Social Media Training for Youth Leaders, for York Diocese, November 2014.
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- 1. Social Media Training for Youth Leaders Dr Bex Lewis, Digital Fingerprint URL: http://j.mp/smyouth-york November 2014 for: http://dioceseofyork.org.uk Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International
- 3. Published by Lion Hudson February 2014
- 4. Stand up if you…
- 7. The End is Nigh!
- 12. Digital Culture: It Matters!
- 14. The Toolbox
- 19. http://www.teambuildingfordigitals.com http://www.humankinetics.com /products/all-products/Team- Building-Activities-for-the- Digital-Age
- 20. Are they digital natives?
- 24. The CHILDWISE “Digital Lives” Report asked children to go back in time and explain to Victorian children what the internet was. Many of the oldest tried to explain how the internet works, but others, and especially the younger children, focused on what the internet enables them to do – a place to communicate, to find things out, to play games, to create and have fun. Several referred explicitly to the all-encompassing nature of what is on offer to them via the internet. (My italics.) Raising Children in a Digital Age, p64
- 29. http://www.childrenandyouth.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/Social-Media-training-ideas.pdf Agree/Disagree statements • On social networking sites such as Facebook, Bebo etc, it’s okay to put your address and telephone number on your profile page. • There is no harm in putting the name of the school you attend on your social networking profile page. • It’s easy to forget the Internet is a public space. • Once photos have been posted on the Internet they can’t be removed. • If you have been chatting to someone who knows someone who knows someone who knows someone you know, does this make them your friend? Should you be chatting to them online? • People with bad intentions use the Internet to make friends with children/young people. • If you were on the street chatting to someone you liked the look of but didn’t know, would you give them your mobile number? • When using social media sites you would only write things on your wall or post pictures that you would be happy for your parents to see. • It’s illegal to send indecent pictures of yourself or anyone else. • When chatting to people on Internet or through games consoles, you can tell if they are telling the truth.
- 30. To monitor or not to monitor?
- 31. Is privacy dead?
- 33. Permanency • Facebook has appeared in the press several times as its privacy settings are by default quite open, and can be hard to find and change. Many people believe young people don’t care about privacy, but research has demonstrated that they do and are largely confident about managing their privacy settings, with less than 1 per cent describing the process on Facebook as “very difficult”. Some also feel that online spaces offer more safety, privacy, and control than offline ones (especially if they share a room), with one girl (fourteen to fifteen) saying, “The real world’s not that safe, is it?” • Raising Children in a Digital Age, p89
- 34. • EXERCISE: Try a Google search of your child’s name, and its variations (consider doing this with your child). Check variations of your name; for example, I would look for “Rebecca Lewis” as well as “Bex Lewis”. • Encourage your child to think about what their profile would look like if an alien landed and just had their social media to read. • List the types of information they are sharing, the issues associated with sharing, and the appropriate actions that should be taken to avoid problems arising. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p98
- 42. EXERCISE: Bearing in mind that we are looking for values that work offline as well as online, have a discussion and get your child to draw up a list of the top ten values that they want to demonstrate online (e.g. honesty, friendliness, etc.). If they are keen, consider a list of behaviour to avoid as well, and the consequences of engaging in those negative practices. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p41
- 43. Just because you can … doesn’t mean you should!
- 44. H.A.L.T. If you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, step away from the keyboard/keypad and deal with that issue first. http://redcatco.com/communication/stop-posting-social-media/
- 45. Relationships…
- 46. One noticeable difference in the digital era, especially as the social platforms have stabilized, is that it’s difficult to leave anyone behind, which can be delicate to negotiate: Generally, it is socially unacceptable to delete a Friend one knows. When this is done, it is primarily after a fight or breakup. In these situations, the act of deletion is spiteful and intentionally designed to hurt the other person. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.106
- 48. The Bullied The Bully The Bystander
- 49. The Bullied
- 50. Signs specific to cyber-bullying? •Long hours on the computer • Secretive Internet use •Screen minimization •Refusing to log on or answer phone •Extreme possessiveness of phone, to which constant nervous looks are given.
