Going to College and Staying Connected:
Communication Between College
Freshmen and Their Parents
Madeline Smith, Duyen Nguyen, Charles
Lai, Gilly Leshed, Eric Baumer
Presented at CSCW 2012, Bellevue, WA
We studied the ways in which college
freshmen communicate with their
parents and the communication
technologies they use. Interviews
with students revealed insights
into students’ communication an
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CSCW 2012: Going to College & Staying Connected
1. Going to College
& Staying Connected
Communication Between College
Freshmen and Their Parents
Madeline Smith, Mary Nguyen, Charles Lai,
Gilly Leshed, & Eric Baumer
CSCW 2012 – February 14, 2012
2. Common Life Changes
• New job or school
• Residential move
• Relationship change
Image: Change by Rickydavid on flickr
3. Transitions Are Stressful
• Transitions disrupt daily life
• Many are associated with illness onset
[Holmes &Rahe, 1967]
• Such as loneliness & depression
[Paykel et al., 1969]
Image: Depressed by Sander van der Wel on flickr
4. Social Support Can Help
• People use coping measures
[Billings & Moos, 1981]
• Social support can buffer stress
[Cohen & Wills, 1985]
• Moving disrupts support networks
[Shklovski et al., 2008]
Image: hug a mom (5 pts) by miguelavila on flickr
5. Going to College is a Big Change
• Major turning point in students’ lives
[Flanagan et al., 1993] [LaValle et al., 2011]
• Friendships are changing
[Cummings et al., 2006] [Ellison et al, 2007]
• Relationships with parents can help
[Wintre&Yaffe, 2000]
Image: Dorm Life by borman818 on flickr
6. Families Communicate Online
• Families are online and communicating
[Check & Katz, 2009] [Yardi&Bruckman, 2011]
• Students & parents are getting closer
[Sax &Wartman, 2010] [Hofer, 2008]
• Using tech to keep in touch after move
[Gentzler et al., 2011]
Image: Facebook Demo by schramroyal on flickr
7. Research Questions
1. How do first-year college students who are
away from home for the first time choose
among and manage multiple tools for
communicating with their parents?
2. How do these communication tools
contribute to the changes in student-parent
relationships during this period?
8. Method
• Semi-structured interviews
– Communication tools used with parents
– Role of communication in relationship
• Iterative open-coding
10. Use of CMC Tools With Parents
100%
100%
90%
80%
79%
70%
68%
60%
50%
40% 47%
30%
32%
20%
10% 16%
0%
Phone Calls Email Text Video Calls Facebook Instant
Messages Messages
11. Research Questions
1. How do first-year college students who are
away from home for the first time choose
among and manage multiple tools for
communicating with their parents?
12. Convenience
• Most frequently mentioned
• Convenient tools used more often
• Inconvenient tools used less often
Image: Shiara, recursive by genericavatar on flickr
13. Weighing Social Cues
• Enjoyed rich, personal conversations
• Trade-off to reveal more information
• Privacy concerns in dorm rooms
Image: Skype by Joe Shlabotnik on flickr
14. Managing Multiple Media
• Switch depending on conversation
• Social norms around uses
• Level of required involvement
Image: An overload of communications by windsordi on flickr
15. Overcoming the Generation Gap
• Students limited by parents abilities
• Some parents open to trying new tools
• Creative solutions
Image: dad, mom and me - 1969 by freeparking on flickr
16. Face Management
• Tension about information sharing
• Effort to limit what parents see
• Some students willing to share all
Images: studying and candid by English106 on flickr
17. Choosing & Using CMC Tools
• Complex decisions about tool use
• Communicating to stay in touch
• Adds new dimensions to relationships
Image: Technology on Fieldtrips by geographyalltheway.com on flickr
18. Research Questions
2. How do these communication tools
contribute to the changes in student-parent
relationships during this period?
