1. 2012 PAAVE Presentation
Karoline Khamis
C.A.R.E. Line Coordinator

2. Definition
 A pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors in
which an individual establishes and maintains power
and control over another with whom he/she has an
intimate, romantic, marital, or family relationship.
 Abusers often use threats, intimidation, isolations,
violent acts and other behaviors to establish and
maintain power and control which is the root of
domestic violence.

3. 1. Domestic violence occurs when a person commits one of the following
acts against or upon his spouse, former spouse, any other person to whom he
is related by blood or marriage, a person with whom he is or was actually
residing, a person with whom he has had or is having a dating relationship, a
person with whom he has a child in common, the minor child of any of those
persons, his minor child or any person who has been appointed the
custodian or legal guardian for his minor child:
(a) A battery.
(b) An assault.
(c) Compelling the other by force or threat of force to perform an act from
which he has the right to refrain or to refrain from an act which he has the
right to perform.
(d) A sexual assault.
Cont’d

4. (e) A knowing, purposeful or reckless course of conduct intended to harass the other.
Such conduct may include, but is not limited to:
(1) Stalking.
(2) Arson.
(3) Trespassing.
(4) Larceny.
(5) Destruction of private property.
(6) Carrying a concealed weapon without a permit.
(7) Injuring or killing an animal.
(f) A false imprisonment.
(g) Unlawful entry of the other's residence, or forcible entry against the other's will if
there is a reasonably foreseeable risk of harm to the other from the entry.
2. As used in this section, "dating relationship" means frequent, intimate associations
primarily characterized by the expectation of affectionate or sexual involvement. The
term does not include a casual relationship or an ordinary association between persons
in a business or social context.
Added by Laws 1985, p. 2283. Amended by Laws 1995, p. 902; Laws 1997, p. 1808; Laws
2007, c. 40, § 1; Laws 2007, c. 318, § 5.

5. Emotional or Psychological Abuse:
• Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth
•Causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner/children, destruction of
pets and property, mind games, or forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or work
Physical Abuse
•Use of force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person.
•Denying medical care of forcing alcohol and/or drug use.
Sexual Abuse
• Any situation in which partner is forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual
activity.
Economic or Financial Abuse
• Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent.

6. Power and Control
 Despite what many people
believe, domestic violence is
not due to the abuser’s loss of
control over his/her behavior.
 In fact, violence is a
deliberate choice made by
the abuser in order to take
control over his/her partner.

8. -The victim realistically fears that the batterer will
become more violent and even fatal if she attempts to
leave.
-Their friends and family may not support them leaving.
-They knows the difficulties of single parenting in
reduced financial circumstances.
-There is a mix of good times, love and hope along with
the manipulation, intimidation, and fear.
-They may not know about or have access to safety and
support.

9. A Victim is the best expert at determining their own level of
safety, and therefore are the best expert at determining how to
survive a violent relationship, even if that means staying in the
relationship

10. •FEAR
•Lack of Resources
• Financial Dependence
• Isolation/lack of support
•Institutional Responses
•Traditional Ideology

11. •Leaving is not an event
• Each time victims leave they learn a new part of the process so that when
they know its time to leave for good- they know the systems they need to
access in order to be successful
•Leaving also means breaking free from someone who has established
power over you in many ways
•Leaving will require strategic planning and legal intervention to
avert separation violence and to safeguard survivors and their
children

12. Effects of DV on Children
• Children who witness domestic
violence are
affected in ways similar to children
who are
physically abused.
• They are at a greater risk for
abuse and neglect
if they live in a violent home.
• Children exposed to family
violence are more
likely to develop social, emotional,
psychological
and/or behavioral problems than
those who are
not.
• Some children show no negative
impact from
witnessing domestic violence.

13. • Children who witness domestic violence areaffected in ways similar
to children who are physically abused.
• They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect if they live in a
violent home.
• Children exposed to family violence are more likely to develop
social, emotional, psychological and/or behavioral problems than
those who are not.
• Some children show no negative impact from witnessing domestic
violence.

14. • Numerous somatic complaints
• Nervous, anxious, short attention span
• Tired, lethargic and frequently ill
• Poor personal hygiene
• Regressed behaviors or high risk play
• Shame, guilt and self blame
• Fears of abandonment
• Anger
• Depression and feelings of helplessness
• Confusion about conflicting feelings towards their
parents.

