27. The best defense against
the manipulation of our attention
is to determine for ourselves — in
advance —
how we want to invest it.
Elkhonon Goldberg
83. Objectives of SBI
• Specific behavioral strategy
• What feeling-goals were associated with the
goal?
• Motivational level on a scale from 1-10
84. Benefits of SBI
• Affirms the value of coachees’ unique internal
experience
• Emphasizes the culture of self-regulation
• Encourages metacognition
85. Assumptions of SBI
• Everybody’s doing the best they can
• Every behavior serves a function
• Behavior is not incomprehsible or random
• Behavior follows patterns which reveal
themselves to the curious observer free of
prejudice or blame or theory
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5 MINUTE OVERVIEW
An intervention to increase coachees’ insight about their unique and specific patterns for desired and undesired behaviors. SBI is an approach which is non-judgmental but reality-based, and invites participants to fall in love with reality and to desire reality even more than we desire denial and excuses. SBI assumes that behavior is logical, not random and not incomprehensible. That our behavior follows patterns which are discernible by the curious and engaged observer free of prejudice and blame and theory.
Grandma’s # cake – mess up 1 thing…Likewise, you have a recipe…. – change just 1 thing, and u get a diff. outcome.
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If you drive your car off a cliff you will be punished. Not “artifically” but naturalistically and organically. I want my client to know how to text when texting is exactly the right choice. And how to resist text messages in settings which organically punish texting. (like what?)I want her to know exactly when to swear. And to know how to avoid swears in settings which naturalistically punish swearing. (like what?)
If you drive your car off a cliff you will be punished. Not “artifically” but naturalistically and organically. I want my client to know how to text when texting is exactly the right choice. And how to resist text messages in settings which organically punish texting. (like what?)I want her to know exactly when to swear. And to know how to avoid swears in settings which naturalistically punish swearing. (like what?)
Assign some memory task for later SBI work. 4 words?But 1st, some background….
Clarifying the 2nd question
Clarifying the 2nd question
Clarifying the 1stquestionWhy is it important that our clients are engaged in commitments and obligations and relationships which are fun?
Feel free to substitute a more meaningful word: engaging, pleasant, rewarding. (but not “necessary” or “the right thing” b/c these are more abstract and more distal to the brain-based experience of reward). Fun is proximal to the neurochemistry of actual human brain functioning.
A big leap: the 2 questions are intimately bound together
Motivational blueprintAlternatives: authority, peer group, mediaNB: many of us are shaped and influenced by peer group, authority, and media (buddha, dharma, sangha). U and your coachee may acquiesce to different authority, and u cn still do great work tgthrAuthority of the bodyBut what if what feels good to me is to eat 5 chocolate pies or to punch the mailman in the face? Is that okay?Two responses: 1) value of community; snd 2) neuroscience (emory research)Emory University neuroscientists James Rilling and Gregory Berns. They found that the act of helping another person triggers activity in the caudate nucleus and anterior cingulate cortex regions of the brain, the parts involved in pleasure and reward.Ss instructed to plan 5 acts of kindness during week. Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, 9, 111-131.
Google calendar w/ text f/uSupportive check-ins
Can’t decide whether it’s important? Watch tvvs study french: make it vivid
Body doubleHarder than a 3/10?Increase saliency: stimulantrx, “nothing tastes as good as thin feels” – brain cant tell the difference b/t real and imagined….but real is vivider, pairing dull/difficult tasks w/ intrinsic reward (e.g cape, med student)
EXPLAIN WKSHOP’S PURPOSE, INCREASE SALIENCE, RELATE TO PRIOR K’LEDGE
STUDY BOX
Make task shorter, build in breaks, use salient r+ for afterwards, make steps more explicit, make task more appealing (beat the clock, write steps down on slips of paper, in jar)
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Getting to the gym – esp after full day’s work – is harder than a 3 / 10.
If you drive your car off a cliff you will be punished. Not “artifically” but naturalistically and organically. I want my client to know how to text when texting is exactly the right choice. And how to resist text messages in settings which organically punish texting. (like what?)I want her to know exactly when to swear. And to know how to avoid swears in settings which naturalistically punish swearing. (like what?)
Delete 30 FB friendsDelete 3 “friends”Delete 2 commitments or obligations which arent fun or important (trauma survivor at txgiving; west boylstonhxical society; I decided to stop eating foods that make me feel bad)
All of this inquiry re: what’s fun and what’s important requires insight, self-knowledge,metacognition. Our clients and coachees need to be able to quickly answer questions like: does this opportunity or option connect to my body’s way of experiencing reward and motivation? Will this connect me to my yay! Or woo hoo! Because my client’s yay and woo hoo help him stay on task with her core values and goals and purposes.
Tyrany of the zipcode
Photo of me at sand dunes in idaho
Good? Where, exactly?Happy? Tell me more. Talking about the “feeling”Pen / arm / emotionTravel irritations? Where / what exactly?Warm, affirming, + social interaction this wk’end? Where, what?
Anatomy of an event
With that background: understanding the executive challenge of asking – with each behavioral choice or commitment or obligation or relationship – is this task fun/rewarding, and is this task related to my core purposes? And understanding that the neurotransmitter of reward/fun shows up in our bodies in distinctive patterns we might call our “motivational blueprint,” we’re ready to do SBI.
29 times a month he made curfew. That’s great executive fx !
You can also ask about the other 2 times. What was different when you didn’t make curfew? What did you think or see or say to yourself? What did you do that led to your showing up exactly when you did?
Why aren’t we getting exactly what we want, all the time?
Why aren’t we getting exactly what we want, all the time?
MYSTERY BOXHAVE ST / VP PUT NAMES OF ATTENDEES IN HATAPPENDIX A p. a2: TO DO