- 51. 5.5 71
- 52. Emotionally: • No shame: not their fault • Don’t threaten their online access • Spend extra time together: time for communication • Nurture self-confidence
- 53. Practically: • Don’t respond • Keep copies of messages as ‘proof’ • Understand how to ‘block’ accounts •Talk to child re contacting school •Think hard before talking to parents of bully •Get phone number blocked
- 54. The Bully
- 55. Disinhibition The bully doesn’t see the distress that they cause, feels safe from capture, and protected by the technology, able to say things that they would never say offline.
- 56. ITV, February 2005 •One in five think sending a message in cyberspace is less damaging than face to face insults •Half the teenagers polled believe it is ok to say things online that you would not in person •A third of youths say they troll because their friends do so too.
- 57. Zero- Tolerance?
- 58. Any solutions? •Explain what bullying is. •Monitor their e-devices •Ensure a consistent approach with school/youth-group •Are they avoiding being bullied by becoming a bully?
- 59. Any solutions? • Assign him/her a book to read about bullying • Get them to write an essay on the dangers of bullying. • Remove their Internet and mobile privileges (for a fixed period). • Assign him/her to community service or other time-consuming activity. • Encourage them to apologise and take responsibility.
- 60. The Bystander(s)
- 61. The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing Quote commonly (and probably erroneously) attributed to Edmund Burke
- 64. Digital Allies
- 66. Matthew 25:40 Whatever you did for one of my brothers or sisters, no matter how unimportant they seemed, you did for me.
- 67. Increased time spent online will most likely increase exposure to negative experiences – but also the positive opportunities. Nancy Willard, a cyberbullying expert, calls for us to work on the “understanding that the vast majority of young people want to make good choices, do not want to be harmed, and do not want to see their friends or others harmed”. We can’t control their whole environment, online or offline, so parents need to give their children the capability to deal with problems as they come across them. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.63
- 69. Some useful sites for those needing help • http://www.papyrus-uk.org (preventing young suicide) • http://www.thetrevorproject.org (suicide prevention for LGBTQ youth) • http://www.childline.org.uk/ (confidential helpline for those under 19) • http://www.beatbullying.org (advice about cyberbullying, and opportunities to report your own situation, or someone else’s) • http://twloha.com/vision (US based site for those struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicidal thoughts) • http://www.athinline.org (MTV site for those suffering digital abuse) • http://www.itgetsbetter.org (for those suffering LGBT abuse)
- 70. Ferguson, a professor from Texas A&M who researches technologies’ effects on human behaviour: “Youth today are the least aggressive, most civically involved, and mentally well in several generations .” ‘Imagining the Internet: Millennials will benefit and suffer due to their hyperconnected lives’, Pew Research Center, http://www.pewinternet.org/~/media//Files/Reports/2012/PIP_Future_of_Internet_2012_Young_brains_PDF.pdf, 29/02/12
- 71. Stranger Danger “On average 11 children are killed by a stranger each year in the UK … there are more than 11 million children in the UK” (Netmums)
- 72. • EXERCISE: Take time to talk to your child about hopes and fears for online friendships. Establish ground rules for meeting up with a new “friend”, including meeting in a public place, being with friends, having a back-up plan, and agreeing not to be left alone with that person. • Raising Children in a Digital Age, p125
- 75. http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2013/nov/10/teenagers-messenger-apps-facebook-exodus • No surprise, then, that Facebook is no longer a place for uninhibited status updates about pub antics, but an obligatory communication tool that younger people maintain because everyone else does. • All the fun stuff is happening elsewhere. On their mobiles.
