This is the day 2 powerpoint I created for the high school sex ed course I taught last week. The topic for day 2 was Healthy Relationships and Communication.
3. Teen Matters
• Teen clinics & teen text line (706-988-5183)
• Birth control & plan B
• STI/STD testing
• Condoms, dental dams, lube
• HIV testing
• Pregnancy testing
• HPV vaccinations
• Pap smear, annual exam with breast exam
• Free for 19 and under, based on income 20y+
• Health Education/Sex Education
Website & Instagram (@teen.matters)
6. Objectives
By the end of this section, participants will be able to....
• Define consent and the importance of consent
• Identify at least two ways someone can and cannot give consent
• Know what to do when someone is not giving consent
• List at least 2 characteristics of a healthy relationship
• List at least 2 characteristics of an unhealthy relationship
• Identify red flags of an abusive relationship
• Utilize skills to effectively communicate in relationships
7. Take care of
yourself today
• Talking about consent, unhealthy
relationships and interpersonal
violence can be challenging
• Feel free to walk out or take a
break if you need to
• Keep the ground rules in mind
• Jazmin will be available to talk
after if anyone needs to
• Mandated reporters
9. Why does consent
matter?
• Shows respect
• Makes your relationship better
(communication skills)
• Keeps you in control of your
body and your sexuality
• Prevents interpersonal violence
– without consent, sexual activity
is sexual assault or rape
10.
11. What consent is NOT....
Assumed based on a
relationship
Given while
intoxicated
Genital responses or
arousal
A "maybe" or a lack
of "no" or silence
Coerced/persuaded
Given based on the
clothing someone
wears
Based on body
language
14. What if someone doesn't consent?
If you are the person not
consenting....
• Be firm
• Listen to your body
• Don't be afraid to leave/walk
away
• Have a plan ahead of time for
instances like parties, etc
• Don't blame yourself
• Use your own style
If you are the person not getting
consent....
• Stop immediately
• Don't take it personally – it doesn’t
necessarily mean the person
doesn't like you
• Apologize for violating boundaries
• Check in with the other person -
how are they feeling?
• Notice your own reaction – do not
get angry
This is called sexual violence and is illegal
15. What if someone
doesn't consent?
• How do you help a friend?
• Listen
• Validate – that must
have been really hard;
I'm so sorry that
happened to you
• Do NOT victim blame
or ask "why" questions
• Refer them to
resources
17. What to do if your relationship has red flags
• If it feels safe, address them with
your partner. Many people don't
know what a healthy relationship
looks
• If it doesn't feel safe – talk to a
friend, a professional, or a trusted
adult about it
• Counseling? Breaking up? Setting
more boundaries?
• Depends on types of red flags
• Remember that everyone deserves
respect in their relationships
18. What to do if you're in
an abusive relationship
• Know that you are not alone
• Remember that you deserve
better
• Remember that abusers
typically don't change
• Recognize the cycle of abuse
• Seek help – it can be
dangerous to leave an
abusive relationship
20. General tips for
communication
Use “I” statements
Acknowledge feelings/awkwardness
Take breaks if you need to
Be optimistic
Pay attention to language: be specific
Have a sense of humor
Know - and stick - to your boundaries
Be honest
21. Communicating
about sex &
relationships
• First: do you know what your boundaries
are?
• Which ones are you willing to be flexible
on? Which ones are hard boundaries?
• How do you communicate with this person
about other things?
• Are you able to confidently say no? What
about yes? How do you decide if you're
unsure or if it's a maybe?
• How intimate do you want to be with this
person?
• Do you know what you want out of this
relationship or encounter?
• Do you see yourself seeing them again? Does
this matter to you?
22. Communicating
about sex &
relationships
(cont.)
• Is this someone who would respect your
boundaries and your body?
• Is this a comfortable & safe environment to
talk?
• Have you talked about STIs? Are they willing to
be open about this? What protection will you
use? Are they willing to get tested?
• Try to communicate from the beginning of the
relationship/encounter - don't wait until the
heat of the moment or until a crisis
• It's okay to stop an encounter to express that
you aren't enjoying it or that you'd like to
change it up
• Communicating should be an ongoing process
23. Sexting: Sending
• What are your motives?
• Freely expressing yourself?
Increasing intimacy? Liberation? Is
this an informed choice? Do you
have boundaries with the person
you're sharing with about privacy?
• Or.. A need to prove something? To
earn more love? Feeling
coerced/peer pressured? Foreplay?
• What would you do/how would you
feel if it was leaked?
If you just can't resist... be smart about it
Know the law
24. Sexting:
Receiving
• Be kind – show respect
• Don’t hide behind a computer – act
how you would face to face
• Sharing a person's sext can leave a
negative impact on them
• Think about how you would want
someone to treat you
If someone has sent you an unwanted
sext: don’t be afraid to report
Mention that most people learn relationship skills by watching their parents
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Pictures/videos intended to be private can be shared without permission
Screen shots during a video call can be screenshotted or screen recorded without knowledge
You can't unsend a sext – once it's out there you have no control over who sees it
If receiving a sext:
Be kind – show respect
Don’t hide behind a computer – act how you would face to face
Sharing a person's sext can leave a negative impact on them
Self-image, mental health, and relationships
Think about how you would want someone to treat you.
If someone has sent you an unwanted sext - don’t be afraid to report.
Possession of sexually explicit image of a minor is a crime.
Distribution (sending an explicit image of a minor to others) is a crime.
If one person is over 18 – prosecution is more vigorous
Examples:
A teen who takes a naked pic of themself and send to another teen has technically committed 3 felony crimes – promoting distributing and possessing child porn
A person who received a picture – requested or not – can be charged with possession and if sent to anyone – distribution
