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Veterans and Domestic
       Violence
       The C.A.D.R.E. Program




   http:// www.CADREProgram.org
What C.A.D.R.E. Is
Helping veteran batterers reclaim
their lives through education and
    group work. We advocate
     responsibility, safety and
          understanding.
What C.A.D.R.E. Is Not

We do not give excuses or a ‘free
  pass’. We recognize there is a
difference between an excuse and
             a reason.
How It Came About


• Julie’s story
Eddie Black B.S. Psy/Phil
   US Marines - Oregon National Guard
Training
The aim of military training is not just to prepare men
      for battle, but to make them long for it. 
                    ~Louis Simpson
Push Beyond
                                         Initiative
       Breaking           Teamwork

Military Bearing
                                           Obedience
Attention to Detail          Support Your Team

          Abusive
                                  Uniformity
       Communication
           Style

                   Quick Action   Individual Mistakes
                                  cost EVERYBODY
     PUNISHMENT
Scripts and Schemas
“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are -- or, as
          we are conditioned to see it.”
                 ~Stephen Covey
Scripts



Scripts are acts recognized by a particular group,
the rules or guidelines for a expected behavior
and the expected punishment for violating the
norms
On the First Date Women…
           • Assume the
             subordinate role
           • Be alluring
           • Facilitate
             conversation
           • Limit sexual
             activity
On the First Date Men…

• Initiate the date
• Plan the date
• Pay for the date
• Be the sexual
  aggressor
A Double Bind
       Token Resistance, says no but
       intends to have sex

       Males learn that no doesn’t
       really mean no

       If a woman acts other than
       expected role she is condemned


   Lilith
What are men supposed
to act like?
Combat
"Wars may be fought with weapons, but they are won
                    by men."
          ~General George S. Patton Jr.
QuickTime™ and a
          decompressor
are needed to see this picture.
What skills, behaviors, thoughts,
responses, habits have you learned?
Home
I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, "Mother,
                    what was war?" 
                      ~Eve Merriam
The “Script”
• Soldier’s deployment was
 more important
• Home is romanticized
• No problems are real
• Soldier is appreciated
• The hard part is over with
• Things will be just like they
 were before deployment
• Going to have/want sex all
 the time
• Only ‘weak’ or ‘crazy’
 soldiers have mental issues
 and need treatment
                            20
Problems
“What does not kill me, makes me stronger.”
          ~Friedrich Nietzsche
B           Buddies             VS      Withdrawal

A        Accountability         VS      Controlling
                                       Inappropriate
T          Targeted             VS
                                        Aggression

T     Tactical Awareness        VS    Hyper-vigilance

L       Lethally Armed          VS   Locked and Loaded

E      Emotional Control        VS      Detachment
      Mission Operational
M           Security
                                VS     Secretiveness

I   Individual Responsibility   VS         Guilt
     Non-defensive Driving
N          (combat)
                                VS   Aggressive Driving

D   Discipline and Ordering     VS        Conflict
23
Statistics
 Say you were standing with one foot in the oven and
one foot in an ice bucket.  According to the percentage
    people, you should be perfectly comfortable. 
                  ~Bobby Bragan, 1963
Couples-Therapy-Seeking Veterans




                                   26
At least One Act Reported Among Couples-
       Seeking-Therapy in Past Year




                                     27
Interpersonal Violence and the Military
                                   no screening for
                                  psychopathology




                            972
                                              28
Help-Seeking Vietnam Veterans




      22           0.2
                                29
30
Julie Kingsland M.S.W.
        Air Force
The Program
Mission Statement
The mission of the CADRE Program is to
provide combat veterans a treatment program
that addresses combat post traumatic stress
disorder that manifests in domestic violence.
Once we receive funding, CADRE will cover
the entire cost of services for any veteran who
qualifies. Those veterans who do not qualify for
100% relief, will be provided services at half
cost.
•   48 Weeks + 3 Monthly Follow-Ups
•
               The Program
    First 20-25 Weeks – Buy into the system
•   Set down ‘weapons’
•   P/U tools
•   Man Box vs Soldier Box
•   Question Beliefs (stereotypes, scripts, schemas)
•   Learn warning signs
     •   Physical
     •   Behavioral
•   Tools to manage PTSD
•   Tools to manage anger
Two Populations




Beliefs about men and    Trained in automatic
 women. Patterns of     aggressive response to
 control and abuse.      any perceived threat.
Power and Control
     Wheel
Rate Your Anger
      • Ears are hot
      • Skin is red
      • Gritting your teeth
      • Staring down the other person
      • Balled-up fists
      • Cursing