- 77. LUNCH
- 78. Sex Talk (Porn, Pedophilia and Sexting)
- 80. The media have focused heavily on the “dangers of porn” online for children, to the extent that many parents feel they are powerless to stop it. Professor Livingstone adds that debate in this area can be difficult, as the media tend to mix up a range of complex issues into one big scare story. The EU Kids Online survey demonstrated that only 6,000 of the 25,000 children surveyed had encountered even a single sexual image online; still a high number but not every child, in contrast to the media impression. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p144
- 81. Porn We need to have more to say than ‘porn is bad’ • ‘Rite of Passage’? = No • ‘Being a Man’? = No • Girls see as harmless? = ? • Education? = Best example? • In churches, if waiting til marriage = not ‘doing’!
- 83. • EXERCISE: Identify stories about grooming from the press, and get children to discuss how they might have behaved differently, and to think about possible conclusions “if” different choices had been made. • Raising Children in a Digital Age, p152
- 84. Keeping within the Law
- 85. Physical Setup Brain Changes Addiction Multitasking Conversational Ability Couch Potatoes
- 86. The core signs of addiction • The activity becomes the most important thing in a person’s life. • Moods change in accordance with the activity. • Continually higher doses of an activity are required to achieve the original sensations. • Withdrawal symptoms such as anxiety and depression are experienced when the activity is stopped. • Increasing conflict occurs with those in the closest social circle. • There is a tendency to return to the activity after periods of control (relapse). • The “sunk cost” fallacy is experienced: not wanting to abandon something after so much time has been sunk into it. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p168
- 87. Screen time and family dynamics
- 88. Gaming
- 89. Does the digital age offer life opportunities?
- 90. Can social media be positive? • Wide range of information • Increased connectivity and collaboration • Educational benefits • Global nature of online • New creative opportunities • Learning criticality • Increased accessibility for those with disabilities
- 91. • EXERCISE: Go to Wikipedia and search for something that you know a fair bit about. What information do you support, and what would you challenge? • Raising Children in a Digital Age, p196
- 92. Do it for them Do it with them Watch while they do it Let them do it for themselves.
- 93. (Grandparents, teachers) Youth leaders
- 94. Looking to the future
- 95. • EXERCISE: Have some fun with your child, undertaking some “no-limits futurology”. What do they think life will look like in x number of years? Think about creating a “souvenir” book to bring back out at that time in the future. • Raising Children in a Digital Age, p213
- 97. As a youth leader, it is a very convenient way of messaging and informing members of our youth group, and inviting them to events and [connecting with] each other when we're not together… Sadly for your child to be the only one in a group NOT to have access to Facebook can itself be a matter for isolation - they may not get invitations to youth events for example, and ridicule and bullying for being the 'odd one out'. (Parent, 16-19)
- 101. http://www.methodist.org.uk/ministers-and-office-holders/technology-and-church/social-media-guidelines Methodist Church Guidelines • The principles applied to this are: • Be credible. Be accurate, fair, thorough and transparent. • Be consistent. Encourage constructive criticism and deliberation. • Be cordial, honest and professional at all times. Be responsive. When you gain insight, share it where appropriate. • Be integrated. Wherever possible, align online participation with other communications. • Be a good representative of the Methodist Church. Remember that you are an ambassador for Christ, the Church and your part of it. Disclose your position as a member or officer of the Church, making it clear when speaking personally. • LetGalatians 5:22-26 guide your behaviour. • Be respectful: respect confidentiality. Respect the views of others even where you disagree.
- 105. http://j.mp/1okEq4f
- 106. http://j.mp/1lSUVom
- 107. http://j.mp/1hsYvAv
- 108. Permissions/Consent • Parent’s permission before contact • Consent for use of photographs • Catchall statement for registration forms – assumes opt-in unless opt-out.
- 109. Language • Use clear, unambiguous language, avoiding abbreviations that can be mis-interpreted. • Take care with sign-offs
- 110. Accountability • Leaders/Young People develop agreed ‘Internet Guidelines’ • Line manager // access to social media accounts • Second leader ‘in the room’ • Save messages/disclosures for use later if required.
