Attracting narcissists can often be a pattern for us. Find out which traits magnetize narcissists, so you can make new choices.

1. What Attracts Narcissists
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2. Attracting narcissists is one of the most
common toxic patterns I see in my coaching
practice.
There are certain traits that magnetize
narcissists towards us.

3. I’m going to briefly outline 3 common traits that
attract narcissists.
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4. The first trait that attracts narcissists:
● Being quick to give people the benefit of the
doubt.
● Nice trait to have, but overrated.

5. ● When we give people the benefit of the
doubt, we create a story about them
● Be neutral and allow people space to show
true selves.
● Can then decide whether to stay or leave

6. Second trait that attracts narcissists:
● Being an emotional caretaker.
● Feeling responsible for other people’s
emotional well-being.

7. ● Taking responsibility for fixing their
problems.
● Not allowing them to feel any negative
feelings
● Thinking it’s your job to make everything
better for them

8. Narcissists expect emotional catering, so
having this trait means you’re aligning yourself
up for attracting a narcissistic partner.

9. The third trait that attracts narcissists:
Being raised by narcissistic parents
One or both parents were narcissists

10. ● From childhood, you were trained to believe
only other people’s needs matter
● Not your place to have needs
● Take responsibility for meeting other
people’s expectations, no matter how
unreasonable

11. ● Believing your own needs and expectations,
no matter how basic, are a massive
imposition on others.
● Trained to meet other people’s needs, while
being allowed to have none of your own

12. For more information on how to recognize and
avoid toxic people, as well as how to overcome
unhealthy relationship patterns, please visit:
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