19. Distance Changes Relationships
• Student-parent dynamics changing
• A few students felt nature unchanged
• Some relationships improved
Image: Long Distance by Joe Thorn on flickr
20. “Normal” Relationships
• Amount of communication
• Compared to peers
• Technology changes expectations
Image: Call Your Mom by Divine Madness on flickr
21. Student-Parent Relationships
• Relationships changed in various ways
• More communication with technology
• Increased expectations
Image: Freshman Orientation 2011- Farewells by Lafayette College on flickr
22. Summary
• Tools used by students and parents
• Student’s considerations for tools
• Impact on relationships with parents
Image: DSC01116 by brent.holden on flickr
23. Implications
• Technology use is important during the
transition to college
• Need to maintain relationships for
support while dynamics are changing
Image: College Graduation by brixton on flickr
24. Moving Forward
• More diverse populations
• Focus on relationships over tools
• Explore parents’ perspectives
Image: moving forward by leslie feinberg on flickr
Changing jobs or schoolsMoving to a new citystarting or ending a romantic relationshipDeath of a loved oneAnd more!
- major turning point in young people’s lives - friendships change - good relationships with parents can help ease the transition [Wintre & Yaffe] - technology makes maintaining relationships from a distance easier
Our goals: exploratory study of student perspectives
Semi-structured interviews - up to one hour with one researcher - took place in April 2011 (about 8months into college) - general questions about students, families, relationships - focus on comm tools used - also ask about role of comm tools in relationshipsAnalysis - audio recorded, partially transcribed - open-coded iteratively to identify themes presented
19 participants (pseudonyms used here and in paper) - 16 female, 3 male - from US, moved to school (50->2000miles) - 11 parents married, 8 divorced
We identified five themes related to this question: - convenience - social cues - generation gap - multiple media - face management
- the most common consideration mentioned - cell phones considered convenient (chris talk while walking) - texting more than calling because of asynchronicity (maria ask questions) - used video calling less frequently because it required planning ahead
- considered depth of tool and conversation needs - thought phone calls were more personal (matt – phone with benefits) - trade-off with richness and shared info (steph – tone on phone) - privacy in dorms was also an issue
- frequently switched between multiple media - depending on conversation needs (Chris – faster answer via texting) - social norms around tool (email as formal or for sharing links) - level of involvement (kayla multitasking on skype)
- students somewhat limited in choosing tools their parents could use - even tech-savvy pprents like allie’s programmer mom w/ webcam - parents also learned new tools to make it easier for students (chris) - other creative solutions (matt texting brother to ask mom a question)
- tension between personal connections and privacy - awareness of daily activities good, if filtered - matt told friends to be careful what they post on his Facebook - leah not worried because her mom is “pretty chill” - kayla’s mom saw her gchat status and told her to go to bed
we found that convenience, often correlated with mobility and accessibility, was a prominent factor in choosing which tool to use when contacting their parents. However, our findings highlight a number of additional factors, such as social cues afforded by the tools, the generation gap, and face management, all of which contributed to complex decisions and sets of practices in which each student uniquely engaged.Our results therefore emphasize the importance of communicating through technology not only for staying in touch with parents, but also adding new dimensions to the relationship and signifying willingness to adjust to the other sides’ abilities and needs.
We identified two themes related to this question: - distance changes relationships - maintaining “normal” relationships
- moving away helps some to connect (megan missed mom) - many were still figuring out the new relationship dynamics (hard for chris’s parents, julia wants more advice) - some felt relationship hadn’t changed (sarah, different but not all that much) - eight felt relationships improved (emily not being suffocated)
- all thought more communication was better than less - how much varied widely (leah, multiple times per day, to steph, every few weeks) - often compared to friends, roommates and siblings (Erica friends more open) - felt they were expected to communicate more because of tech (matt)
Contributions: - identified tools used by some students in this population - student’s considerations and preferences for choosing tools - impact of tools on relationships with parents
Implications: - tech use important for transitioning to college (and likely other major life events) - need to consider kinds of support needed to maintain relationships while growing independence - ambivalence of communication during transition (good for support, possibly limiting growth)
Limitations: - small sample size - homogeneous sample (all cornell students, all form US, 16 female) - one-sidedNext Steps - parent’s side of the story - more diverse students (international, male, community colleges, etc.) - focus on relationships -