- 111. Confidentiality • Be prepared for ‘deeper’ disclosures • Be clear on how much advice/source you can give. • Add a disclaimer on how you might need to share their information.
- 112. Boundaries • Work-specific device? • Don’t keep images of young people on personal devices • Define curfews
- 113. SOME THOUGHTS ON SAFEGUARDING
- 118. Focus on the Positives; Respect the Online
- 119. In Your Context…
- 120. URL: http://j.mp/smyouth-york @drbexl @digitalfprint @bigbible Image credits: Screenshots, The Worship Cloud, Stockfresh, RGBStock, iStockphoto
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- As a youth leader, you may feel the responsibility for helping keep the children that you work with safe online, but also want to know how they - and you - can use it to its full advantage. In this day course, developed from Raising Children in a Digital Age (Lion Hudson, 2014), internet scare stories and distorted statistics are put into context, clear and sensible guidelines are offered. You’ll have the opportunity to discuss your hopes, fears and experiences with others in a similar situation, and study examples of how others have used social media successfully with youth.
- Assume 10.05 starting point … Hello, introduce self… (if not seen this before = the famous ‘Twitter’ – latest incarnation of it – changed again recently – often things change look, but general function = same, so don’t let looks put you off). Wondering how many of you are confident social media users? FB, Twitter, or what?
- The importance that it is ‘raising children’ – we all have responsibility for the children that are raised in our society … we don’t have to biologically have children to have some kind of responsibility – although of course that is important . Designed to focus upon the digital environment, the possibilities there, and how to manage the risks that are evident in all parts of our lives … rather than give parenting advice – you either already know everything there is to know on that, or you’ll combine this with a different book
- 5 mins – have a series of statements that people agree/don’t agree with… EXERCISE: Stand up if you… (discuss) Have a Facebook account (is it personal/work?) Check a social media site before you talk to anyone else in your house in the morning Have a Twitter account (is it personal/work – are these overlaps acceptable?) Have tweeted or posted a Facebook status update in the last 2 hours Tweeted from the wrong Twitter account Have decided to ignore a particular social media site for a specific reason Used a digital camera? Watched a YouTube video? Read a paper newspaper in the past week (the Metro counts)? Read an online newspaper in the past week A fan of social media Are NOT a fan of social media Have considered talking down a competitor instead of talking up yourself (on a social media site) If you chose a particular URL shortener for a reason rather than picking randomly Love what you/your work stands for. Have any form of social media strategy in place?
- Take a statement from each person as to what excited/worried about .. Note on board…
- Understanding where the headlines come from, how you can dig beneath them, and why we need to engage. EXERCISE: Take time to think about the news stories you’ve seen in recent weeks. What are they focusing on? Are they seeking to scare or to support? Do a bit of ‘media studies’ with them… Headlines = full of disaster, children are addicted to screens, being abducted via Facebook, giving away all their information, sexting, running up bills, becoming couch potatoes, watching porn, meeting strangers and bullying and trolling at every opportunity. I exaggerate, but then so does the news – which (by its nature) is focused on the new/the unusual and has left many people with a feeling that there’s very little that they can do … Set off to look into the research that’s already out there, and 120 new questionnaire responses…
- Challenging Fears: Brief Lessons from History Every new technology = moral panics (my experience with TV aged 17 … looked like I was addicted!) … and each seems to be the end of ‘the way we used to do things’ (invented tradition)…. A part of ‘technological determinism’.. (there’s terrible stuff in the newspapers, on the TV, but do we stop looking at those?) Dan Gardner ‘Risk’ – we’re the healthiest, wealthiest, safest generation in history, but the most terrified… example post 9/11 flights/road accidents… but not ‘newsworthy’ in the same way. Families have also changed – children have more role in ‘decision making’, the types of families we have have changed and come in many more shapes…
- 5 minute video to watch…
- 2 mins 23 – a great response… Give chance to discuss the 2 films together … the importance of online/offline, and how these videos could be used within a youth club setting… leading into thinking about digital culture, and how youth/parents/schools can work together…
