1. February 25th, 2013 Published by: ceohurt
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major reason some marriages don’t work. Since this is about
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Suggestions on Counseling before
Handling Divorce
Suggestions on Handling
Divorce for Families in 2013
A lot of divorces probably come from people just jumping the
gun before the really know a person. They get married and then
realize they don’t like something about the person or really
were not ready. MARRIAGE is serious! Make sure you are
ready to work at a relationship before you start talking about
Handling Divorce is a serious marriage. It is better to say not right now than YES, if you are
not ready.
matter and should be taken For those that have gotten married and divorce has become an
that way by everyone involved. option, counseling is a great avenue. Both parties have to be
willing for it to work. Once you have reached this point, a third
Let’s be real. No one wants this to happen to their marriage,
party can help each of you listen to the other. A lot of times,
but in this day and age it is all to common.
divorce cause a lot of yelling at or talking at, but no listening.
There are a lot of stats that could be added in this post. I am
This could be the last stand before the end of what your
not much of a numbers guy, so you may not see that many. I
vows said would be forever. YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR ALL
will mainly be talking from my experience and opinion. Either
INTO THIS IF YOU MEANT YOUR VOWS. Counseling before
way I think you will get some helpful information.
handling divorce is going to make marriage even harder but
I have been a child caught in the middle of a divorce and also can be so worth it!
a parent going through a divorce. Neither one of the situations
feel good, but as I stated earlier they both happen often. Suggestions on Handling Divorce
I pray that if you are reading this, and currently married, you before going to Court
never have to take any of the suggestions. Also, if you are
reading this and have never been married, I pray that it helps
you find someone that you can truly stay committed to the rest
of your life.
Since it is currently inevitable that someone is going to
experience this, we have to cover what I consider good ways of
handling divorce!
If I am not mistaken, all divorces have to go through the courts.
Divorce does not have to be messy and in my opinion SHOULD
I will tell you that it is best for all parties involved to start
NOT BE! At a minimum, it involves two adults and adults
handling divorce by coming to an agreement before going to
should know how to be sensible. Again, in this day and time
court. Agreeing to something that can benefit or not hurt each
that is not often either.
other will be a lot better than letting a judge decide. The judge
I would be remiss if I did not include God in this blog. In has nothing to gain and will not be hurt by any decisions.
my opinion, a successful marriage involves God being present.
I have seen couples go to court with a signed agreement on
You should pray before you think about marrying a person and
their divorce with no lawyers and the just say okay and sign
should include him in every aspect of the marriage. This is a
off on the divorce. Then I have seen couples go in with lawyers
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and take time after time to get it right. That is until the judge
says that is enough and this is how it will go.
Suggestions on Handling Divorce
Let’s not even talk about how much money you have to pay the
for Mothers
lawyer! Now the lawyers job is to get you the best deal, but that
could be at any cost! If it takes them a long time to get your
divorce final, you will pay for every second!!
Really, a lot of the back and forth comes from either one person
or both being ANGRY! Making decisions in that state only adds
more problems.
I will go so far to say that even if the person wrong you, it
is possible to come out better by agreeing to something then Mothers, I can’t really talk from experience on handling
trying to battle it out in court. In the end you really don’t have divorce except by what was done to me. I can certainly give my
the last say so, the judge does! opinion from what I have seen some mothers do.
Suggestions on Handling Divorce Remember that children need both parents. A lot of children
for Fathers turned out to be great in single home families, but having both
parents involved in a child’s life increase that success.
There are some women that use their children to get what they
want. STOP! Don’t put you child in the part of situation that
does not concern them. If you have a problem with the child’
father, take it up with him or the court. Your child needs him
no matter what. This is especially important when you have a
father that WANTS to be a part of his child’s life!
If the father is not being active in the child’s life, stop acting like
you can take care of everything and put him on child support.
Handling divorce includes both parents being active. If the
Fathers, we really have to step it up! This does not apply to all father is not, you need to get some form of support!
fathers, certainly not myself, but some fathers are not active
in their child’s life. YOU have to stay active in your child’s life. Suggestions on Handling Divorce
Being mad at your child’s mother and not being there is really with Children
going to hurt your child. You just divorced the mother, not the
child.
If she fights you on seeing your child, fight back. Quitting is
not an option. We have a lot of problems in this world today
with our youth, because fathers are not present. Not being in
the household does not change the fact that you are a father.
If there is a child involved in a divorce, the parents have to
If your child stays with you, allow the mother to be a part of realize they are the most important part! A lot of parents don’t
the child’s life too. That child needs both of you! Preferably in realize that handling divorce the right or wrong way has an
marriage but since we are past that point, you have to make affect on children!
some form of relationship work for your child.
You need to make sure your child knows, this divorce is NOT
I mostly talked about fathers, because I am one, but handling their fault!! I can’t stress that enough. I have heard stories
divorce for men in general should be civilized too. There is no of adults having relationship issues because they thought a
point in putting energy into being nasty. Be the bigger person divorce was their fault. When they finally tell the parent, they
and move on with your life. Life is to short to get caught up in did not know they felt that way.
a mess over something you both realize is not going to work!
I will tell you that the child is affected more then either of
**In my opinion, I believe it is best to take child support out in the parents. They don’t know what is going on but only hear
any situation. Especially, if you have had problems in the past. arguing, or see anger, etc. If you have something bad tosay
I have heard stories where fathers were NOT on child support about the other parent and just have to get it out, say it to other
but took good care of their children. Then the mother decided adults.
to take child support out. The previous payments were not
really taken in to consideration. That SUCKS!** Tell your kids you love them! You both should probably sit
down and have a conversation with the children to help them
understand as much as possible. Your job is making sure your
children are handling divorce in the best way possible.
CHILDREN: If you have any questions, feel bad, or anything;
ask your parents to explain the situation. I will go so far as to
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tell either parent not to say anything bad about the other if they
start in front of you.
Handling divorce is going to be work for
all parties, so step up and do it right!
I hope this has helped someone. I hope that you share this
with someone that needs it. I look forward to your comments,
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To your prosperity,
Fredrick Hurt
P.S. I was inspired to write this blog in hopes to help someone
in their situation or not get to this situation. Handling divorce
is very common and we have to unite to slow it down as much
as possible. While enjoying writing this, I still have my son and
reach my dreams. This blog will allow me to make money at
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