15. • More aggressive/more passive
• Behavior problems at school
• Acting out or withdrawing
• “Parentified” or overly mature behavior
• Rigid Defenses
• Excessive attention seeking
• Lying to avoid confrontation
• Out of control behavior
• Hypersensitivity – to sound, movement
• Bedwetting and nightmares

16. •Withdrawl from school
•Becoming secretive, ashamed, or hostile to parents,
family, or friends
•Partner calls, texts, or using social networking constantly
•Apologizes for partner’s behavior constantly
•Stopped hanging out with friends

17. Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Victim’s inner thoughts Abuser’s Belittling
and feelings…. Behavior…..
Do you: Does your partner:
 feel afraid of your partner much  humiliate, criticize, or yell at
of the time? you?
 avoid certain topics out of fear
 treat you so badly that you’re
of angering your partner?
embarrassed for your friends or
 feel that you can’t do anything
right for your partner? family to see?
 believe that you deserve to be  ignore or put down your
hurt or mistreated? opinions or accomplishments?
 wonder if you’re the one who is  blame you for his own abusive
crazy? behavior?
 feel emotionally numb or  see you as property or a sex
helpless? object, rather than as a person?

18. Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Abuser’s Violence Abuser’s Controlling Behavior…..
Behavior/Threats….
Does your partner: Does your partner:
 have a bad and unpredictable  act excessively jealous and
temper? possessive?
 hurt you, or threaten to hurt
 control where you go or what
or kill you?
you do?
 threaten to take your
children away or harm them?  keep you from seeing your
 threaten to commit suicide if friends or family?
you leave?  limit your access to money,
 force you to have sex? the phone, or the car?
 destroy your belongings?  constantly check up on you?

19. •Frequent injuries with the excuse of “accidents”
•Frequent and sudden absences from work or school
•Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner
•Fear of the partner; references to the partner's anger
•Personality changes (i.e. outgoing to withdrawn)
•Excessive fear of conflict
•Submissive behavior; lack of assertiveness
•Isolation from friends and family
•Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)
• Depression, crying, low self-esteem

20. •Gently ask direct questions about the situation.
•Listen without judging.
•Tell your friend the abuse in not his/her fault.
•Emphasize help is available.
•Explain that relationship abuse is a crime and protection is
available.
•Work with your friend to identify resources that can provide
assistance and support.

21. What protection does the order provide?
By issuing a temporary protection order, the court may:
Prohibit the adverse party from threatening, physically injuring, or harassing the applicant or
minor children, either directly or through an agent.
Exclude the adverse party from the applicant's place of residence.
Prohibit the adverse party from entering the residence, school or place of employment of the
applicant or minor children and order him/her to stay away from any specified place frequented
regularly by them.
Prohibit the adverse party from having any contact with the applicant:
In person
By phone
By mail (written or electronic)
Through a third party
Order such other relief as it deems necessary in an emergency situation.

22. Types of Protection Orders
Emergency Temporary
 An Emergency Temporary  A Temporary Protection
Protection Order (ETPO) may be
issued if adverse party is arrested Order (TPO) may be issued
for domestic battery or related for 30 days.
charges and still in custody.
 An extension hearing may be
 This process MUST be started requested to extend the
immediately upon the adverse Order up to one year
party's arrest. If the request is
delayed, the judge may not thereafter.
consider it an emergency. A
hearing will be scheduled within
seven calendar days. The
applicant must attend this
hearing.

23. •The applicant will be required to complete an application, describing the need for a
Protection Order.
•Criminal charges do not have to be filed.
•Police or medical reports of current or previous incidents may be included with the
application.
•Photos of any visible injuries may be taken in the Protection Order office.
•Photo identification of the applicant is required for notarization of the application.
•The application must contain specific information about recent physical, sexual
and/or emotional abuse or threats of abuse that cause concern for the applicant's
safety.
•An advocate will review the application, discuss safety options and offer referrals to
other services as needed.
•The application process may take one to two hours.