- Digital Culture: Why it matters that we join in Professor Tanya Byron, author of the Byron Report (2008), said: “I found the more that I understood what [my children] were experiencing, the more I felt empowered to support them to [go online] responsibly and safely, and the more freedom I felt comfortable for them to have”. Best way to engage with children = to have a better knowledge of the threats that they are facing – and don’t forget the possibilities … the technology = much wider/faster connections (all has up/downsides). Digital Revolution affected all our lives whether choose to participate or not.. Huge huge huge numbers online So, what are the particular characteristics of digital culture? Digital material is both more ephemeral and more permanent than previous communication methods. It can be difficult to remove and it is easy to change, replicate, and share, which makes it difficult to distinguish between originals and their replicas. What the community chooses to highlight may not be what the author intended, and material can be disseminated fast, but this also means that a response can be made more quickly. Users can have a sense of being invisible, which can lead to irresponsible behaviour, but can also provide the anonymity necessary to encourage someone to engage with online support sites. We should remember, however, that, with a little work, anyone can be found and identified. In digital culture people tend to engage with increasing numbers of “friends”: it can be harder to detect possible risk, but those with “unique interests” can find friends more easily online. Need to be digitally literate, and not see tech as ‘the bad guy’ (like a brick – through window or build house) – lots of easier ways to stay in touch, and great opportunities for those with special needs...; Talking online/offline rather than virtual/real…
- Like electricity – don’t need to know inside/out to use it … same with technology these days.. But giving an insight into the current top tools (though this will date the book quickly, no way round it really)… and actually many of the top tools – e.g. Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, etc have been fairly stable for several years now – definitely not moving as fast as it used to – so many platforms bought by each other, etc… Advice particularly focused on how to take control of your information (are a great many ways you can). Give an overview…
- Recent tools….. Increasingly private 1-2-1 or 1-2-many …
- 2010 – may be a little old, but looks at the right kind of ideas… making the most of the tech, rather than banning it… just found it on Pinterest when prepping this!
- Youth group leaders not only have to manage their own digital space, but help their members understand how to use it well! Note Phoebe is what would be described as a digital native .. But note her reluctance to get online … it’s not everyone’s cup of tea…. Whatever age you are.
- This guy from the US says he thinks that we have got our focus on the wrong things.. That we should focus on (youth) ministry first, and not on social media etc which is of secondary importance … no right/wrong here is there, but what do you think? He also looks pretty young…
- Not convinced by the term – any more than gendered terms, etc. – we are all unique, but those younger than us have grown up with the technology – but 5, 10, 15 year olds = very different experiences!!
- 6 mins? Is there really such a thing as a ‘digital native’ – and how do we relate? Still essentially human…
- The importance of communication – at home and within the group Talking to children about technology – many parents as nervous as talking about sex, but this is the most powerful tool/technique available… Ensure each negative statement about tech, etc. accompanied by positive where possible so doesn’t look like dismissing out of hand.. Chelsea Clinton did this re other forms of media whilst she was growing up. Internet Safety Agreement – work with kids to define one that works for your own family…
- The ‘agree/disagree’ game Get three sheets of paper. Write ‘Agree’ on one, ‘Disagree’ on one and ‘Not sure’ on the third. Place the ‘Agree’ and ‘Disagree’ sheets at opposite ends of the room with the ‘Not sure’ sheet in the middle. Ask the young people to stand up; makea statement (you could choose one from the list below) and ask them to vote with their feet and stand at either the ‘Agree’ or ‘Disagree’ end (or the middle) depending on how they feel. Ask them why they are stood where they are. Can they persuade each other that they are right? If anyone is unsure, why might that be? Encourage them to talk one at a time, listening to each other. Provide further information if necessary, or say something controversial to provoke conversation. When discussion has reached a certain point, you might want to ask if they would like to change their mind and move again. Below we have provided you with some statements. Select some that you think are relevant to your group.
