This document provides information for parents about teens' use of social media and offers advice. It discusses teens' use of computers, cell phones and social media sites. Some key points made include that nearly 73% of online teens use social networking sites, and 93% of teens have computer access. The document outlines some concerns parents may have like bullying, privacy and inappropriate photos. It advises parents to monitor internet use, learn about privacy settings, and discuss social media use frequently with their teens. Resources for further information are also provided.
1. and Your Child
Luanda International School
Ali Shebani - Secondary Guidance Counselor
Elèni Thomaidis da Silva - Child Psychologist
Katy Vance - Secondary Librarian
2. You know you're living in the 21st
Century when...
1. You accidentally enter your password on the
microwave.
2. You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years.
3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your
family of three.
4. You e-mail your mate who works at the desk next to
you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends is
that they do not have e-mail addresses
3. Outline of the Morning
• Teens, the Net & Social Networking
• Positive Aspects of Facebook
• Concerns with Facebook & Students
• Understanding Facebook settings
• Blocking, Reporting, Privacy Settings
• Advice for Parents
4. “You think of technology as a tool… We think of it as a
foundation; it underlies everything we do.”
Mark Prensky- Our Brains Extended
Photo by Flickr User ~C4Chaos under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0
5. Teens and Computers
93% of teens have a computer or access to one
Photo by Flickr User: Enokson under a CC BY 2.0 license
6. Teens & Cell Phones
78% of teens have a cell phone
Photo by Flickr User: JR_Paris under a CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 license
7. Social Media Sites
Nearly 73% of Online Teens use Social Networking Sites.
Photo by Flickr User: DigitalRalph under a CC BY 2.0 license
8. Chart from Pew Research Report “Teens, Kindness and Cruelty on Social Network Sites”
9. Tug Of War
Photo by Flickr User: ILRI under a CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
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10. This can be a good thing!
Photo by Flickr User: Robert S. Donovan under a CC BY 2.0 license
17. It’s not all good, all the time.
Photo by Flickr user Amanda Gravel under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
18. 15% experienced cruelty
Social Networks = Unkind Places
1 in 3 (33%) Younger Teen Girls
9% of Younger Teen Boys
18% of Older Teen Boys
Photo by Flickr user Amanda Gravel under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
19. 'Keyboard Heroes'
Photo used for educational purposes only. From
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/picturegalleries/howaboutthat/7892000/Eskil-Ronningsbakken-the-daredevil-who-balances-on-the-edge-of-1000ft-cliffs-in-Norw
21. Facts and Figures
• Of teens with an online profile, 32% have received
some type of harassment online.
– 15% have had private info forwarded without their
permission
– 13% received threatening messages
– 13% said someone spread a rumor about them
online
– 6% had someone post an embarrassing picture of
them online without permission
Source: Pew Internet Research, 2009
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22. How Much Are You Revealing?
Text
And Who is Checking You Out?
25. "Sexy" or Inappropriate Photos
Images by Laura Reyome, who illustrated the article this drawing is from: “Applying to College? Twelve Facebook Photos you should delete now”
http://collegeapps.about.com/od/theartofgettingaccepted/ss/bad-facebook-photos.htm Used for educational purposes only.
26. Tag, You’re It!
Photo (used for educational purposes only) from Cult of Mac blog post:
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http://www.cultofmac.com/157641/this-creepy-app-isnt-just-stalking-women-without-their-knowledge-its-a-wake-up-call-about-facebook-privacy/
30. Parenting Strategies
Photo by DeviantArt user Loor101 under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license 30
31. Facts and Figures cont.
• 2 in 5 teens tell their parents nothing about what
they do online.
• 1 in 4 teens who have restrictions online can find a
way around them.
• 44% of parents do not limit what their children do
online whatsoever.
Source: Cox Communications, 2009
• 50% of all teens have a computer in their bedroom.
Source: University of Toronto, 2009
National Crime Prevention Council
www.ncpc.org
32. Get On Facebook
The screenshot of this status update (and other LOL-tastic classics) is from http://myparentsjoinedfacebook.com/.
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34. Facebook Settings
You need to know
• How to set your privacy settings
appropriately (not at the default level).
