1. A FEW THINGS TO
REMEMBER WHEN
LOOKING FOR DATING
SITES

2. • Technology is increasingly present in every facet of our
lives. Everything from grocery shopping to college
courses are available online.
• More people are turning to the internet for relationships as
well. Many people are into a specific kind of relationship
experience. This is where BDSM dating sites may come
into play.
• First, BDSM is a label. It's a sort of general reference for a
plethora of activities and consensual interactions.

3. • This fact can be important to remember when searching
for dating websites. The 'idea' of bondage singles has
become incredibly popular in the "mainstream
underground." This means that there is a separation
between those looking to 'dabble,' and true practitioners.
Those truly interested in the lifestyle, and finding people
to play with, might need to be careful.
• What you should be wary of are websites that sound like
they cater to your tastes, but actually don't. Images like
spanking, or very light bondage can be used to portray an
interest that isn't really there. Scenes like these are
referred to by some as "vanilla websites." So, you find a
site supposedly dedicated to people like yourself, and
you're so excited, until you realize the site is full of fakers.

4. • A really important thing to look at is the language a
specific site uses. Words like 'slave,' Dominant, and
Submissive, are pretty reliable indicators that you're in the
right place. Another thing to note is that fetishism is often
very closely related to the world of B&D. So that is
another word you can look for in your searches.
• Once you've begun your search, and you've managed to
begin finding sites, there are a few more things to
consider. They will generally be broken into two
categories: paid memberships, and free websites.
Although opinions vary on this, many believe that if you're
serious, you'll probably be better off going with a paid
website.

5. • The reason for this is because so many free BDSM dating
sites are set up like social networking situations. This can
lead to a lack of accountability. Are you dealing with an
actual person, or someone just pretending?
• Paid memberships generally indicate a higher level of
commitment for all concerned. In quite a few, you may
begin with a free registration or trial period, and then
upgrade later. You can get a feel for whether it's the right
community for you, then upgrade to receive all the
additional benefits that come with it.