One of the themes running through my life currently, and in the lives of my clients, is that of Personal Responsibility. If you’ve been to my workshop and on any of my calls, you know that I believe strongly in Personal Responsibility (I often call it ‘The No Excuses Approach’) and how I do not believe you can ever achieve BIG success without it. It’s a topic that few marketers ever really talk about in depth, but one that is crucial for success.

1. Are You Blaming Others Because You
Don’t Have Enough Clients?
"The more you say to yourself, ‘I am responsible,’ the
stronger, better and finer a person you become. And every
part of your life will improve at the same time."
-Brian Tracy
One of the themes running through my life currently, and in the lives
of my clients, is that of Personal Responsibility. If you‟ve been to my
workshop and on any of my calls, you know that I believe strongly in Personal
Responsibility (I often call it „The No Excuses Approach‟) and how I do not
believe you can ever achieve BIG success without it. It‟s a topic that few
marketers ever really talk about in depth, but one that is crucial for success.
You see, each time I bump up against a new level of success in my
business, a lot of my old "stuff" comes back up. I‟ve caught myself in
the past comparing my success to others with more success, feeling
resentful, feeling less-than, and sometimes even BLAMING others or my own
particular situation or for not being where I would LIKE to be in terms of
success in that moment. And believe me, it doesn‟t feel good. But perhaps
you know exactly what I‟m talking about…

2. What I noticed is that I’m not the only one. As different people in my
life, both personally and professionally, move up to the next level, or really
WANT to move up to the next level, but instead, begin to feel frustrated, I
see them pointing fingers OUTSIDE themselves, blaming their situation, a
certain person, the system, the economy, a program they took, or whatever
else they can find to shuck responsibility for where they are.
What I also noticed is that, in the end, I’m ultimately responsible for
everything in my life, every increase in my in-come and success over
the last few years. But most importantly, I‟m also responsible for every
setback. I can blame no one but myself.
Everything I have in my life exists because of my actions, my
behaviors, my words and thoughts. And it‟s the same for you. Every
decision we make creates our circumstances and because of that, we are
ultimately responsible for each success and failure, happiness, unhappiness
and financial situation.
I recently found an article by Brian Tracy, one of the world’s leading
authorities on personal and business success. This article has become
one of my favorites and I refer to it often and ask my clients to read it too,
especially when they start comparing their success to others with more
success, feeling resentful of their situation, blaming others, or feeling angry
and „less-than‟ because their particular situation is not what they‟d like it to
be. Here‟s an excerpt:
"Responsibility goes hand in hand with success, achievement,
motivation, happiness and self-actualization. It‟s the absolute minimum
requirement for the accomplishment of everything you could ever really want
in life. Accepting that you‟re completely responsible for yourself and realizing
that no one is coming to the rescue is the beginning of peak performance…

3. The opposite of accepting responsibility is making excuses and
blaming people and things for what’s going on in your life. And since
everything we do is a matter of habit, if people get into the habit of making
excuses, they get into the habit of evading responsibility at the same time.
If they set a goal or objective for themselves, they immediately
create an excuse that they hold in reserve just in case the
accomplishment of the goal is too difficult or requires more self-
discipline and persistence than they had thought.
As soon as things start to go poorly, irresponsible people trot out
their excuse and let themselves off the hook. But that won‟t get them
anywhere in the long run… The more responsibility you take, the more in
control you are. And the freer you are, especially in your own mind, to make
decisions and to do the things you want to do. So there‟s a direct relationship
between responsibility, control, freedom and happiness.
A person who is completely irresponsible is subject to anger,
hostility, fear, resentment, doubt – all sorts of negative emotions. And
here‟s why. All negative emotions tend to be associated with blame. Fully 99
percent of all our problems exist only because we‟re able to blame someone
or something for them. The instant we stop blaming, our negative emotions
begin disappearing.
What’s the antidote to blaming? It‟s simple! Since your mind can hold
only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, you can override the
tendency to blame and become angry simply by saying, firmly, “I am
responsible!" You can‟t accept responsibility for a situation and be angry at
the same time… The acceptance of responsibility negates negative emotions
and short-circuits any tendencies toward unhappiness. In fact, the acceptance
of responsibility often gives you insight into what you should do to resolve the
situation.

4. Everything that is happening to you on the outside is due to
something that is happening to you on the inside, so the first place to
look is within. As soon as you do that, you begin to see things that you had
completely missed when you were busy blaming others and making excuses.
You begin to see that you‟re responsible in large measure for the things that
are happening to you.
You’re earning today exactly what you’re worth-not a penny more,
not a penny less. In life, we tend to get exactly what we deserve. If you‟re
not satisfied with the amount you‟re getting, look around you, at people who
are doing the kind of work you would like to do and earning the kind of mo-
ney you would like to earn. Ask them what they‟re doing differently from
what you‟re doing. What are the causes of the effects they‟re getting? Once
you know what they are, accept complete responsibility for your situation,
apply your wonderful mind and abilities, back them with willpower and self-
discipline, and get busy making the changes you need to make to enjoy the
life you want to enjoy."
Your Client Attraction Assignment:
You’ve heard the saying, “Speak the truth. The truth will set you
free." In this case, I want you to be VERY honest with yourself in answering
the following… stop hiding behind your justifications or get off your high horse
and answer the following:
 Have you recently blamed someone or something for the fact that you
haven‟t yet achieved what you wanted in your business?
 Are you using excuses (even JUSTIFYING your situation) so that you
don‟t have to take action in terms of getting clients or be embarrassed in
case "it doesn‟t work out"?
 Have you harbored resentment towards someone or something because
you feel you were "gipped" in some way?

5.  Do you feel anger or have lashed out in the past because your business
is not where you want it to be yet?
 Are you pointing fingers, saying "This is the reason I‟m not making
more"?
 Have you compared yourself to someone else more financially
successful than you currently are, feeling less-than? Have you perhaps
even JUDGED that person based on their success?
Personally speaking, I know that I’ve been able to answer "Yes" to
all of these questions at some point in my self-employed
career. Whether I knew it consciously or not at the time, it all resulted from
avoiding responsibility for what I was creating in my life. It didn‟t feel good,
and it certainly did not get me moving forward towards success.
The key for me has been to be honest with myself about my
responsibility. No one else can create my life except for me. Only I can
control my thoughts, words, actions and behaviors. Blaming or pointing
fingers does absolutely no good. In fact, it doesn‟t work and it‟s usually just
an excuse that we use, in case we fail. That way, we don‟t need to be
embarrassed. We can just say it wasn‟t our fault. NONSENSE.
Consider this a fork in the road of your success. This is your opportunity
to step up in your business, stop using excuses, stop resenting or comparing
yourself and STOP blaming others for what you have or don‟t have in your
life. It‟s time to take a NO EXCUSES approach to doing what you have to do
to get clients, start being consistent in your marketing, work through the
programs you‟ve bought, or clear your schedule to attend events (no matter
what else has "come up”) that will give you the solution you SAY you‟ve been
wanting. Begin to take FULL responsibility and making different choices and
your life and business will never be the same. I promise you that; I‟m living
proof of it.

6. Taking a no-excuses approach, removing fears and negative beliefs is
crucial if you want to finally move to the next level of your success
and income level. So join me for 3 days in September and I‟ll give you all
my shortcuts and the exact steps you need to use to break through the self-
imposed barriers currently stopping you from multiplying your income,
increase your confidence, put an end to your struggle so you can finally live
the freedom-based lifestyle you deserve…guaranteed. If your soul has been
nagging you to play a bigger game, check out the video (it’s free-
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