• How to block someone.
• How to report someone.
• How to deactivate your account.
• When in doubt, just log out. 34
38. Encourage Teens to Self-Reflect
Before they Self-Reveal
* adapted from “Presentation:Facebook for Parents of teens http://www.iteachithink.com/2012/09/presentation-facebook-for-parents-of.html
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40. Don’t Believe Everything You See
Drawing by DeviantArt user ~xHybridus under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license 40
41. Discuss Page and Settings
Frequently
Photo from Flickr User damon.garrett under a CC BY 2.0
Even When They Don’t Want To
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42. Monitor Internet Use & Time Online
Meme from Lolhappens user bites85: http://www.lolhappens.com/75670/sleeps-late-every-night-regrets-it-every-morning/
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43. It’s a Balancing Act
CC BY-SA 3.0
Photo from Wikimedia Commons User Usien under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license
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45. Are you ready for this?
Photo from Flickr User Tanzen80 under a CC BY-SA 2.0 45
46. Videos and Further Resources
• Facebook Privacy Shortcuts Tutorial 2013:
http://youtu.be/NI92-AcJweA
• Very Short Facebook Settings Tutorial:
http://youtu.be/-dJz_5pd33w
• Common Sense Media:
http://www.commonsensemedia.org/
• Facebook Parents Page:
http://www.facebook.com/safety/groups/parents/
47. Bibliography
Brookhouser, Kevin. "Presentation: Facebook for Parents of Teens." Web log post. I Teach. I Think. N.p., 19 Sept.
2012. Web. 17 Apr. 2013. <http://www.iteachithink.com/2012/09/presentation-facebook-for-parents-of.html>.
Brownlee, John. "This Creepy App Isn’t Just Stalking Women Without Their Knowledge, It’s A Wake-Up Call
About Facebook Privacy [Update]." Cult of Mac. Cultomedia Corp, 30 Mar. 2012. Web. 17 Apr. 2013.
<http://www.cultofmac.com/157641/this-creepy-app-isnt-just-stalking-women-with
out-their-knowledge-its-a-wake-up-call-about-facebook-privacy/>.
"Facebook for Parents." Common Sense Media, 3 Oct. 2011. Web. 17 Apr. 2013.
<http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/facebook-parents>.
"Global Digital Communication: Texting, Social Networking Popular Worldwide." Pew Global Attitudes Project.
Pew Research, 29 Feb. 2012. Web. 15 Apr. 2013. http://www.pewglobal.org/2011/12/20/global-digital-
communication-texting-social-networking-popular-worldwide/.
Prensky, Marc. "Our Brains Extended." Educational Leadership 70.6 (2013): 22-27.Educational Leadership.
ASCD, Mar. 2013. Web. 15 Apr. 2013.
"Social Networking Tips." Common Sense Media. N.p., 17 Oct. 2011. Web. 17 Apr. 2013.
<http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/social-networking-tips>.
"Teens, Kindness and Cruelty on Social Network Sites." Facebook Dominates Teen Social Media Usage. Pew
Research, 9 Nov. 2011. Web. 15 Apr. 2013. <http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2011/Teens-and-social-media/Part-
1/Facebook.aspx>.
Notas del editor
Eight out of ten teens have a desktop or laptop computer. Among the 20% of teens who do not have their own computer, two-thirds (67%) have access to one they can use at home. Taken together, this means that 93% of teens have a computer or access to one.
78% of teens have a cell phone and almost half (47%) of those own smartphones. That translates into 37% of all teens who have smartphones, up from just 23% in 2011. One-quarter of teens (25%) access the internet mostly on a cell phone.
Among online teens just 46% of 12 year olds in the study used social network sites, while 62% of 13 year olds used them.
The majority of social media-using teens say their experience is that their peers are mostly kind to one another on social network sites, but their views are less positive when compared with similar assessments from online adults.