- Practical Advice: Privacy & Permanency Martha Payne (NeverSeconds) – her Dad still checks everything she receives first… (age 9) – a brief overview of the changing capabilities of children – essentially younger = ‘walled garden’, older = deeper insights. Facebook = 13, many parents think 11 or think is up to them… Facebook influenced much – Zuckerberg believed privacy = dead, but children actually seem to be pretty intelligent about this – and if they aren’t – warning is not to go mad at them, but help them improve the situation.. The pros & cons of monitoring and filtering – can’t really just rely on the technology to stop things appearing in front of your children – none of the systems = as sophisticated as human beings.. Location services/managing digital footprint…
- What does this make you think of? It’s not about NOT going on here, but about thinking more carefully before you press the ‘send’ button…
- Digital footprint/fingerprint… (can try this with own name of someone in the room)
- (Bearing in mind that these are now customised by connections, past searches, location, etc… but you certainly have an online presence, even if you haven’t actuvely made one – so how do you/youth make this better…)
- Think about how things can be done differently, rather than ‘we are all like sheep’… (e.g. the ALS challenge seemed ‘nicer’, but I still objected to the ‘forced’ element).
- Including authenticity – want to do this on a flipchart with the group in the room … 5 mins
- Remember that anything that you write online – even in private messages, etc. are easy to copy & paste – and out of your control onve you write them down… quite a good benchmark is thinking of these people who might read it … it may place limitations on what you write – being open and authentic does not mean shove it all out without filters!! You may still post, but at least you will post with awareness that you may attract kickback, etc.. I think of – before I post – God, Your Mum, ‘The kids’, The newspaper, Your worst enemy
- Relationships (Online) The word ‘friendship’ has changed as we now ‘friend’ others on Facebook – children can’t afford to not accept friend requests from those they interact with in the physical space (e.g. school) as has repercussions for offline life… (and most are offline connections) Huge amount of online etiquette – including who connect with, speed of response, what you like, etc.. Facebook depression (more/less socially active)
- Headlines full of stories of bullying/suicide – does mean it’s happening, but remember that news focuses on the unusual .. If it happens every day it disappears, particularly from the front pages…
- Situation of particular concern = (Cyber-bullying)… want to focus on the 3 groups of people involved here..
- We may be familiar with the signs of bullying (Unexplained headaches, Nausea, Bedwetting , Mood swings, Aggression, Night terrors, Fall behind on school-work, Avoid going to school or leaving the house, Become anti-social) and these may be present … though could also be signs of being teenage .. But particular to cyber-bullying …
- Note that may be worth taking time away from online for a while to take a breath and think about how you are going to deal with things when you go back online … come back to some of that with bystanders in a minute…
- Be aware a persistent bully may have multiple IDs so need to keep vigilant… If decide to talk to parent, write down facts/keep calm … people are always going to protect their own and may find it hard to believe that their child is a bully… or don’t want to! Remove info = legal obligation to do so, but can take time… esp e.g. YouTube where multiple copies can be made … best to think BEFORE posting (unlike post first, ask forgiveness later)
- So, let’s have a brief look at who/why bullies partake…
- Feels disconnected from impact of bullying (like WW2 bombers), and can find ways to justify it, often dehumanising the victim … it’s that danger of seeing the screen rather than the person behind the screen!
- Need help not banishment. Need to learn from their mistakes. If feel abandoned will seek others who will support how they feel. Shaheen, S. & Churchill, A.H., Truths and Myths of Cyber-bullying: International Perspectives on Stakeholder Responsibility and Children’s Safety, Peter Lang Publishing, 2009, p7
- If we refuse to engage – what is that doing .. Can be scary, but this phrase is powerful..
- 3 min video …
- 2 min video from a military academy…
- (e.g. when people are being attacked for their lifestyle, etc.)