1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
                                        41
Things Not to Do
• Aggression is met with aggression
Contact Us

 Julie Kingsland MSW             Eddie Black B.S.
        Director                   Co-Facilitator
jkingsland@mepscounseling.com   eblack@cadreprogram.org
      503-235-3433                  503-737-5968



          www.CADREProgram.org

                info@cadreprogram.org

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Veterans and Domestic Violence

  • 1. Veterans and Domestic Violence The C.A.D.R.E. Program http:// www.CADREProgram.org
  • 2. What C.A.D.R.E. Is Helping veteran batterers reclaim their lives through education and group work. We advocate responsibility, safety and understanding.
  • 3. What C.A.D.R.E. Is Not We do not give excuses or a ‘free pass’. We recognize there is a difference between an excuse and a reason.
  • 4. How It Came About • Julie’s story
  • 5. Eddie Black B.S. Psy/Phil US Marines - Oregon National Guard
  • 6. Training The aim of military training is not just to prepare men for battle, but to make them long for it.  ~Louis Simpson
  • 7.
  • 8. Push Beyond Initiative Breaking Teamwork Military Bearing Obedience Attention to Detail Support Your Team Abusive Uniformity Communication Style Quick Action Individual Mistakes cost EVERYBODY PUNISHMENT
  • 9. Scripts and Schemas “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are -- or, as we are conditioned to see it.” ~Stephen Covey
  • 10. Scripts Scripts are acts recognized by a particular group, the rules or guidelines for a expected behavior and the expected punishment for violating the norms
  • 11. On the First Date Women… • Assume the subordinate role • Be alluring • Facilitate conversation • Limit sexual activity
  • 12. On the First Date Men… • Initiate the date • Plan the date • Pay for the date • Be the sexual aggressor
  • 13. A Double Bind Token Resistance, says no but intends to have sex Males learn that no doesn’t really mean no If a woman acts other than expected role she is condemned Lilith
  • 14. What are men supposed to act like?
  • 15. Combat "Wars may be fought with weapons, but they are won by men." ~General George S. Patton Jr.
  • 16. QuickTime™ and a decompressor are needed to see this picture.
  • 17.
  • 18. What skills, behaviors, thoughts, responses, habits have you learned?
  • 19. Home I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, "Mother, what was war?"  ~Eve Merriam
  • 20. The “Script” • Soldier’s deployment was more important • Home is romanticized • No problems are real • Soldier is appreciated • The hard part is over with • Things will be just like they were before deployment • Going to have/want sex all the time • Only ‘weak’ or ‘crazy’ soldiers have mental issues and need treatment 20
  • 21. Problems “What does not kill me, makes me stronger.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche
  • 22. B Buddies VS Withdrawal A Accountability VS Controlling Inappropriate T Targeted VS Aggression T Tactical Awareness VS Hyper-vigilance L Lethally Armed VS Locked and Loaded E Emotional Control VS Detachment Mission Operational M Security VS Secretiveness I Individual Responsibility VS Guilt Non-defensive Driving N (combat) VS Aggressive Driving D Discipline and Ordering VS Conflict
  • 23. 23
  • 24. Statistics Say you were standing with one foot in the oven and one foot in an ice bucket.  According to the percentage people, you should be perfectly comfortable.  ~Bobby Bragan, 1963
  • 25.
  • 27. At least One Act Reported Among Couples- Seeking-Therapy in Past Year 27
  • 28. Interpersonal Violence and the Military no screening for psychopathology 972 28
  • 30. 30
  • 33. Mission Statement The mission of the CADRE Program is to provide combat veterans a treatment program that addresses combat post traumatic stress disorder that manifests in domestic violence. Once we receive funding, CADRE will cover the entire cost of services for any veteran who qualifies. Those veterans who do not qualify for 100% relief, will be provided services at half cost.
  • 34. 48 Weeks + 3 Monthly Follow-Ups • The Program First 20-25 Weeks – Buy into the system • Set down ‘weapons’ • P/U tools • Man Box vs Soldier Box • Question Beliefs (stereotypes, scripts, schemas) • Learn warning signs • Physical • Behavioral • Tools to manage PTSD • Tools to manage anger
  • 35. Two Populations Beliefs about men and Trained in automatic women. Patterns of aggressive response to control and abuse. any perceived threat.
  • 36.
  • 37.
  • 39.
  • 40.
  • 41. Rate Your Anger • Ears are hot • Skin is red • Gritting your teeth • Staring down the other person • Balled-up fists • Cursing 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 41
  • 43. • Aggression is met with aggression
  • 44. Contact Us Julie Kingsland MSW Eddie Black B.S. Director Co-Facilitator jkingsland@mepscounseling.com eblack@cadreprogram.org 503-235-3433 503-737-5968 www.CADREProgram.org info@cadreprogram.org

