Do you always feel like you’re being judged by others? Do you feel like people judge you unfairly? Does it bother you? You can’t stop others from judging you, but you can police it. Judgement reveals more about the person judging than the person being judged. Don’t let it ruin your day. People do a poor job judging others because they have limited information and have biases. Judgement always feels like a threat, but usually isn’t. Not all judgement is equal. Assess who, what, and when judgement matters. Here are 12 questions to help you not take judgment seriously. 1. Will their judgement matter 3 years from now? 2. Can their judgement cause you any real harm? 3. Does the judgement have any significant meaning for you? 4. Are they actually judging you? 5. Do you admire and respect them? 6. Are they well intentioned? 7. Are they knowledgeable enough? 8. Do they understand your perspective? 9. Do you agree with their expectation of you? 10. Do you want feedback on that topic now? 11. Is the way they are delivering judgment serving you? 12. What does someone that you actually admire and respect think of you? When judgement matters, engage in dialogue, ask for honest opinion, specific examples, and suggestions. For the full article, mp3, visuals, and quotes go to: https://assertiveway.com/how-to-stop-feeling-like-you-are-being-judged

1. How To Stop
Worrying
About Being
Judged

2. Do you get
annoyed when
people judge you?

3. In This
Presentation…
• Why people judge poorly
• When I Learned Not All Judgement Serves You
• 3 Things To Consider Before Listening To
Judgement
• 12 Questions To Ponder If The Judgement
Matters
• How To Deal With Judgement When It Matters
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4. Judgement reveals more
about the person judging than
the person being judged.
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5. Do People Make Good Judgment Of Others?
Why People Judge Poorly
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POOR INFORMATION
�Don’t know the person well
enough
�Limited understanding of
context
�Limited understanding of
other’s motivation
�Limited subject matter
expertise to assess it

6. Do People Make Good Judgment Of Others?
Why People Judge Poorly
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BIASES
�Based on own flawed beliefs
and values
�Based on own limited
experience
�Compare with someone else
they know
�Feel insecure or threatened by
other

7. People are quick to judge
others faults, but never quick
to point out their own.
Unknown

9. You can’t stop others from
judging you, but you can stop
it at the door.
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10. Do You Take Judgement From Others Too Seriously?
When I Learned Not All Judgement Serves You
A classmate, Elvis, judged me and called me
names when I was a kid.
I got so upset that I hated going to school and
would hide during breaks.
15 years later I came home for a visit and
stumbled upon Elvis.
I could feel the blood rush through my body, as
anger memories turned into pity then finally
released into emotional liberation.
I finally realized that it made no sense to allow a
random guy I didn’t admire or like to control my
wellbeing for such a long time at school.
Not all judgement serves you.
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11. Random people have random
judgements of you. Don’t let it
ruin your day.
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12. Do Others Judge You Too Much?
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3 Things To Consider Before Listening To Their Judgement
WHAT
judgement
matters?
WHEN
judgement
matters?
WHO’s
judgement
matters?

13. Not all opinions others have of
you will serve you.
Choose what you’ll listen to
wisely.
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14. Do You Get Upset When Others Judge You?
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12 Questions To Ponder If The Judgement Matters
Do you want
feedback now?
Did you get a second
opinion?
Do they know your
side well?
Are they
knowledgeable?
Do you agree with
their expectations?
Do you admire or
look up to them?
Did they say
something?
Are they well
intentioned?
Can it cause you real
harm?
Will it matter 3 years
from now?
Is it meaningful?
Is the way they’re
delivering it useful?
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16. Not all judgements of you are
created equal. Only some
judgments matter.
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17. Do You Get Uncomfortable When Judged?
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How To Deal With Judgement When It Matters
Ask for specific examples
Open Dialogue
Ask for suggestions
Ask for their opinion

18. Judgement always feels like a
threat, but it almost always
isn’t.
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21. Summary
• You can’t stop others from judging you, but you can stop it
at the door and prevent it from causing worry, rumination,
and frustration.
• Random people will always have random judgements of
you. Judgement reveals more about the person judging
than the person being judged. So don’t let it ruin your day.
• People generally do a poor job judging others because
they have limited information about you, your intention,
your context and they have biases based on their beliefs,
experiences, and feelings.
• Judgement always feels like a threat, but almost always
isn’t.
• Not all opinion others have of you will serve you. Not all
judgement of you are equal. Choose what you’ll listen to
wisely. Assess who, what, and when judgement matters.
• When judgement matters, open up for dialogue, ask for
their honest opinion, for specific examples, and for
suggestions.
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