1. How to Get My Boyfriend Back after I Drove Him Away
One of the questions that you may ask yourself is how to get my boyfriend back. The
practice of dating is full of ups and downs, and most of the downs are the result of a
misunderstanding. So when you are trying to figure out what went wrong, here are some
clues as to where men get the wrong message and end up backing off.
Many men back off for a reason that seems counter intuitive. By trying too hard to
please the guy, serving his every need, in the end you are selling yourself as a doormat in his
eyes. The idea is to be respectful with who you are, and how you sell yourself. That is not to
say you should be dominant, but that you should say that being someone who is
respectable is how to get my boyfriend back. Men do like to be treated well at times, but
they want women who can standup for
themselves.       
Another thing that will send them away is to talk about your ex's. Men are competing
when they are dating. They are thinking of the other men who are potential competitors to
their efforts, so when you mention other men in your life you are giving them something to
compare against. Again, this is not to say you should not say anything. Background and
personal history is important. Knowing that you dated one man throughout high school and
college is important. Telling your date that he is a football player with 20 awards, his game
stats, where his tattoos are, etc. is too much. Focusing on one ex will sell the idea that
either you still have feelings for him, or if it is all negative, you will cause your date to over
analyze himself.
Business like behavior, or conversely being too promiscuous, will work against you. The
general ideal is a lady like or feminine behavior. Too much on the skin side can work against
you, but being boyish will also push away prospects. You should be feminine, conservative,
and someone who is not cheap or intimidating.
Pressuring him is another turn off. This includes trying to get him to define his role and
analyze who he is and how he feels. Men tend not to like having their feelings challenged,
and if he has an idea that is proven wrong, then it can send him packing.
Another thing to send him packing is to try and change him. You can't. Men think that
being steady means that you want him for him, so trying to change him is going to tell him
he has a serious problem. Even if he does not have a problem, trying to change him will
challenge his feelings and strip him of who he is. Let him be him. If you need something else,
find someone else.
No one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect; but when you are trying to figure out
how to get my boyfriend back, these are steps to make sure you do not scare him off.
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