To increase insight of negative or positive effects of anger.
To educate clients on the many ways anger may be expressed.
Anger’s many Faces
Objective: To identify the role(s) anger has served.
Guard against feelings
Defense against shame
Objectives: To identify perception of anger depth.
i) Identify their perception of being angry
ii) Begin the process of recognizing
Objective: To facilitate discussion of experience often defended and not recognized
in traditional talk therapy.
Collage is a valuable exercise
Collage is made by taking pictures, words or making statement.
20-30 minutes to create a collage.
Objective: To recognize familial influence on unhealthy anger.
Unhealthy expressions of anger
Silence as punishment
Objective: To heighten awareness of how thoughts influence feelings
It demonstrates how several persons’ perception of the same event varies
tremendously depending upon a person’s history, expectation, and intent.
Objective: To identify distorted thinking styles.
Disqualifying the positive
Objective: To understand the origins of shame
To understand relationship b/w shame and anger
What is Shame?
Shame is the intense painful feeling
that we are bad and unworthy.
i) I am not good enough.
ii) I’ll never get this job done, so
Objective: To understand shame attacks and to intervene in this negative process.
Addressing shame based thinking
Focusing distorted thinking
What is Shame Attack?
Shame attack occurs when your internal negative beliefs that you are inadequate, stupid,
ugly, or incompetent are re-engaged.
I’ll lose my job. They will be sorry they hired me.
Identify it for what it is
This is a shame attack. I am feeling less than….and catastrophizing (only seeing
Stop the thinking
Check the reality
Get outside feedback
Look at the origin of the shaming statement.
Objective: To recognize the cycle of the anger process.
Starting Point: Anger awareness cycle sequence consist of five major components.
Objective: To identify how change in thought influences change in
feelings and behavior.
To identify how change in behavior can create change in
thoughts and feelings.
Starting Point: Analyzing the triggers behind the anger.
Ask clients to think:-
What were your thoughts just before that moment?
What was going on inside of you (feelings) ?
Objective: To recognize varying degrees of anger.
Write the following words on the board to assess the different levels of anger.
Objective: To articulate caring feelings.
To identify respectful behaviors.
Starting Point: Making clients to use words such as
Please, Thank you, I love you.
Objective: To develop conflict resolution skills.
Starting Point: Angry persons may ask for what they want, but if they don’t get it. They may:-
Making clients follow the fair fighting rules.
i) Tell people what you want i) Make fun of others or name call
ii) Stick to one issue at a time ii) Hit, push, hold or threaten to do so.
iii) Sit down to talk iii) Stand up and yell
iv) Listen iv) Make faces
v) Focus on the specific behavior you want v) Attack the other’s personality
vi) Be flexible, willing to change your mind vi) Interupt
Objective: To practice relaxation techniques.
To reduce internal stress.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Objective: To recognize the interplay of caffeine, sugar, and nicotine with angry
To identify and reinforce healthy eating patterns.
Three Nutrition Demons
1. Do you smoke? Would you like to reduce your use of nicotine?
2. In what foods or drinks do you consume caffeine? i.e coffe, tea, soda, chocolate or other.
3. How much sugar is in your diet?
Objective: To identify potential anger triggers and develop appropriate plan of
Triggers can be anything as follows:-
Objective: To utilize the philosophy of Twelve steps programs in anger recovery.
Step#1: Admit you are angry and your life has become problematic as a result of anger.
Step#2: Demonstrate a willingness to do something about your anger.
Step#3: Take a personal inventory of how anger has affected your life
Step#4: Using your personal inventory admit to yourself and to your God that you have been hurtful
with your anger.
Step#5: Make a written list of those you have harmed.
Step#6: Make direct amends to such people whenever possible.
Step#7: Continue to take a personal inventory of whether or not you are angry.
Objective: To recognize fear related to expressing feelings.
What are the feelings that are the easiest to demonstrate in front of people?
What are the more difficult feelings for you to show people?
Take one of the difficult feelings, when you begin to experience it do you mask it
with other feeling?
Identify the fear that gets in the way of you showing that emotion?
Objective: To identify behaviors related to experiencing fear.
To identify behaviors related to experiencing sadness.
Recognize the feeling and own it to yourself
Recognize the feeling and share it with someone else
Engage in a relaxation technique
Engage In spiritual practice
Objective: To explore the role of a higher power and spiritual practices.
Take a short history of client’s religious involvement.
Describe any unpleasant experiences or feelings related to belief in God.
What is your present belief about God?
What is the most positive feature of you spiritual life at present?
Objective: To introduce the concept of spiritual practice
It is a process of going inward to the part of yourself that connects to the larger
Practice of silence
Living a thought full life
Objective: To identify the use of available tools for recovery.
Practice positive thinking
Utilize relaxation techniques
Practice counter thoughts to negative thinkning
Pray and meditate
Participate in fun activity
Objective: To use newly learned cognitive and behavioral skills.
Identify relapse triggers
Make a plan of action
Objective: To experience a healthy closure in treatment.
Slowly breath in and out.
Say to yourself:
I deserve to have a healthy relationship with myself.
Today, acceptance is the answer to all my problems
Today, I will let my Higher Power guide my journey
Today, I chose to release my anger.
Today, I chose to live my life with complete peace.
I am precious.
I am worthy
I love my self
I am able to receive love and support from others.