The document provides a six step guide to going from a "wuss" to a "boss". It describes a wuss as a weak, cowardly, and unconfident person that others walk over. The six steps are: 1) improve your physical appearance and confidence, 2) build skills that are valuable to others, 3) develop principles to guide your actions and be your own person, 4) stop being dependent on others and be self-reliant, 5) don't let people take you for granted and stand up for yourself, and 6) don't see yourself as a victim and keep pushing forward despite setbacks.
2. ● The dictionary says a wuss is “a weak and cowardly or unadventurous person”,
and “fails to do or complete something due to fear or lack of confidence”.
● A wuss is also a person who everybody walks over and disregards.
● A wuss is a person who nobody cares about
● A wuss is a person nobody is afraid of offending or even alienating
● A wuss is a person who almost brings nothing to the table or to the group,
and is hence often useless or at least perceived to be.
● A wuss is somebody who is taken for granted by everybody.
Who is a Wuss?
3. Reasons for displaying wimpish behavior
● Lack of self confidence
● Putting others above oneself at all times
● Eagerness to please others
● Desperate to avoid conflict with others
● Too dependent on others
● Inability to stand up for oneself
● Always asking for permission or direction from others
● Unwilling to take risks
● Lack of skills or knowledge which will benefit one’s group
● Unwilling or unable to improve oneself
● Unwilling or unable to fight back, or walk away from things or people that hurt
them
● Inability to bounce back or be resilient after setbacks or failures
4. Work on your physical appearance
● The better you look, the more seriously people will take you. That is the
unfortunate and unfashionable truth.
● You don’t need to look like a model or an athlete, but be the best version of
yourself that you can be.
● Lose weight if you are chubby. Gain more mass if you are skinny.
● Try to dress well at all times.
● You don’t have to go overboard, but definitely do not dress like a slob.
● Improve your posture if you need to. Stand the tallest you can always.
● Go for the look you makes you feel good about yourself. For guys, if having a
beard makes you feel confident, go for it. For the ladies, if wearing high
heels makes you feel confident, do just that.
5. Build and Enhance Your Skill Set
● Become really good at something that is valued by other people
● Examples : expert on entertainment electronics, expert on vacation spots,
expert on working out, expert on cooking dishes, expert on investments etc
● Improve your personality and build on your strengths
● Example : If you are naturally funny, use that to charm other people
● Improve your general knowledge about various subjects, so that you can be
more interesting and have a conversation on several things
● Try and become an authority in something. Examples : being a published
author, starting your own business, building specialized knowledge at work
● Have an interesting hobby. Examples: mountain bike racing, pottery,
photography, fixing up cars etc.
6. Be Your Own Person
● Develop a set of principles that define you, and let them guide your actions
● In every situation, let your principles help you come to the right decision.
● Do not compromise on your values and principles
● Even though it is good to be flexible, do not bend over backwards for others,
especially if it conflicts with your principles and values.
● Do not be afraid to stand by your decisions
● Do not be forced to do something that you don’t like or do not feel like doing
● Do not be afraid to fail, or to take risks. Falling down is fine as long as you
get right back up.
● Question yourself and others before doing anything. Ensure you are doing
the right thing for the right reason, and not because someone tells you to do
it.
7. Stop Being Dependent on Others
● Be confident about yourself, your abilities and the decisions you take.
● You don’t always have to be the leader, but don’t be afraid to lead the way if you
have to.
● Do not be afraid to go it alone if nobody else joins you. Remember that this is
your mission and your life.
● Take other people’s opinions, but always make your own decisions.
● Remember : Delegation of work is not the same as being dependent on others.
When you delegate, you still retain power. When you are dependent, you give
away your power.
● Build yourself up - mentally, physically and psychologically - so that you are
self-reliant.
● Anytime you’re dependent even 50% on a person, you are in big trouble. It means
they have power over you. Find a backup. That backup can even be you.
● Some things just have to be done. Do not run away from unpleasant situations,
and don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty if you have to.
8. Don’t Let People Take You For Granted
● Don’t always think about making other people happy or comfortable, think about
yourself too.
● Stop or limit appeasing gestures like nodding in agreement, smiling too often, or
verbal encouragements etc
● Defend your decisions or choices. There’s a reason why you made them. You may
be wrong many times, but remember hindsight is always 20/20.
● Don’t let others talk over you, or walk over you with their actions.
● Be on the lookout for others bringing you down (subtly or overtly). Put an end to
that immediately. Ensure that nobody can fool around with you.
● Never take criticism lying down, unless you have absolutely screwed up.
● If anybody slights you in front of other people, give it back to them as soon as
possible. At the very least make your displeasure known. If you keep quiet, that
sets a precedent for others to do the same.
● Do not be averse to conflict. As with death and taxes, conflict is something that is
unavoidable in life.
9. Do Not Be A Victim
● Do not ever feel sorry for yourself, whatever your shortcomings. Think
about all the things you are proud of, and have accomplished.
● When things go wrong - stop whining, get up and do it again (with a twist).
● Never take no for an answer from anyone.
● Keep pushing no matter what. You may not move forward all the time, but
don’t stop pushing.
● If you want something in life, go get it. Do not wait around for it to happen.
● Action is more important than words and intentions. As Nike says, “Just Do
It”
● When faced with serious problems or issues -
○ Remember that it is only temporary. You will find a solution soon.
○ Remember it’s not always your fault. It can be due to circumstances that is beyond anyone’s
control.
○ Do not give up. There is always something to try and extricate yourself out of this.
○ Do not go into a pessimistic rabbit hole. Every day is a new chance to try and get better.