Notas del editor

  1. Co-facilitator, research assistant, and outreach assistant. Eddie is Staff Sergeant. In the Oregon Army National Guard and trains soldiers who are being sent into combat as infantry. He is a Marine Corps Desert Storm veteran and a National Guard OIF veteran and has completed a BS in Psychology and also Philosophy. He plans to continue with his education and obtain a Master’s Degree in one of the therapy related fields (i.e. Psychology, Social Work, Counseling).
  2. A short commercial about Marine Corps Bootcamp. Though the services all have a different approach to conducting recruit training, the similarity is that they take people from different walks of life and remold them into essentially what is a different ethnic group called “military” complete with its own language, traditions and histories, and cultural norms. This isn’t merely beginning a ‘job’ somewhere, it is the adoption of a persona, of characteristics into one’s personality, a reshaping of the Self.
  3. We train in a rough, loud, rude, environment. We make our training tough, constantly pushing people with tougher challenges, contingency planning, and adapting to worse and worse situations. We learn that the individual is not as important as the group. We train for the worse. Our communication is direct and at times abusive. We train for automatic response to orders.
  4. Scripts are acts recognized by a particular group, the rules or guidelines for a expected behavior and the expected punishment for violating the norms. How is one ‘supposed’ to act within a given context. Scripts are powerful modifiers of our behavior. Many scripts operate underneath our awareness.
  5. Women are taught in our society, through books and movies and cultural norms, to be attractive, to be alluring, to be the caretaker of the relationship, the one with the feelings, and to be the object of attention. Men are supposed to pursue her and give her flowers.
  6. Men are supposed to be the ones making the first move, paying for the date, be the bread winner, the hero. He is the quarterback who wins the game and goes after the cheerleaders. He is supposed to not show weakness, be strong, and never back down.
  7. Another double bind: A man may be ‘weak’ if he expresses emotion, talks about his feelings. Talking about his feelings may trigger his anxiety or force a couple to face the issues head on instead of ignoring or managing the stress. Things aren’t they way they used to be before deployment. If he doesn’t express feelings he is a cold-hearted person. If he does, he is soft and not a man.
  8. Military culture emphasizes control, accountability, command, decisiveness, aggression. Men go and do. Men do not show weakness, do not do frilly things, do not go for the softer things. One interview with a marine he referred to literature as ‘feminine stuff’. A man that orders a strawberry daiquiri in a bar is assumed to be gay. Common masculinity in the military has competing values of misogyny and chivalry. Both, however, are forms of sexism. Anger can be a ‘secondary’ emotion intended to increase emotional distance between people and to mask the primary emotion. Erbes et al. Couple therapy with combat veterans and their partners. Journal of clinical psychology (2008) vol. 64 (8) pp. 972-983 If you are angry, you are not ‘fearful’ or ‘vulnerable’, in some men’s minds. Anger is a mask.
  9. Video of a small IED (improvised explosive device) in Iraq.
  10. Picture from a firefight that A Company, 2-162 had in Baghdad in October 2004. That is Eddie’s humvee with the body on top. The body is a teenage Iraqi who panicked and drove his vehicle into the middle of firefight. Faced with an onrushing vehicle that was gaining speed, soldiers did what they were trained to do in order to protect themselves. It was later discovered it was a teenager who simply panicked and his body was collected in the middle of the firefight and taken to an Iraqi Police station.
  11. Our job isn’t necessarily a ‘nice’ job. What is the one emotion that fits with our job? Anger. Not arguing that anger is either good or bad, but that it depends on the context. But due to training, experience, beliefs, roles, scripts and schemas we soldiers have a huge hurdle to overcome. We’ve lost our mission but kept the reactions. Those reactions do not work well with handling the new sets of problems in a non-combat environment. There are new processes that we’ve learned, adding to our confusion.
  12. Portland defense attorney Kathleen Bergland frequently represents veterans, primarily in domestic violence cases. She describes a scenario she sees all too often: A vet comes home and his or her spouse attempts to reestablish intimacy, either physically or by asking questions about their wartime experiences. The vet, not yet prepared for that level of intimacy, responds by acting out inappropriately. The spouse files a restraining order and, if children are involved, the Department of Human Services intervenes. “ Besides getting stuck in a system that is ill-prepared and not designed to handle this number of vets, there are a growing number of vets who are losing their families and their children because of the way the system mishandles it,” she says. Bergland began working with vets about four years ago, when she took on a death penalty case involving a veteran who had come home and killed his wife. Bergland’s team was the second set of attorneys to defend the