- … to bring it back to Biblical thinking … am I misusing this Bible verse, but it seems worth holding onto – the same as in offline life … think about what we are doing online!
- http://www.learningpeace.com/pdfs/NoKiddingAboutBullying_Intro.pdf
- A final encouraging thought to leave with…
- Make use of it – take them geocaching, get them excited about travel/where they are going, record things ongoing, use for accountability, etc.. One thing to be aware of here is the notion of digital divide … how to use these without making those who don’t have feel lost (those in schools, etc. may have access, but it’s a v. different type of access….)
- So – plenty to mull over there in the break time. Got a slightly more condensed session after the break… working our way through a range of tools!! So caffeine up!
- Again = human behaviour exaggerated = more vulnerable offline, also online… Issues of the dangers of porn = complex, but tend to be condensed in the press… for years children have gone through ‘rite of passage’ – but now = easier to get hold of, more explicit, etc.. And changing expectations of what is normal sexual behaviour. Boys, unsurprisingly, more likely to seek it out (and is a danger as looking for those their age, are going to get in trouble for accessing those underage). Numbers of pedophiles difficult to determine as tend not to self-declare, and most stats comes from e.g. filtering companies… there is a danger, but more from those who are known – so good to be aware – and remember the technology can help you FIND children too… Sexting = age old pressure ‘if you don’t going to ditch you’ … so children need same advice to take care what share/when – as once out there – can spread fast…
- Another programme to talk to them about – Tinder – all based on image, etc…
- All about putting this stuff in perspective, not getting hopeless… Professor Livingstone, however, points out that children often challenge the representations seen online,6 and famous blogger “Belle de Jour” would argue that to “help them understand pornography as entertainment, as opposed to how sex should be, we need to stop skipping the subject of real sex and real relationships when talking to young people”.7 As Livingstone’s research demonstrates, pornography doesn’t exist in a social vacuum: in Western cultures where men and women are purportedly treated as social equals, and assault and harassment are seen as wrong, some citizens of all ages are likely to challenge the existence of pornography as a given.8 – debates include lots of stuff about filtering…
- 1/3 10 year olds seen porn, 12-17 year olds are largest group consuming it. 83% boys and 57% of girls seen group sex online. Stumbling on it, not searning for it. Jason describes porn as ‘intimacy junk good’, miscommunication of expectation – sizes are not ‘real’, activities are not ‘healthy’. Noted young boy said’ porn has been lying to me’ … Get over the prudishness and have the conversations.. May reduce the pressure to partake – is it really the norm? (Same as for bullying)
- (10 minute film on Sexting = good discussion point). Designed for 14+ - definitely worth a conversation – what kind of tone of voice does the message take – is there any hope? How would your group react to this?
- Grooming – always make the headlines in particular – is there a pedophile around every corner – think about US stats from 2006 … 12 out of 300k were not known to those abducted… Make part of ongoing conversation … digital is a part of everyday lives … this not so much, but need to be aware of it…
- Keeping healthy and within the law, including screen-time and gaming Seen as Wild West, but it’s not – laws still apply (usually the originating country) – especially copyright – see this with students – see it as a compliment … all images in this presentation have been purchased under license… Plagiarism, music, film, apps… dangers of viruses with illegal info…
- Health Works Need to set up desk properly … more worrying = pro-mia sites, etc. advice on how to eat even less, etc. EXERCISE: Take time to look at your computer spaces and implement the advice above. Make a family pact to follow the 20–20–10 rule. Brain changing – everything you do affects brain change = not necessarily bad… Addiction – is it really addiction? Is it affecting schoolwork, attention spans? Can people really multitask? Are these things all bad or are we just holding onto things that we treasure? Conversational ability (more social) and danger of couch potatoes – use whatever interest online and take it offline…
- Seem familiar? Most are not ‘truly addicted’ – and what about the difference between e-books/’real’ books = at least they are reading!
