This is a presentation I gave at my college (Department of Business Administration Aligarh Muslim University) It is based on an article written by Stewart D Friedman published in the Havard Business Review in April 2008

1. Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life
- by Stewart D. Friedman
Presented by
Manaal
Siddiqui
Urooj Fatima

2. Introduction
• Research - people unsatisfied;
inability to bear leadership in all life
domains (work, home, community &
self)
HOME!
• Achieve 4 way wins, not trade of one WORK! ME!
for the other but mutual value among
them – Total Leadership
• Total – about the whole person
• Leadership- creates sustainable
change to benefit you & the most
important people around you
• Have a clear view of each domain;
design and implement experiments;
analyze the effect

3. Gaining From Total
Leadership participants assess
• Workshop
themselves during
program, report improvements
regularly
• Kenneth Chen, manager, wanted
to be CEO, but other conflicting
goals
• Joined community board to
benefit leadership skills; wanted
to cope up with
community,fiancée and work
• 3 yrs later – on community board
with fiancée, on track of
becoming CEO, enhanced

4. Personal Assessment Workshop Program
Satisfaction Performance
Work Life 20% Work Life 9%
Home Life 28% Home Life 15%
Community Life 31% Community Life 12%
Self 39% Self 25%
• Based on a study of 300 business professionals over a 4 month time period

5. Total Leadership
1. Be Real
Process 3. Be Innovative
2. Be Whole
• Think, write & talk with peer coaches – clarify what’s
important
• An outside perspective challenges you, helps create
innovation & holds you accountable to your commitments
• Identify key stakeholders & expected performance from
them; talk to them
• Result – new ways of making life better, for us & for the
people around us

6. Designing Experiments
• Best Experiments - changes that stakeholders wish from you;
Consider their interests & opinions
• Work Goal - taking advantage of new opportunities for
increasing productivity, reducing hidden costs, etc.
• Home & Community Goal - improving relationships;
contributing more to society
• Self Goal - improving health, finding greater meaning in life.
• Some experiments benefit only single domain directly but
benefit others indirectly
• Main Goal – achieve 4-way win - makes changes sustainable;
everyone benefits

7. Identify Possibilities
• Think of several potential experiments, describe what to do in
each
• Satisfying all domains initially difficult, approach the challenge
systematically
• Work does interfere with personal & family life – Make
more permeable, not thicker, boundaries between
domains
• Identify possibilities that work well in your unique situation
• Question traditional assumptions about how things get done

8. Potential Experiment Designs
• Tracking and Reflecting
• Planning and Organizing
• Rejuvenating and Restoring
• Appreciating and Caring
• Focusing and Concentrating
• Revealing and Engaging
• Time Shifting and “Re-Placing”
• Delegating and Developing
• Exploring and Venturing

9. Getting Started
• Try only 3 experiments at once - Small wins & knowledge
about leadership learned
• Narrow down to the ones which:
 Give best overall ROI
 Most costly in regret
 Allows to practice desired leadership skills
 Fun and moves you towards your vision
• Don’t get too engrossed into the details of any one
experiment
• Well-designed experiments always pay off.

10. Measuring Progress
• Failed experiments helps create better ones in future.
• Set up a scorecard, each experiment on separate sheet with
brief description on top of page
 1st column - goals of each domain
 Middle column – describe result metrics
 3rd column – describe action metrics; refine
scorecard from time to time
• Metrics maybe
objective, subjective, qualitative, quantitative, reported by
you or others, frequently or intermittently observed

11. Small Wins For Big
• Change
Experiments shouldn’t be massive
• Highly ambitious designs usually fail – too much to handle
• Best experiments help us try something new,
minimizing the risks of change
• Opens doors that would otherwise be closed
• Frame experiments as trials – reduces
people’s resistance
• Steps in experiments should be small
and initially achievable, but goals should
be big

12. Conclusions
• People go for Total Leadership because:
 Dissatisfaction due to lack of love for the work
 Feeling ingenuine by not acting according to their
values
 Disconnection from people who matter to them
 Crave for creativity
• Look to achieve 4 way wins that satisfy all life domains
• Form a blueprint of experiments – helps perform
better and create harmony among all domains

13. Conclusions…
• Formulate ways to measure progress.
• Compare results
• Learn from failures; The only way to fail with
an experiment is to fail to learn from it.
• You can be a better leader & have a richer
life, if you are ready and willing to rise to the
challenge