Seven Habits of Highly Successful People

1. Habit 7 : Sharpen the Saw
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser

2. Habit 7 in Our Paradigms
Feeling
Thoughts
Behavior
Sharpen the Saw

3. Personal PC
Preserving and enhancing your greatest asset

4. Four Dimensions of Renewal

5. How to Sharpen the Saw
Invest in yourself
At center of Circle of Influence
Make it second nature
Quadrant 1
Proactive

6. While in Renewal
Balance
Synergy

7. How Habits help?
• Self-Control
• Improve relationships
• Make smart decisions
• Overcome addictions
• Define your values
• Increase confidence
• Get more done in less time
• Be happy
• Balanced life

8. Paradigm Shift
Feeling
Thoughts
Behavior
Habits
Addictions

9. Addictions
Eat away our Personalities

10. What Are Addictions?
• No control over what you do, take or use
• May reach a point at which it is harmful
• Tangible or intangible
• When a person is addicted to something they
become dependent on it to cope with daily life

11. Difference between Habit and
Addiction
Habit = Control
of your choices
Addiction = You
are not in control
of your choices

12. More on Addictions
• Misapplied or dysfunctional way of meeting your
needs and wants.
• It is any activity that you cannot control and it
usually gets worse over time.
• It is the use of a substance or behavior for the
purpose of removing pain or gaining pleasure.
• Neural research indicates that the brain cannot
differentiate between a chemical addiction
(alcohol, drugs) and a behavioral addiction
(anger, controlling, bullying, pornography).

13. Flavors of Addictions
• Socially unacceptable
• Socially acceptable

15. • “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were
not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you
out of existence and He would replace (you
by) those people who would commit sin and
seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would
have pardoned them.” [Sahih Muslim]

16. Micro-Addictions
Hidden/Subtle/
Unrecognized

17. 7 Micro-Addictions
1. Experiential Avoidance
2. Rumination
3. Emotional Masking
4. Short Term Focus
5. Hostility/Aggression
6. Negative Appraisal
7. Response Persistence

18. 1. Experiential Avoidance
• It refers to the attempt to avoid unpleasant thoughts,
images, feelings, sensations, and emotions.
• Prevents us from being accepting of and present to our
natural inner impulses.
• It prevents us from acting on opportunities to pursue
the values that give our lives meaning.
• Habitual experiential avoidance is a common trait
found in people who have difficulty making normal,
everyday decisions.
• It telegraphs and repeatedly reinforces the message
that our feelings don’t matter—and that we should be
ashamed of them.

19. 2. Rumination
• When people ruminate, they over-think or obsess
about situations or life events, such as work or
relationships.
• It conjures up more negative thoughts. It
becomes a cycle.
• Becomes the fast track to feeling helpless.
• It paralyzes your problem-solving skills. You
become so preoccupied with the problem that
you’re unable to push past the cycle of negative
thoughts.

20. 3. Emotional Masking
• Process in which an individual changes or "masks" their
natural personality to conform to social pressures,
abuse or harassment.
• Because a person wants to receive acceptance from
the public, masking helps disguise characteristics like
anger, jealousy or self-confidence.
• Females tend to have an easier time hiding their
negative emotions towards something they dislike than
males do.
• Leads to feeling of dissonance, insincerity, emotional
and physical exhaustion, and self-reported health
problems.

21. 4. Short Term Focus
• When you are focused on the present or past
and consider them more important than the
future.
• Such people value tradition, the current social
hierarchy, and fulfilling your social obligations.
• You care more about immediate gratification
than long-term fulfillment.
• This develops more addictions.

22. 5. Response Persistence
• Resolve one issue same way over and over
again
• Respond with ‘Ifs’ and ‘Buts’
• Feel frustrated without realizing same pattern
in problem solving

23. 6. Hostility and Aggression
• Refers to violent attitudes or actions that are
associated with anger.
• Desire to dominate a situation or others.
• Displays itself in verbal, non-verbal and
physical ways and holds the intention of
causing harm.

24. 7. Negative Appraisal
• Personal interpretation of a situation; it is how
an individual views a situation.
• The perception of a situation can be the cause
of a negative psychological reaction, rather
than the situation itself.

25. Sharpen Saw
Now miracles don’t happen; YOU make
them happen

26. Rumination
Experiential
Avoidance
Short Term Focus Hostility/Aggression
Emotional Masking Negative Appraisal
Response Persistence

27. “Fear Allah wherever you may be; follow up an
evil deed with a good one which will wipe (the
former) out, and behave good-naturedly
towards people.” [At-Tirmidhi]

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30. To get in touch….
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser @ HamarayBachchay
hbheadoffice@gmail.com