1. ANGER
MANAGEMENT
By: Dr. Kamlesh Lala

3. What is anger
Anger is a natural emotion.
It is nature’s way of telling us that
something wrong in our lives has
gone anywhere.

4. Causes of Anger
 Trying to change the past
 Trying to change others
 Lots of negativity in our mind and
fixed belief system
 Unfulfilled desires

5. Anger is like a mirror
It reflects your inner unstability
If you are disturbed inside, then you will be disturbed
outside.
It makes you blank and blind

6. Stages of Anger
1. Low self esteem and always trying to please others
2. Irritation
3. Hatred
4. Frustration
5. Anger
1. Verbal
2. Aggression
3. Physical violence

7.  Know the difference between anger and
aggression.
 Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.
 Aggression is acting out inappropriately and
is not ok. Learn to check your aggression
and express your anger appropriately.

8.  Arguments are part of life
and we get into arguments
everyday with
relatives, friends, classmat
es, coworkers and
sometimes even with
strangers.
Bur Remember
 They often are trivial and
useless.

9. CONSEQUENCES OF ANGER
 Identify potential  Physical harm to someone
consequences of your or self
anger to others and  Strained relations
yourself…what can that  Destruction of property
mean for you?  Loss of family/friends
 Loss of job
 Loss of social privileges
 Going to jail
 Getting a bad reputation

10. How to Control
 1st stage: Do not react
 2nd stage: Do not get hurt
 3rd stage: Do not think otherwise

11. Either control the anger
OR
Accept it as your nature
But then
 Do not complaint that
1. I want peace,
2. happiness and
3. good relationship

12. Remember
 Anger is absolutely and always harmful to
me and to others
 It is my own creation. I can decide whether I
have to be angry or not
 Match stick has a head and no brain

13. What to do?
 Awareness: Be aware it is “Anger”
 Acknowledgement: I have become angry
 Accept: It was my responsibility
 Detach:
 Who am I? I am a peaceful soul. Peace is integral part
of my personality. Anger is not my nature.
 Introspection

14. Introspection
1. It is absolutely harmful in all ways
2. It is my own creation
3. Change your belief system which is usually based
on past experiences
4. List the triggers and try to avoid them in future
5. Note down gain or loss

15.  Short pencil is better than a long memory.
 Use it to reduce your anger
 Write down everything which you do not like on a
peace of paper and burnt it or throw it away
 Do not remember past bad experiences. Let them
be washed away by flowing water like a river

16. Speak Less
Speak in low tone
Speak sweet

17. Remember
Do not criticize, condemn or
complain
Because it makes you angry
Say sorry at the right moment

18.  A compilation of stress reduction techniques
for channeling one’s angry feelings into
socially acceptable directions
 Ability to cope and deal with stress

19. When you are ANGRY and UPSET
remember…
1-2-3 TURTLE

20. 1 – Go inside your shell
 THINK before you ACT
 Take a “Time Out”
 Time heals everything
 Leave the room

21. 2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths
 Time to RELAX
 Calm yourself down

22. 3 – Walk Away
 Think of a good solution

23. Ways to Stop an Argument
 Never accuse a person of
being wrong.
 Admit your mistakes.
 Be pleasant and polite.
 Get your opponent saying
yes. The objective is to have
that person stop regarding
you as the adversary.

24. ANGER MANAGEMENT
 I stop blaming others
and myself.
1. Blaming only keeps
people upset.
2. Blaming is a way of not
respecting people.
3. I express my feelings
and then try to work
things out.

25. ANGER MANAGEMENT
 Steps to taming anger
1. Know what pushes
your buttons.
2. Know your body’s
anger signs.
3. Stop and think!
4. Cage your rage…it’s
your choice.
5. Decide what to do.

26. ANGER MANAGEMENT
1. Calm down
2. Name the problem
3. Find solutions
4. Pick the best solution
5. Evaluate the solution
6. Congratulate yourself
7. Show mutual respect
8. Make changes if
necessary
9. Review the solution
that was picked