- Standard advice = keep computer in a central room in the house – especially once teenage years = not really possible… Am Assoc Pead = consistently says 2 hours of screentime max … Bedroom culture (if they are not being allowed out – then… ); digital time out – think back to ‘Look up’ that we saw at the beginning of the day… ; reading online (is it about the book content or the book format?)
- Gaming – not so much my thing, but increasing complexity of games online – without an end point, and rewards for the more time spent online/just one more level… Some argue has increased dexterity, sociability, esp for autistic kids… Are worries is violent, addictive and expensive… similar fears about horror films, most of which disproved by media ‘experts’. In education we talk about ‘gamification’ of learning – making it fun (though some stuff still just has to be got through) – can find ways to make stuff fun – e.g. can Bible stories be re-written as Buzzfeed/Upworthy style titles?
- Technology = prepares kids for the job market, OK to lurk & learn. Need for criticality (not always seen amongst early students) – need to be aware to avoid scams/Snopes, etc. Collaboration Social Justice (clicktivism/activism)
- I asked my questionnaire respondents what they thought were the benefits of the digital world, and their answers included: access to wide range of information (especially if not blocked by a filter), increased connection with family/friends regardless of distance, huge educational benefits for their future, giving children an opportunity to engage with the world as it is now, opportunities to demonstrate - and be involved in - collaboration, a positive impact on social life, the opportunity to make more flexible plans, tools to keep them occupied, a chance to enjoy spending time together on devices – or to learn from their children, the global nature of the online spaces, fun and entertainment, learning from games, improved hand-eye co-ordination, the speed of communication, new opportunities for creativity, learning to be critical, enhanced personal safety, increased accessibility for those with disabilities, and prospects for increased creativity.
- EXERCISE: Talk to your child about a subject they are passionate about. Consider how the internet can help them to become more informed, and how they might begin to take action. (p199)
- I spotted this on Facebook as I was coming to the end of writing this book. It was posted by Will Taylor (communications manager, youth worker, and dad), and seems to sum up what is required of parents in the digital sphere: Do it for them Do it with them Watch while they do it Let them do it for themselves.
- Parents increasingly taking responsibility for grandkids – need to be consistent – greatest growth = accessing pics Teachers = particular concerns – much of it defensive, but how can encourage children to engage whilst protecting self Youth leaders = need for good boundaries, etc. – we’re going to come back to policies, etc. after the break…
- Only constancy is change … cannot make Internet 100% safe so need to give children confidence/skills – by giving them opportunities to engage online… (swimming pool analogy)
- If there’s time, do this as an exercise…
- Thinking about particular uses to which can be put…
- Role Model! By operating in social media communities, youth workers unin- tentionally exercise external, goal-oriented communication aimed at pro- moting, for example, a sense of community, interaction, active participa- tion, agency, fun or online dialogue
- Keeping in the loop of content from others (aside from Facebook, Twitter, etc..)
- Gloucester Diocese
- Like Karate – etiquette not a ‘spiritual’ thing, but a relational thing…
- Ref: Paul Windo, Urban Saints
- e.g. LOL = double meanings Avoid e.g. “luv” or “xxx”.
- Confidentiality In digital communications with youth/children, be aware that they may be prepared to disclose more than they would face-to-face. Ensure that those in your groups understand that you are not qualified to provide counselling (unless you are!), but can give general advice within a personal capacity. Consider adding a disclaimer such as this as to what you may do with their information: If there is a concern, e.g. that the sender or someone else, particularly a child, may be at risk of serious harm, we may need to share those concerns. In such circumstances we would inform the sender giving details of who would be contacted and what information would be given.
- More accountability, protect personal lives… Note that Facebook terms and conditions do not allow users to have more than one profile.
- Q&A, thinking about specific scenrios that you’ve worked with – may require some Google searching – or sharing good ideas of what has worked, etc…
- Final word – remember – there is always a human being at the other end of the keyboard… think before you type… Questions? Thank you for your time and participation…