This document discusses criteria for assessing sex addiction and provides information on sponsorship. It outlines three criteria that are used to assess sex addiction which parallel guidelines for substance dependency, alcoholism, and compulsive gambling. These criteria include loss of control, continuation despite adverse consequences, and obsession or preoccupation. The document also discusses what sponsorship is, how it works, and tips for being a sponsor, such as being available to sponsees, emphasizing the steps, and not taking on more than you can handle. It emphasizes that sponsorship is a working relationship that helps both the sponsor and sponsee maintain recovery.
1. Criteria for assessing Sex Addiction Closely parallels guidelines for assessing Substance Dependency, Alcoholism, and Compulsive Gambling: Criteria Loss of control Continuation despite adverse consequences Obsession or preoccupation Sponsorship: What it is and How it works 1
2. Criteria for assessing Sex Addiction The presence of all three criteria operationally defines addiction to any drug or behavior Sponsorship: What it is and How it works 2
16. How it works8 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
17. Goals What a sponsor Does Choose one Become one 9 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
18. Agenda Temporary Sponsorship Why have a Sponsor? What does a Sponsor Do? Guidelines for Primary 4.5 Tips on Sponsorship 10 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
19. Why have a Sponsor? Even when you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there -Will Rogers 11 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
20. Why have a Sponsor? The Elevator to Recovery is ‘out of order.’ You’ll just have to take the Steps. -RhondaGates
21. What does a sponsor do? Serves as a Guide; leads by Example Is available by phone, visit or email Does not pretend to know all the answers 13 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
22. What Does a Sponsor Not Do? Give Medical or Legal Advice Attempt to Control our Lives Encourage an Unhealthy Dependence Be a Therapist Be Our Banker Take advantage of a Sponsee (p15) 14 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
23. Temporary Sponsorship.1 Introduces us to People in the program Gets us started on the Steps, 1, 2, 3 15 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
24. TemporarySponsorship.2 Is Available to the Sponsee via phone, face or email Answers Questions, Explains the Program & Steps Encourages Sponsee to work on the Steps 16 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
25. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.1 Has what we want Walks the talk Has a sponsor Emphasizes the Steps 17 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
26. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.2 Gender (orientation) is the same as ours Has more time in recovery than we have Has worked the Steps ( at least more than we have) 18 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
27. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.3 Is available for telephone calls and meetings Emphasizes spiritual aspect of the program. 19 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
28. Qualities of a Good Sponsor Works the Program; has a Sponsor themselves Avoids taking other’s Inventory (gossip) Values anonymity of Sponsee (can keep a secret; practices confidentiality) Shares from their Experience, Strength and Hope with everyone in program Is Honest at all cost
29. The Old Approach: No Sponsor 21 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
30. The Old Approach: No Sponsor 22 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works Paradigm Shift
31. The New Approach: TeamWork 23 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
32. Tip #1: Sponsorship is not a life-time commitment 24 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
54. Successful Sponsorship SeriesThe Care and Nurture of Sponsors and Sponsees Part Two: Developing Sponsorship Skills and Relationships What do we do with our Sponsee now that we have one? What Works? Best Practices of Addicts and Alcoholics.
55. Sponsorship “You know you are doing it right when you don’t give a shit.” 47 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
56. Recovery Sayings… Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow. -Swedish Proverb We can do what I cannot do -Anonymous It takes two to speak the truth. One to speak and another to hear. -Henry David Thoreau 48 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
57. Recovery Sayings… I have to let go of the right to be right I must lay down the weapons of self in order to pick up the tools of the program “I have an inferiority complex but it isn’t a very good one.” We are damaged but not broken. An addict is an egomaniac with an inferiority complex. 49 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works
12 Step Sponsorship:Giving Service -- Getting Serenity
Motivate You to choose a SponsorEncourage You to become a SponsorDevelop a Better Understanding of What a Sponsor Does
Do I have a Sponsor? Why do I resist getting or using a Sponsor?Temporary vs Permanent SponsorshipWhat does a Sponsor Do?3.5 Tips on Sponsorship
Even when you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there-Will RogersThe Elevator to Recovery is ‘out of order.’ You’ll just have to take the Steps.-RhondaGates
Serves as a GuideServes by ExampleIs available by phone, visit or emailDoes not pretend to know all the answersWorks the Program, has a SponsorAvoids taking other’s InventoryShares Experience, Strength and HopeIs Honest at all cost
Give Medical or Legal AdviceAttempt to Control our LivesEncourage an Unhealthy DependenceBe a TherapistBe Our BankerTake advantage of a Sponsee (p15)
Introduces us to PeopleGets us started on the Steps
Stays in constant contact (phone or email)Answers Questions, Explains the ProgramEncourages the Sponsee to work the steps
Has what we wantWalks the talkHas a sponsorEmphasizes the Steps
Gender is the same as ours (same-sex)Has more time in recovery than we doHas worked more Steps than we have
Is available for telephone calls and meetingsEmphasizes spiritual aspect of the program
The Old Approach: No SponsorIsolation kills more addicts than any other thing
The Old Approach: No SponsorIsolation kills more addicts than any other thing
The New Approach: TeamWorkReovery is about moving outside of ourselves
Sponsorship is not a life-time commitmentFire your Sponsee if necessary
It is a working relationship that works as long as you work i
Never ask a sponsee to do something you would not do yourself
Don’t take on a load you cannot carry
Remember: We carry the Message, Not the Person
We become a sponsor because it “keeps us sober
We become a sponsor because it is the one thing that keeps us sober and growing
You know you are doing it right when you don’t give a shit
Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow.-Swedish ProverbWe can do what I cannot do-AnonymousIt takes two to speak the truth. One to speak and another to hear.-Henry David Thoreau
I have to let go of the right to be right I must lay down the weapons of self in order to pick up the tools of the program“I have an inferiority complex but it isn’t a very good one.”We are damaged but not broken.An addict is an egomaniac with an inferiority complex.
n Greek mythology, Sisyphus (pronounced /ˈsɪsəfəs/; Greek: Σίσυφοςsísypʰos[ˈsisifos] (help·info)) was a King punished in Tartarus by being cursed to roll a huge boulderup a hill, only to watch it roll back down, and to repeat this throughout eternity.The word sisyphean means, according to the American Heritage Dictionary "endless and unavailing, as labor or a task.“ Could also refer to addiction. Doing the same thing and getting the same results.