accused because the first refused to introduce PTSD as a mitigating factor. At the time, Bergland knew little about PTSD, and finding witnesses who could accurately describe its causes and symptoms was a challenge. She met Robert Stanulis, a Portland forensic psychologist who specializes in PTSD, and often relies on him for expert testimony. Both Bergland and Stanulis say they have seen an increase in clients with PTSD. Stanulis, who testified for the defense during the Bratcher trial, says Fort Hood in Texas already has seen a 27 percent increase in domestic violence involving veterans. The U.S. legal system handles most domestic violence cases according to the Duluth Model of intervention, which doesn’t take into account PTSD or any other mental and emotional issues combat veterans face, he says. “ In the majority of military cases, the veteran isn’t seen as a wounded warrior but as a batterer who needs to be separated from the family,” Stanulis says, noting that while men are most commonly perceived as the aggressors, studies show female vets are just as likely to become violent. “ And the worst thing about all of this is that we haven’t even seen the really bad cases with people who are on their fourth or fifth tour,” Stanulis says.
  13. Many of the attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors that were learned in a combat zone were necessary in order to keep one alive. These same attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors are not appropriate for many situations back home. However, a lot of the same things still trigger the veteran, such as traffic, noise, smells, people speaking in a certain language, sounds, etc... and it is very easy for someone struggling with reintegration to slip into combat-appropriate behaviors.
  14. Working with returning veterans there seems to be some commonalities. Screaming kids are extremely irritating, traffic is unbearable and triggers out of proportion reactions. Perhaps there is no job to return to and the person may feel worthless, unable to provide for a family or self. There seems to be a connection with rank with the lower ranks more likely to have problems. Perhaps this is life experience, perhaps it is social support, perhaps it is a variety of things. Looking around there seems to be nobody who understands what it is like to come home and one feels very isolated. Communication with a loved-one is difficult. Add this to a loss of intimacy and relationships are strained, particularly when other emotions are triggered by traffic, people, explosions and intrusive memories. A veteran may become more combative and look for fights in bars, or perhaps sees injustice everywhere in the world and is quick to attack that injustice, no matter how small or trivial. Finding it difficult to deal with intrusive thoughts, or constant hyper arousal, and other stress, the veteran may begin self medication with alcohol and/or drugs.
  15. Post Deployment Health Reassessment 38 % Army soldiers 31 % of Marines 49 % National Guard repeated deployments were at extremely high risk of problems and the toll on their family members was great. New England Journal of Medicine (2003) Hoge CW, Castro CA, Messer SC, et al. Combat duty in Iraq and Afghanistan, mental health problems, and barriers to care. N Engl J Med. 2004;351:13- 22. European & Pacific Theater Battle Fatigue was 25% - 33% of casualties Grossman, D (1995) On Killing . Back Bay Books Publishing.
  16. No substance abuse in sample. This is a convenience sample of 179 couples-therapy-seeking veterans at a VA clinic. If it was determined that either abused a substance they were not admitted into the program. Average drinks per week for veteran was 2. Average per week for partner was 1. Couples were seeking help for one of four relationship issues: anger or violence, relationship improvement, help coping with a mental illness, or a specific relationship issue Violence in the past year. Sherman et al. Domestic Violence in Veterans with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Who Seek Couples Therapy. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (2006) vol. 32 (4) pp. 479-490 When comparing relationships satisfaction, the PTSD group was not lower than the Comparison group. Possibly due to empathy of partner to traumatized warrior. Conflict Tactics Scale- Form R. Measures physical aggression, severity, and frequency.
  17. Military members were four times as likely to choke their victims into unconsciousness or leave them with bruised windpipes and neck muscles. Compared to couples seeking therapy in university clinics, veterans with PTSD/Depression were 6 times more likely to perpetuate violence, 14 times more likely to perpetuate severe violence. Hansen. A Considerable Service: An Advocate’s Introduction to Domestic Violence and the Military. Domestic Violence Report (2001) vol. 6 (4) pp. 1-6 Sherman et al. Domestic Violence in Veterans with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Who Seek Couples Therapy. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (2006) vol. 32 (4) pp. 479-490
  18. Rates among U.S. that report IPV 12% In Military 36% Rates among military veterans and active duty are up to three times higher without screening for psychopathology. Marshall et al. Intimate partner violence among military veterans and active duty servicemen. Clinical Psychological Review (2005) vol. 25 pp. 862-876 the number of 972 is based off of the general rates of IPV without regard for psychopathology and estimated for 2700 national guard soldiers. Part of the scripts and schemas that we have is that we handle matters. Add how we are expected to act/react with our very real hyperarousal and violence is quite likely.
