life?
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Brain Food
What are your plans for
“feeding” your brain?
Make a list of things you
want to learn or things
that you want to do that
will teach you.
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
How you are working to
improve your soul?
What things do you do
that make you the most
happy?
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Feeding Your Soul
What feeds your soul?
What inspires you and
gives you peace? What
are some songs, books
or movies that make
you want to be a better
person? Is there a
person that makes YOU
want to be better?
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Journal Entry or
Discussion Starter:
Does the heart matter?
Are you serving/helping
anyone? What things do
you do to make friends
and/or to make other
people happy? Can you
think of someone that
really is good at this?
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What makes your saw
sharp?
What makes your saw
dull?
Your Saw is Your Life
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How good are you at
sharpening the saw?
My saw is
very sharp!
My saw is
very dull!
What steps could you take to
sharpen your saw?
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Credits:
This slide show was created by: Rebecca Radicchi
Compiled by: AFZAL KHAN
using the following resources.
1. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
2. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Kids by Sean Covey
3. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey
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