1. Promoting a
Marriage Culture
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2. Marriage & Family
Besieged
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3. Rise In
Divorce
 Up over 200%
in U.S. 19601998
Annual number of
divorces
per 1000 unwed
females
over age 15
 Up 130% in China
Sources: Statistical Abstract of the United States, 1998;
1985 – 1992
Statistics Bureau, Chinese Ministry of Civil
Affairs
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4. Children of Divorced
or Single Parents at
Risk
 Emotional problems
 Delinquency
 Dropping out of school
 Abuse of sex and drugs
 Poverty
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5. Marriage Rates
Declining
 Down by 40% in
U.S. since 1960
Annual number of
marriages
per 1000 unwed females
over
age 15
 56% of adults
are
married
Source: National Center for Health
statistics;
US Bureau of the Census, 1998
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6. Births Outside
Marriage
 Sweden —
50%
 France —
35%
 U.S.
30%
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7. Rise in
Cohabitation in America
900% increase
5
4.2 Million Couples
4
3
2
1
0.5 Million Couples
1960
1998
Source: U.S. Bureau of the Census, Current Population
Reports,
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8. Reasons for
Cohabitation
 Fear of divorce
 Less commitment
 “Test-drive”
relationship
 Government
incentives
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9. Cohabitation Is No
Panacea
 Increased conflict and
poorer communication
Source: David G. Meyers,
The Pursuit of Happiness
 Greater likelihood of
divorce
 7 times greater risk of
violence to women
Source: National Crime Victimization
Survey, US Department of
Justice, 1992
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10. Natural Family
Order
Facilitates Love
 Guides family
harmony
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11. Positions in the Family
Grandparen
ts &
Parents
Tru
e
Husban
Lov
d
Elder e
Younge
r
Sibling
Wife
Siblin
g
Children &
Grandchildre
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12. The Four Spheres of
Love
 Child’s
Sphere
 Sibling’s
Sphere
 Spouse’s
Sphere
 Parent’s
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13. Parents —
Primary Moral
Teachers
Schools can
support
parents in this
role
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14. Passes On a
Legacy
Conserves and transforms
 Grandparents — Represent
the Past
 Parents — Represent the
Present
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15. Family as Royalty of
Love
 Father and Grandfather
— Kings
 Mother and
Grandmother
— Queens
 Child
— Prince and Princess
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16. Strong Families Have
Focus Higher than
Self
 Altruistic
purpose
 Service to
community
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17. Uniqueness of Marriage
Joins two lives




Families
Possessions
Destiny
Bodies
Sex — Exclusive
to the spouse
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18. Profound Significance
of Marriage
Highest
expressio
n of yang.
One half
of
humanity.
Highest
expressi
on of
yin.
One half
of
humanit
y.
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19. Conjugal
Relationship
Emotional
and
psychologica
l bonding
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20. Conjugal
Relationship
Produces
physical and
spiritual force
to create a
new being
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21. Conjugal
Relationship
Continu
es
lineage
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22. With Freedom
Comes
Responsibility
Conscien
ce
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23. With Freedom
Comes
Responsibility
Conscien
ce
Spous
e
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24. With Freedom
Comes
Responsibility
Conscien
ce
Spous
e
Child
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25. “Sex is most joyful and fulfilling –
most emotionally safe as well as
physically safe – within a loving,
total and binding commitment… [as
in] marriage.”
Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator,
Educating for Character
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26. Sexual Desire & Self–
Control
Sexual Desires
Sexual Activity
Normal & healthy
Controlling it is
normal & healthy
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27. Human Sexuality
Involves Freedom
 Physical  Social
&
 Moral
Instinctu
al
 Physical &
Instinctual
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28. Mutual Ownership
of
Physical Sexuality
One‘s sexual expression
for spouse alone
 Fulfills its function
completely
 Based on true love
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29. Inspirational Family
Gathering
 Reading wisdom
literature
 Sharing stories of
virtue
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30. Promote Healthy
Living Among Youth
 Self
respect
 Sobriety
 Sexual
purity
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31. Fulfilled Couples —
Source of Strength
 Better parents
 Mentors to other couples
 Pillars of the community
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32. Strengthen
Marriages
 Rededication
ceremonies
 Mentoring young
couples
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