2. WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?
As a l iteral translation , etiquette simply means a col lection
of l ittle reminders to help people understand how to behave in
va r i o us s i t u a tio n s…
Etiquette ensures that people know what society in general
expects; it provides standard rules for appropriate behavior.
The purpose of etiquette isn't to put on a show for the benefit
of others with appearances and facades.
Etiquette involves an attitude of respect and concern toward
others to ensure that everyone feels valued and comfor table.
3. WHY IS ETIQUETTE IMPORTANT?
I f someone lacks an understanding of basic etiquette, he
might feel uncomfor table in social situations.
With this discomfort, he might experience embarrassment or timidity
that puts him at a disadvantage.
With a sol id foundation in etiquette and manners, a person
can feel strong and confident, even in new or unfami liar
situations.
When a person has strong social ski lls and understands how
to treat others respectfully and pol itely, he can navigate
vir tual ly anything.
4. NAME SOME SITUATIONS WHERE PROPER
ETIQUETTE CAN BE BENEFICIAL
During meals
At par ties or social events
Whi le having a conversation with a teacher
When meeting a new girl friends parents
During an interview
Moving to a new neighborhood
Star ting a new job
Ma ny, ma ny, mo r e…
Proper etiquette is impor tant in several social situations;
the following slides will cover some basics that can be
valuable in various circumstances.
5. TRADITIONALLY, HOW SHOULD MEN AND
A-Men remain standing unti l women are seated.
B-Women and men take turns one by one; first a woman sits,
then a man.
C-Everyone stands and waits for the host to be seated. Then,
al l sit.
WOMEN TAKE THEIR SEATS IN A
RESTAURANT OR AT A DINNER PARTY?
6. A-MEN REMAIN STANDING UNTIL WOMEN
ARE SEATED.
"Traditionally, men remain standing until women are
seated.
This is an especially nice gesture when guests are of
dif ferent generations, such as grandsons showing
courtesy and respect to their grandmothers.
Men assist women with their chairs unless the waiter
or host does."
7. AT MEALS,
WHEN SHOULD YOU START EATING?
A-As soon as you are served.
B-When the people on either side of you have been
served.
C-Af ter everyone is served.
8. C-AFTER EVERYONE IS SERVED.
"Wait until everyone is served before star ting to eat
in a private home or restaurant.
For family meals, the mother star ts first. Guests
should wait for the hosts. No one should leave the
table until everyone is finished."
9. AT THE END OF THE MEAL, WHAT SHOULD
YOU DO WITH YOUR KNIFE AND FORK TO
SIGNAL THAT YOU HAVE FINISHED EATING?
A-Lay the knife and fork across your plate with the
handles at four o'clock.
B-Place your utensils next to each other, on the
tablecloth, above your plate.
C-Position your utensils on your plate so that the
knife and fork form an "X".
10. A-LAY THE KNIFE AND FORK ACROSS YOUR
PLATE WITH THE HANDLES AT FOUR
O'CLOCK.
Lay the knife and fork across your plate with
the handles at four o'clock (think of a clock
face) to signal that you have finished eating.
11. WHEN IS IT ACCEPTABLE TO PUT YOUR
ELBOWS ON THE TABLE?
A-Only between courses.
B-While you are eating.
C-Never.
12. A-ONLY BETWEEN COURSES.
Never say never. Contrary to popular belief,
elbows on the table is acceptable between
courses or after everyone has finished eating,
but never during the meal.
13. POSTURE AT THE TABLE
Proper posture at the table is very impor tant .
To show that you're aler t and engaged, don't slouch.
Make sure to sit up straight, with your arms held near your
body. Never hang your elbows heavily on the table when at a
formal dinner.
14. DURING THE MEAL YOU NEED TO VISIT THE
RESTROOM. WHAT DO YOU DO?
A-Announce to everyone, "I 've gotta go to the toi let."
B-Say, "Excuse me for a moment, I ' l l be right back."
C-Say nothing -- just leave.
D-Sit quietly and suf fer unti l the meal is over.
15. B-SAY, "EXCUSE ME FOR A MOMENT, I 'LL BE
RIGHT BACK."
Publicly announcing bodily functions is crass.
If you gotta go, you gotta go -- just leave with
the minimum amount of fuss.
A quiet "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be right
back" is sufficient.
16. True or False?
BEING ON TIME
It is important to be on time for school, work, meetings, events, and
other social occasions.
The obvious answer is True- being late consistently makes you
unreliable… says you clearly do not respect other people’s time , only
yours.
But…
When it comes to dinner parties or social gatherings at someone's
home, it is common to arrive 5-10 minutes late to be sure the
host has had time to get everything set up.
17. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO FORM A
FIRST IMPRESSION?
It takes 30 seconds for a person meeting you for the first time
to form impressions about you, your character, and abi l ities.
Always be prepared to look and sound your best:
You’re always “onstage”
Good grooming is essential
Smile and make eye contact
You never get a second chance to make a first impression!
18. GOOD GROOMING
AND PERSONAL HYGIENE
Job oppor tunities, relationship possibilities, invitations to
social events, and your mental health and sel f-esteem are al l
inextricably l inked to how you present yoursel f to the world.
Grooming is simply one of those things that there is no excuse
not to take time and ef for t with.
Name some basic components of being well
groomed and discuss their importance.
Hair, teeth, skin, nails, body odor, clothes, shoes, etc…
19. WHEN BEING INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE
SHOULD YOU:
Stand up or remain seated?
Stand up
Look them in the eye?
Always, good eye contact shows confidence and focus.
Give a high five, a fist bump, or a firm handshake?
A firm handshake
A firm handshake conveys confidence, assurance, interest
and respect
20. PAIR-UP
AND PRACTICE A PROPER HANDSHAKE
Make sure your handshake is
f i rm, not a dead f ish gr ip.
H owe v e r, y o u d o n ’ t wa n t to c r u s h
t h e o t h e r p e r s o n ’ s h a n d .
Ma k e s u r e y o u d o n ’ t h a v e f o o d o r
grease on your hands. You want
the person to remember you, not
what you ate.
I f your hands are sweaty, give
them a quick nonchalant wipe on
your pants.
When you of fer your hand, look
the person in the eye and smi le.