Overall, 19% of teens report that they have been bullied in the last 12 months under at least one of the four scenarios we queried in our survey –in person, by phone, text messaging, or online. And within that 19% who have been bullied, 50% of these teens say they were just bullied through one mode, while 50% said they were bullied in more than one place 15% of social media-using teens have experienced someone being mean or cruel to them personally on a social network site. The numbers are higher for 12 and 13 year old girls… One in three (33%) younger teen girls who uses social media says that people her age are mostly unkind to one another on social network sites, compared with 9% of social media-using boys 12-13 and 18% of boys 14-17. Sharing login details is a real problem. Often with younger female teenagers, it's a test of friendship. DO NOT SHARE LOGINS with anyone (except parents!)
Overall, 19% of teens report that they have been bullied in the last 12 months under at least one of the four scenarios we queried in our survey –in person, by phone, text messaging, or online. And within that 19% who have been bullied, 50% of these teens say they were just bullied through one mode, while 50% said they were bullied in more than one place 15% of social media-using teens have experienced someone being mean or cruel to them personally on a social network site. The numbers are higher for 12 and 13 year old girls… One in three (33%) younger teen girls who uses social media says that people her age are mostly unkind to one another on social network sites, compared with 9% of social media-using boys 12-13 and 18% of boys 14-17.
False confidence They feel as though because they are not saying it in person they can write anything no matter how nasty it is. They take no responsibility for what they are writing. The language that is used is often VERY offensive and crude.
65% of teens have at least 1 online profile.
How much information is made public? Even if it is only available for friends to see, does your child actually know them? A name and a school would be plenty to identify someone. Even a public listing of hobbies, music / tv taste is enough to identify a 'target'
It becomes a competition, kids don ’ t always know everyone they friend, revealing information to people they don ’ t know without thinking about the extent How many friends does your child have? Adding 'friends of friends' is not as safe as it sounds Have they met them all in real life? Being Facebook friends with people you don't like is common among teenagers What information are you broadcasting to everyone? Later in life - 'quotable quotes', employment
Meet Jonathan Neumann, everybody. He may look nearly 23, but he's actually FOUR DAYS OLD Points to be made: - default privacy settings VERY lax - necessity of 'opting out' - some users are VERY EASY to friend... others more difficult - THE VAST MAJORITY of users seem to follow the 'who are your friends' rule - once you have a critical mass of friends, it just becomes easier and easier to make more - the material that people are happy to share with relative strangers is very concerning. - tagging in photos and friends-of-friends privacy settings mean that material about US can BE SHARED BY OTHERS number of friends grew exponentially particularly through the 'friends of friends' concept - often at Facebook's suggestion. Terminology suggests a trust that's not justified. others follow most people (55%) are happy to make friends with a relative stranger
THIS IS ILLEGAL! "Manufacture, possession or transmission of child pornography" Many students have "sexy" photos as profile pictures Posting photos of others without permissions The photo can be saved by anyone Many universities and employers and are checking Facebook pages of those whom they are considering
Tagging your location can be stupid. Apps like Girls Around Me and http://pleaserobme.com/ use publicly available information from website like FB, Instagram, twitter and Foursquare, where you are tagging yourself with a location.
Who has their own Facebook page? Settings change, often without any warning We need to understand as much as we can because at the end of the day, we're the adults Following are two graphs showing how by default Facebook has expanded the information publicly available. Facebook is out there to make money, not to help you. Don ’ t settle for their default privacy settings... Choose what ’ s right for you
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You need to create your own profile. Make sure that you add your child as a friend Be aware that your child has not put you on a limited profile, or blocks you from seeing photos.
You need to be 13 to create a page. Also, it ’ s just important to read the TOS Children must remember that there is a record of everything they have said on Facebook Facebook owns everything
This is important to know for adults, because they can block you, but they can also block other people!
* Interrupt your Kids * Ask them What They ’ re Doing * Keep Computers in Common Areas Make sure the computer is in an open place. This allows you to monitor what your child is accessing on the internet. If every time you walk pass the computer the screen is minimised ask WHY?
It is important that you log on and view your child's profile regularly, through your own profile. Parents should also regularly be sitting down with their child to look at their profile. Some parents may request their child's user name and password, depending on the age of the child.
Students feel that they can multitask. For example they will have homework, Facebook and MSN open all at the same time and go between them. THEY CAN'T! It is OK to be checking on what your children are doing. Don't allow your child to be on the computer for hours at a time.