24. The applicant MUST have a least one of the following relationships
with the person against whom the Order may be issued:
Related by blood (i.e. son/daughter, father/mother, brother/sister)
Related by marriage (i.e. spouse, ex-spouse, or current in-law)
Current or former roommate
Past or present dating relationship
Have children together
NOTE: The applicant’s, or any of the person’s listed above, minor
child may also be entitled to protection.

25. •A stalking order that is issued by a Justice of the Peace may do the following:
•Order the adverse party to stay away from the home, school, business, or
place of employment of the victim and any other location specifically named
by the court.
•Order the adverse party to refrain from contacting, intimidating,
threatening or otherwise interfering with the victim and any other person,
including a member of the family or the household of the victim, specifically
named by the court.

26. The applicant must fill out an affidavit that describes in detail the actions or behavior of the
adverse party that causes the applicant to believe his/her physical or mental well-being is at risk.
The affidavit must be LEGIBLE, and it should include all relevant dates and times so that a proper
foundation will be presented to the reviewing judge.
In the affidavit, the applicant must show that the adverse party is acting in a pattern or "course of
conduct” consisting of a series of acts over time that shows evidence of a continuity of purpose
directed at a specific person.
The applicant may include any supporting documents such as:
Documentation of phone calls
Notes left by the adverse party
Pictures of property damage etc.
Answering machine tapes.
The applicant will be contacted by a court clerk and informed of the judge's decision. If granted,
the Order will be in effect for 30 days and may be extended up to one year thereafter.

27. Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits
(bathroom) or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
Keep a bag packed in a safe place until you are ready to leave or if you need to leave
suddenly.
Important items to have:
Identification
Personal papers (i.e. medical, school, and legal papers)
Funds
Keys
Phone and Contacts
Medications
Things to help cope (i.e. pictures, keepsakes)
Change of clothes
Think about and make a list of safe people to contact and places to go.

28. Know the resources in your community for emergency shelter, information and
support.
Carry phone numbers with you at all times. Memorize all important numbers.
Inform friends, neighbors, school and co-workers so they can be aware of the situation.
Keeping the abuse a secret could be dangerous for you and others.
Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know
when to call for help.
Keep a written log, including date, time and witnesses, of any contact, harassment or
abuse.
Save written or electronic (voicemail, e-mail, text) messages, caller ID records and call
traces.
Keep a copy of your protection order on your person as well as at all places listed.
Give a copy to close friends, family, neighbors and co-workers too.

29. Get a new, unlisted phone number and screen incoming calls.
Use a post office box rather than your home address.
Change locks if you choose to stay in the same residence. Keep the outside
clear of foliage and well lit.
Avoid staying alone.
Vary your routine. Don’t make it easy to be followed.
Plan how to get away if confronted by your abuser.
DO NOT meet with the adverse party, even if he/she promises to return
belongings or to resolve differences. Always ask for a police escort to retrieve
belongs or return property.

30. Protocol for Victims on Campus
 Go to a safe place
 Seek medical attention immediately. University Medical Center (UMC)
is the only hospital that will do a rape kit. You may be injured more
seriously than you realize. Medical evidence will be needed, if you
decide to press charges.
 Call University Police (895-3668) or CALL 911. Reporting is not the
same as pressing charges.
 Call the Counseling and Psychological Services (895-3627).
 Do not blame yourself-you are the victim of a crime.
 Do NOT bathe, shower, douche, or change clothes until you have
talked with the police or nurse. However, if you have already done
these things, please do not let his stop you from seeking medical care. If
you’ve changed clothes , place the clothes you were wearing in a paper
bag and them to the hospital with you.
 Remember you may have an advocate to help every step of the way

31. Las Vegas Metro Police Department 311 or (702) 828-3111
Domestic Violence Unit (702) 828-4451
Henderson Police Department (702) 267-5000
Victim/Witness Advocate (702) 267-4727
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-500-1556
SAFE House Hotline www.safehousenv.org (702) 564-3227
Office (702) 451-4203
Safe Nest Hotline www.safenest.org (702) 646-4981
Office (702) 877-0133
Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline (702) 399-0081
Senior Protective Services (702) 455-8672
Emergency Protective Orders (702) 646-4981
Temporary Protective Orders (702) 455-3400
Stalking/Harassment Orders (702) 671-3165