This document provides an overview of cultural etiquette in the United States. It discusses the importance of good manners and how etiquette establishes rules of acceptable conduct. Etiquette in the US can vary based on factors like body language, greetings, dining, and technology use. Some key points are that Americans smile frequently, value personal space, prefer brief, firm handshakes, arrive on time for meals, say "please" and "thank you," and avoid cell phone use during face-to-face interactions. The document emphasizes being respectful of social norms to make a good impression.
2. Good manners are powerful
Social interaction is a crucial aspect of daily life, the
way we manage it can affect
• how people perceive us and
treat us
• the quality of life for each one of us
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3. Manners and Etiquette
Having GOOD MANNERS means thinking about others before
ourselves, letting people feel at ease, acting with kindness and
showing appreciation
ETIQUETTE is a set of rules that helps us to find the common
ground of what is considered suitable, acceptable and convenient
in the community we live in.
“Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for
others guides our manners ”
Laurence Sterne
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4. Etiquette
Etiquette is a customary code of conduct that is different
in almost every country and raises our cultural
awareness. It is related, but not limited to:
Body language
Meeting and greeting
Dining etiquette
Tech etiquette
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6. Body language in the U.S.
Americans smile a lot, even if they do not know you, and
they like to have their smiles returned
Keep your distance when conversing
Americans are generally uncomfortable with same-sex
touching
Stand still!
Sitting up straight is important. A woman should not
cross her legs but if she does it has to be at the ankles,
especially if one is wearing a short skirt.
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8. Meeting and greeting in the
U.S.
Greetings
It is best to begin by using formal greetings and then
listen to how your colleagues or business partners greet
you.
The typical formal greetings in the U.S. are “How do you
do?”, “How are you doing?”. This is not a request for
information about your well-being, it is simply a
pleasantry so the answer must be "Fine," "Great," or
”Well, thank you.”
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9. Presentation
In formal circumstances, you may want to use titles and
surnames as a courtesy until you are invited to move to
a first name basis
Use professional titles when you are introducing people to
each other. Example: ”Dr Jane Chamber, meet Judge
Mark Temple." If you are introducing yourself, do not use
your professional title.
Stand while being introduced. Only old or disabled are
exempted.
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Meeting and greeting in the
U.S.
10. Meeting and greeting in the
U.S.
Handshakes
They are usually brief and confident. Light handshakes
are considered unpleasant. Eye contact is important
when shaking someone’s hand.
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12. Dining etiquette in the U.S.
Arrive on time, never before
If you are invited for dinner or a party, bring a potted
plant, wine, chocolates or a gift from your country.
Remain standing until invited to sit down
Do not rest your elbows on the table
Never begin eating until everyone is served and your
hosts have begun. Offer food or drink to others before
helping yourself.
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13. Raise your hand or index finger and make eye contact
to signal a server
Chew with your mouth closed and avoid noises
If you have not finished eating, cross your knife and
fork on your plate with the fork over the knife. Indicate
you have finished eating by laying your knife and fork
parallel across the right side of your plate.
Say "please" and "thank you" to everyone for even
the smallest kindness: those words are very important
in the United States.
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Dining etiquette in the U.S.
14. When going to dinner or lunch, the person who invites
pays, whether it is a man or a woman.
Send a written thank-you note the day after an
invitation
Do not use toothpicks, blow your nose or perform other
bodily activities in front of others. Use the make-up
only in the toilet.
Never smoke around a non-smoker.
Say "Pardon" or "Excuse me" if you sneeze or cough
or do not understand something someone has said.
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Dining etiquette in the U.S.
16. Tech etiquette in the U.S.
Do not yell when you talk at the phone or any other
situation, do your call quietly
Do not text messages or watch the phone during
a face-to-face conversation, if a professor is
speaking in the class, or during other social
interactions where you should pay attention and be
respectful
Turn your cell phone off during movies, shows,
lectures, concerts, meal times and in general when
other people do not want to be distracted
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