Resources

1. COURTSHIP, DATING
and MARRIAGE
ALFRACE C. TASI
BPE-4A

2. Activity 1: FOUR PICS ONE WORD
Identify what word best describes the pictures.

4. COURTSHIP

6. TRADITIONAL
COURTSHIP

8. DATING

10. MARRIAGE

12. Courtship is the period in a
couple’s relationship which
precedes their engagement and
marriage.
COURTSHIP

13. During courtship, a couple gets to
know each other and decides if
there will be an engagement.
COURTSHIP

14. Courtship is also a test of
compatibility between the two
persons.
COURTSHIP

15. Courtship is an opportunity to
know the background of each
other, including the family where
each one belongs.
COURTSHIP

16. Different
Traditional
Practices
of Courtship
in the Philippines

17. Tapat
▪ serenading (harana)
▪ “to be in front of the
woman’s house”
ILOCOS REGION

18. Balagtasan
▪ The suitor begins singing a
romantic song, and then the
courted lady responds by
singing, too.
TAGALOG REGION

19. Rooster Courtship
▪ The rooster is assigned
to be the "negotiator",
wherein the male
chicken is left to stay in
the home of the
courted to crow every
single morning for the
admired lady's family.
LUZON

20. Naninilong
▪ “serenading from
the basement”
BULACAN

21. Gestures and Actions
▪ Serenading with Tagalog love
songs accompanied by a guitar
▪ Doing household chores
▪ Pay respect to the woman’s
parents by saying “Mano po.”
BATANGAS

22. Taga-amo
▪ means “tamer”
▪ is a form of love potion
or charm
Palabas
▪ means “show or drama”
▪ The suitor pretends to
commit suicide
PANGASINAN

23. Ca-i-sing (Ifugaos)
Ebgan (Kalingas)
Pangis (Tingguians)
▪ A man and a woman are separated into
“houses.”
▪ The house for the males is called ato,
while the house for females is known as
the olog or agamang.
KALINGA

24. Pasaguli
▪ Love riddles
▪ To assess the sentiments of the
parents of both suitor and the woman
Pabalic / Pabalik
▪ is done to settle the price in a form of
dowry that will be received by the
woman from the courting man
PALAWAN

25. ▪ Balak (serenade)
▪ Love letters (sent through a
trusted friend or relative of the
woman)
▪ Presents (to the woman and her
relatives)
▪ Love potions
CEBU

26. Pangagad / Paninilbihan
▪ The suitor accomplishes
household and farm chores for
the family of the woman
(approximately 1 year before
they get married).
▪ Subok – a trial or test period for
the serving suitor
LEYTE

27. ▪ Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or
magpasumbahi
▪ A suitor would threaten to stab his
heart while in front of the courted
woman’s father.
▪ If the father of the woman refuses
to give her daughter’s hand, the
suitor is smitten by a knife.
TAUSUGS of MINDANAO

28. ▪ Send a knife or a spear as a gift to
the home of the courted woman for
inspection.
▪ Accepting the weapon is equivalent
to accepting the man’s romantic
intention and advances.
BAGOBOS of MINDANAO

29. Dating

30. Dating is a social activity which
involves two or more people
generally assessing each other’s
suitability for a potential
relationship.
DATING

31. Dating can also be enjoyed as part
of an already active relationship.
DATING

32. Dating is a form of courtship
consisting of social activities done
by two people, as partners in an
intimate relationship or as a
spouse.
DATING

33. Dating is an act of meeting and
engaging in some mutually agreed
upon social activity, together as a
couple.
DATING

34. What are the
types
of dating?

35. 1. Standard Date – involves two people
2. Double Date – two couples go on a
date at the same time and place
3. Group Date – where any number of
couples can enjoy a date
TYPES OF DATING

36. Importance
of Dating

37. 1. Strengthen the relationship
2. Spend quality time with each other
3. Observe the other person’s character
4. Know one another better
5. Know one’s strengths and
weaknesses
IMPORTANCE OF DATING

38. 6. Reveal any potential problems the
partners may have
7. Develop affection and respect for
each other
IMPORTANCE OF DATING

39. Engagement

40. Engagement is a period of
agreement entered between two
people in love for them to be able
to know each other and their
families well enough to be sure
that they are ready and are suited
for life-long companionship.
ENGAGEMENT

41. Marriage

42. Marriage is the most enjoyable
human relationship.
MARRIAGE

43. Marriage is the most significant
event that may happen to
one’s life.
MARRIAGE

44. It take only two people, a man
and a woman, to unite and
make a successful relationship
as married couple.
MARRIAGE

45. Marriage is a lifelong
partnership of a man and a
woman.
MARRIAGE

46. Marriage is a bond between
two people who continue to
grow and develop their best
qualities as human beings.
MARRIAGE

47. What are the
factors to consider in
choosing a lifetime
partner?

48. 1. Good character
a. God-fearing
b. Responsible and honest
c. Hardworking and industrious
d. Respectful and compassionate
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

49. 2. Maturity
a. Handles relationship responsibly
b. Makes wise and well thought-out
decisions
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

50. 3. Fidelity
a. Makes the relationship lasting
b. Considers the relationship sacred
c. Sincere and true to promises
made to one’s partner
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

51. 4. Commitment
a. Makes peaceful and lasting
relationship
b. Dedicated in fulfilling
responsibilities
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

52. 5. Love
a. Strengthens the relationship with
the partner
b. Understands one’s partner
c. Endures till death
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

53. 6. Economic Readiness
a. Aims for a better future of the
family
b. Able to provide for the needs of
the family
c. Maintains stable job or business
that can support a family
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

54. 7. Physical Maturity
a. Has a healthy body
b. Accepts and is proud of partner’s
physical features
FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

55. FIXED
MARRIAGE

56. Fixed or arranged marriages is a union
between a groom and bride who are
selected by other parties rather than by
each other. The marriages are usually
fixed by the parents, grandparents, or
other older and respected relatives or
members of the community.

57. The following are some kinds of fixed marriages in the Philippines:
1. Pikot- This is a forced marriage or shotgun marriage wherein one gets married against his or her
free will. This is usually upon the command of the parents.
2. Buya - This is the parents' prearranged or preplanned future marriage of their child. The marrying
couple do not go through the usual dating and courting stages of a relationship. The parents or the
family sets the standards and guidelines of who marries their child. Wealthier families arrange for their
children to marry into a friend's family of similar status even as early as childhood.
3. Elope - This is when someone runs away secretly with a lover, especially with the intention of
getting married. This is done without the consent or knowledge of the parents.
4. Dowry - This is a process wherein the property of the parent is distributed to a daughter at her
marriage rather than at the holder's death (mortis causa). This process establishes and ensures conjugal
fund and assures support (endowment) in widowhood and eventually used to provide for the needs of
her sons and daughters.

58. Activity 2: ROLE PLAY

59. Activity 2: Role Playing
To fully understand courtship, dating
and marriage, form a group and decide
on which to portray. Your group will be
given (15) minutes to prepare for the
presentation. Be guided by the scoring
rubric to be used in the presentation.

60. ›Rubric for the activity

61. THANKS
MR. CARLO JUSTINO J. LUNA
Malabanias Integrated School
Angeles City