The document discusses making two lists when you hate your job: 1. A list of gratitudes for what the current job provides, such as money, experience, and clarity on what you want in a future role. 2. A list of tolerations - the frustrations, irritations, and toxic elements that are draining your energy, in order to address and eliminate them. Making these lists can help shift your mindset from hate to a quality of thought to take positive career actions. The document advocates improving the current reality while also creating the new future you want.

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2 Lists to Make When You
HATE Your Job 17 May 2017
Sometimes "hate" is the only word that'll do to describe our feelings towards the current
job. But even in those circumstances (especially in those circumstances!) , it pays to find
things to be grateful for. And to get real about the things that need to change now.
I was raised not to “hate”, but to dislike.
It was always: “don’t say hate, say dislike. You don’t hate
it, you dislike it.” Even today: my mother, when she’s
visiting, will correct my children / her grandchildren: Hate.
Dislike. Hate. Dislike. No, hate. No, dislike.
And it’s useful. Because hate is such a strong emotion, it
can really inhibit the thinking.
Even when (especially when!) it feels like hate is the only
feeling that’ll do, reframing that hate as dislike can really
get us back to quality thinking. Can get us back to
resourcefulness, ingenuity, energy, focus and direction.
So if you find yourself in a job you hate (I mean, dislike),
try writing these 2 lists – to reintroduce a quality of
thought and provide a springboard from which to take
positive, career-changing action.
List #1: Gratitudes
However crappy things have become, they were unlikely
always like that. And even right now, this job you hate so
much is giving you some important facilities.
So, what are you grateful to this job for? This job that’s
supporting you. That’s providing you money enough to
enjoy a certain standard of living. This job that’s offering
you useful and hard-earned experience, in whatever
direction that may be. This job that’s making it crystal-
clear to you the things you demand, deserve and want
from your next role. This job that’s providing the stepping
stone to your dream job.
Make a list now of all the things – and people – for which
you’re especially grateful.
List #2: Tolerations
From the very big (illegal or integrity-threatening) to the
very small (we’re out of fresh milk. Again.), what are you
tolerating in your current role? Tolerations can become so
common place, we hardly notice. But the reality is that
they come at significant personal cost.
So, what are you tolerating? What are you putting-up
with? What frustrations and irritations are you letting
ebb at your energy and vitality? What toxic relationships

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are you perpetuating? What basic needs do you have
that are not being met? What business is being left
unfinished? What compromises that were once
unacceptable have crept back into work? What elements
of the working environment?
And now: make the staunch commitment to get to work
addressing – and as far as possible, eradicating – those
tolerations. Some can be zapped in an instant or with
minimal effort; others will need a plan over time. But all
such efforts will be steps towards reclaiming control over
your working life. And that will energise you.
The 2 sides to
career shifting
It’s always been my firm belief that when we’re shifting
or accelerating our careers, it’s important to work on
BOTH creating the new future that we want AND
improving the current reality.
We make better career decisions when we’re in a good
place. But more than that, it’s just not acceptable to be
miserable in something we invest so much of ourselves and
our time in.
So make your 2 lists. Get to work improving the current
reality. And know that it’s contributing to you moving
onwards and upwards.
Dan Beverly is a leadership and performance coach helping high-achieving,
high-performing professional women PIVOT into rapid career advancement.
His mission is to inspire possibility in others: to help us excel in careers without
compromise; and to leave us feeling energised and uplifted by a new future.
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