5 critical stages to go through to save your marriage after an affair.

1. 5 lessons I have Learned in My
Journey to Survive an Affair
Right now, you are
probably feeling
devastated, enraged
and humiliated. You
never imagined that
your spouse could
have an affair… and
now that it’s
happened you feel
alone, empty and
lost.

2. • First think to
understand – You are
not alone.
• Tens of thousands of
couples every single
year suffer from the
effects of one or both of
the spouses having an
affair … cheating,
infidelity, adultery,
whatever … it’s all the
result of an affair.

3. • here’s the most important
thing you need to understand:
the affair isn’t your fault at
all!
• That’s right — the affair is NOT
YOUR FAULT.
• Sure, you have done some
things wrong in your
relationship, but you didn’t
force your spouse to have an
affair — they CHOSE to do it.
• And understanding THAT is
the key to unlocking the secret
to saving your relationship or
marriage if it has been
devastated by an affair.

4. Stage #1 – Shock and Disbelief
• Even if you have
suspected that something
is going on, for weeks,
months, or years – You
are still shocked beyond
belief when you find
proof for infidelity. You
can’t believe how they
could do that to you, how
they could eternally
damage the delicate trust
you had in them. And
after everything you did
for them. You feel
stabbed in the back.

5. • Your stomach turns every
time you imagine them
with their lover and you
can’t believe how
everything you have built
is shattered to pieces.
There are a few
emergency steps you
have to take after finding
out about the affair – See
what they are –
Right Here.

6. Stage #2 – Dealing With
Obsessive Images of the Affair
• After the initial shock has
faded, you find your self
obsessed. Obsessed with
the details of the affair,
obsessed with images of
THEM together,
obsessed with
questioning and doubting
yourself, while your self
esteem has disappeared.
There are effective
ways to get rid of
obsessive images and
negative thoughts –
Read about them here.

7. Stage #3 – Deciding Whether to
Stay or Leave
Will you stay and
work on the problems
that that led to this
infidelity? Or will you
leave and start over?
The toughest
decision you have to
make.
This is an article that
will help you get to
the right decision.

8. Stage #4 – How to Regain Trust
• This is probably the hardest
part of learning how to save
marriage after an affair. Some
say it’s impossible. That an
affair permanently destroys
every relationship. I know for a
fact that it’s not true. There are
ways to regain trust in your
relationship, and even before
that – There are
signs you have to look for to
figure if he or she will cheat
again and if they can regain
your trust back. You can find
these signs- Right here.

9. Stage #5 – How to Forgive (But
you will Never Forget)
• You don’t have to
forgive in order to move
on with your
relationship, post affair.
But forgiving will make
your relationship much
better. Plus, it’s proven
to be healthy for you.
Find out how to
forgive your spouse –
Right Here.

10. I am a living proof that a marriage can survive
an affair and even become much better that it
used to be. Think about it: Why would you
want it to return to the way it used to be
before the affair?
An affair is the biggest crisis a relationship can go
through – But it’s also your biggest chance to
discover the real problems and issues your
relationship suffers from and reach a higher level
of communication, transparency, love and…
FUN.
Start Saving Your Marriage – Right Now.