This document discusses positive parenting for children aged 0-7 years. It provides statistics on rising rates of antidepressant prescriptions for children and identifies challenges parents face like tantrums, behavioral issues, and lack of human connection due to technology. It emphasizes the importance of teaching children character through gentle touch, stories, presence and play. Great parents are mindful, authoritative yet flexible, and avoid harsh discipline. Linking children to Allah through Islamic teachings and role modeling is also discussed.

2. Positive Parenting
0 – 7 years

4. Health Commission of Australia
has found in 2004:
• 56 children under 4 on anti‐depressants
• 728 children aged between 5‐9 on anti‐
depressants
• 4,689 aged between 10‐14 on anti‐
depressants
• Nationally prescriptions for people under
19 topped more than 250,000

5. Some Facts for Kids
• 3 % of all 3 year olds have severe tantrums
• 10 % of all parents of children 2‐5 years ask for help
with behavior problems
• Anti‐social behavior accounts for 30‐40% of referrals
to child mental health services

6. What has disappeared?
• Gentle touch and games
• Fairy tales
• Being “present” not just in the room
• Playing real hands on games
• Games in the car
• Human conversation with real people
• Simple toys that don’t cost money
• Less parent direction

7. Terrifying Truth
• I am the decisive element in the life
of a child.
• I create so many souls like me.
• I have tremendous power to make a child’s
life joyous or miserable.
• I can be an agent of change.
• Pakistan can become a better or worse place
because of me.
• My Mission Correlates with that of the
PROPHETS.

8. What tends to be your goals or
desires in parenting?
• Goals: _____________________
• Desires: ____________________

9. What are your greatest struggles
in parenting?!
Answers:
• ___________________________
• ___________________________

10. ‫َٓـَ ّ َ ّ ِ َ َ َ ُ ْ‬
‫يأيہا ٱلذين ءامنوا‬ ‫ٰ‬
‫قا َ ُ َ ُ‬
‫ٓ و أنفسكمۡ‬ ‫ُْ‬
‫وأَهلكيكمۡنارا‬
‫6َ ,‪ً َ At-Tahreem‬ا۬‬
‫ۡ ُ‬‫ِ‬

11. How important do you think it is to teach your
children character building? (Pre‐test)

12. How do you teach your children character
building? – Pre‐test

13. How often do you talk about character?

14. Social And Emotional
Building Blocks

15. Longer term consequences
of not intervening early
• Poor relationships with others
• Low resilience
• Poor qualifications and work
history
• Low frustration tolerance
• Easily upset and see “threat”
everywhere
• Greater involvement in antisocial
behaviour and drug misuse
• Families who feel let down, upset,
angry or powerless.

16. 10 Characteristics of Great Parents
1. Mindful parent (vision for their children)
2. Authoritative parenting style
3. Understand child temperament
4. Involved in child’s life
5. Think Win‐Win with their children (rules)
6. Co‐parent well
7. Consistent
8. Avoid harsh discipline
9. Explain decisions
10. Respect

17. Traits of Authoritative Parents
• Clear limits and boundaries
• Be firm but flexible
• Good communication
• Do many fun things together
• Let child be an individual

18. Principles of Discipline
• Have a few clear rules
• Speak simply
• Be “blasé”
• Be the boss
• Be warmly involved
• Give only one warning
• Don’t get into power struggles
• Set expectations and outcomes prior to
events/challenges

19. Positive Parenting
• Parent with a plan
• Parent in freedom, not fear
• Parent with affection, but not softness
• Parent with authority, but not coercion
• Parent by being an awesome person

20. There is a mass of
research to
demonstrate that the
more touch a child gets
in childhood, the calmer
and less fearful he is
likely to be in
adulthood....

21. Link child to Allah Ta’ala
‫وإِذۡقال لقمـن لبٱبۡه ۦ وهو يعظهۥ ۥ يـبنى ل‬
َ ّ َ ُ ٰ َ ُ ُ ِ َ َ ُ َ ِ ِ‫َ َ َ ُ ۡ َ ٰ ُ ِ ن‬
۬‫تشركۡببٱللهّنِإ ۖن ٱلشِّرك لظلم عظكيما‬
ٌ ِ َ ٌُۡ َ َ ۡ ّ ِ‫ُ ۡ ِ ِ ّ ِ‌ إ‬
Raise according to Quran and Sunnah
Be right role model
Provide Islamic environment
Paint right picture of Allah Ta’ala
Stories of Rasulillah (SAW) and Sahabah
Ultimate Authority is Allah Ta’ala

22. Early Childhood
Medical Behavior Discipline Tarbiya Specific
Issues
Eating habits Sibling Rule setting Choosing
Rivalry schools
Illness Developing Reasoning Fears
Skills
Preventative Reading Positive strokes
Measures
Writing Communication
Simple
Chores

23. Activity
• In groups of three or four prepare a case study
or story that you faced and now fit it with the
parenting style.

24. Bachey Jannat key
phool!