  19. Reported number of Physical Aggressive acts over the past year among help seeking vietnam veterans. 75% and 17% The numbers in white are the average number of aggressive acts in the year. Beckam, Feldman, Kirby, Hertzberg, and Moor (1997) as cited in Taft et al. Intimate partner and general aggression perpetration among combat veterans presenting to a posttraumatic stress disorder clinic. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry (2009) vol. 79 (4) pp. 461-468
  20. Posttraumatic stress disorder symptoms were assessed using the PTSD Checklist Military Version (PCL-M; Weathers, Litz, Herman, Huska, & Keane, 1993) The sample for this retrospective review study was com- prised of consecutive Iraq and Afghanistan War combat vet- erans (N = 117), who presented with a variety of concerns to the Deployment Health Clinic of the VA Puget Sound Health Care System between May 2004 and June 2005 Combat exposure was significantly positively associated with trait anger, r =.20, p <.05, and hostility, r =.18, p < .05, but was not significantly related to aggression, r = .14, ns. Prob- lem drinking was significantly positively associated with trait anger, r = .27, p < .01, hostility, r = .25, p < .01, and aggression, Jakupcak et al. Anger, hostility, and aggression among Iraq and Afghanistan War veterans reporting PTSD and subthreshold PTSD. Journal of traumatic stress (2007) vol. 20 (6) pp. 945-954
  21. Julie Kingsland, Director of the CADRE Program, received her Master of Social Work degree from Portland State University in 2003. She has over 5 years working as a domestic violence intervention treatment provider for The Men’s Resource Center, Inc. Prior to working in the domestic violence field, Julie worked as a Correctional Officer for the State of Oregon, completed a two year internship at the Salem Vet Center, and volunteered as a re-adjustment counselor at the Salem Vet Center for an additional two years. She has developed working relationships with service agencies in the area of domestic violence, veteran’s services, and law enforcement. Julie is also the director of The Medical Empowerment Program and Counseling Services, Inc. which provides services to persons who are disabled and/or chronically ill. As veteran’s often have physical challenges, her expertise in this area is a valuable asset to CADRE.
  22. The typical batterer in a relationship is male. There was a time when it was considered the male’s role/right to beat his wife and kids. The picture on the left is from an English drawing. The “rule of thumb” was English law stating that a man could use a rod no bigger than his thumb to beat his wife with. The typical batterer has a pattern of control and abuse against his partner as well as attitudes and beliefs about his right to do so. While such attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors do exist among some men in the military, a great number of cases involving male veterans with intimate partner violence stems not from their belief about women, but instead on the physiological changes undergone through combat PTSD. These sudden rises in adrenaline, anger, hostility, and loss of empathy and emotion, combined with a quick reaction to react in dangerous ways, have many male veterans reacting to situations in an abusive manner. Add to this the typical male response/pattern of repressing any emotions or signs of weakness and this creates an even larger powder keg of emotion. Add to this the tendency for some combat ptsd veterans to self medicate with alcohol, which inhibits the prefrontal cortex ability to regulate emotional outbursts, and the likelihood of dangerous angry outbursts by the combat ptsd veteran increases.
  23. Some therapists have said they wish they could respond like this at times. Failure to NOT do this with a veteran at times is to show, even more, the gulf between you and the therapist. The world is a hard place (recall Rousseau’s theory, among others such as Hobbes) where nothing is owed to you and nothing is given. Kleenex did not get men past Normandy. But emotional feeling, healing, connection, grieving, anguish, and such are needed in the healing process. The question is how do you get veterans to feel they can express such? It is unlikely to be in a place where the veteran must maintain an identity as soldier, unless the context of that is different and incorporates showing of emotion. An example is not a military funeral, we strive to be stoic at these, but perhaps at a veteran group session where veterans discuss their ordeals.
  24. The Soldier Box. These statements represent norms of behavior and values. It is very hard for us to imagine anyone being successful in the military and not holding on to these beliefs and behaviors.
  25. “ Wheels” Adapted from the Power and Control Wheel Model The original Power and Control Wheel and Equality Wheel were dev eloped by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs in Duluth, MN. http://www.ncdsv.org/ publications_wheel.html
  26. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/PowerControlwheelNOSHADING.pdf
  27. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/MilitarycontrolwheelNOSHADING.pdf