Tips on creating a healthy family and improving communication

2.  Building a solid foundation
 Obtaining a clear frequency
 Less reactive ~ more thoughtful
Trust & Respect

3.  Clear expectations
 Consistent application of
rules
 Structure & Routine

5.  Immediate ~ specific ~ 4:1 ratio
 Catch them doing something right
 Deposits in the emotional bank account
 Post-its & stickers – other reward systems

6.  More learning
potential accessed
(iceberg)
 Better judgment
 More likely to
“express self and
not hold in.”
 More likely to go
for it

7.  Audio
 Visual
 Kinesthetic

9.  Driving to school
 Watching TV ~
influence the many
by reinforcing the
few
 Right Brain access
 All of the Above

10.  Include some food
 The Mission
Statement
 Break it down
 Decide
 Take Action
 Notice the positive
outcome.

11.  Start with a positive
 Focus on the
behaviour
 Use your “I
statements”
 Reflective listening
 Balance

12.  0--------------5--------------10
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 Can be used as way of communicating or
receiving feedback on multiple levels.

13.  “Sneaky Poo”
 Externalize the
problem from your
child or family
 Notice more the
battles won than
lost
 Make a list of what
works

14.  Notice the
exceptions
 What’s different
when it works?
 If a miracle
happened?
Become Solution Focused not Problem Focused

15.  Notice the moments
 Avoid history and/or
worries of tomorrow
 Connect fully NOW

16.  Lecture
 Nag
 Name call
 Sarcasm
 Loose it
 Shut them down
without listening

17.  Listen
 Reflect
 Be flexible
 Be creative
 Give them some
space to find a
solution of their
own

18. Physiology
Focus Internal Questions?
Meaning