1. My Most Important Rule I must do as I am told when I am told

2. Is what you are doing helping you?

3. Is this choice going to help you get what you want?

4. You are the boss of you You decide the choices that you make

5. “ I statements” – these are used to avoid confrontation and to provide a win/win situation so that no-one is backed into a corner. “ I would appreciate it if you returned to your seat.” “ If you .............................., then I could .................” it is more of a request and does not sound so demanding and confrontational. “ When you ................... I will.................’” sets up a certain expectation and if repeated enough often, usually leads to the student doing as they have been asked to do.

6. Make a statement – not ask a question! A question of “Would you like to read to me?” can bring about a polite reply of “No” Statement – “Which of these two books are you going to read to me?”

7. Distract and Divert

8. Front Loading In 5 minutes we are going to be packing up.... this is what I would like to see happening