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1. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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The 'self-image' is
the key to human
personality and
human
behaviour.
Change the self
image and you
change the
personality and
the behaviour.
Maxwell Maltz
Dear Readers
Greetings!
With a little image make-over,
your Ymag is in your hands with
its 35th edition. We thought
about keeping IMAGE as a
centre theme of the eMag.
What we do?
What we say?
How we say?
How we look?
All contribute to our image
building and decline, be it an
Individual, an organization or
even the country.
We have all so much to do and
undo to create a “Swatcch,
Swasth, Safal, Saksham and
Swavlambi Bharat.”
WhY now? WhY not?
Cheers,
Rajiv Khurana
Editor
rajiv@rajivkhurana.com
9810211256.
Behaviour is
the mirror in
which
everyone
shows their
image.
Johann Wolfgang von
Goethe
A2Z Actions to
boost your self-
confidence and
Image
2-7
I-OCCUPY-
Myself
8-10

2. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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A2Z Actions to
boost your
self-confidence
and Image
A Act and remain positive
Easier said than done. Especially if you have been enjoying the entire
burden of the world or nurturing a feeling that the entire world is
conspiring to act against you. Block your silly thoughts and launch
yourself as an actor. If you can’t make it fake it. Look positive. Stay like
that. Gradually you will fall in line and start enjoying yourself.
B Build and nurture good relations
‘Satsang’ is not just praying together. Getting into the company of good
and positive looking people has it’s impact. Invest in it. Nurture the
relations. Give more and you will be very well rewarded.
C Correct your body posture
Stand tall. Use your energy levels. Take charge of your body. Stop
slouching. Look into the eyes. Develop an assertive hand shake. Imagine
that a rope is pulling the top of your head towards the sky, and the rest of
your body will straighten accordingly. Keep a check on yourself and keep
correcting unless you form this new habit. Seek the help of your confidante’
to discreetly point your occasional laxity.
D Dress to express
Stop thinking that expensive
clothes and Page3 dress sense
works. Stay simple, clean and
uncrumpled. Ensure that no foul
body odour emanates from you.
Develop your own style and hues
yet avoid going overboard.Rajiv Khurana
CMC, FIMC
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A2Z Actions to boost
your self-confidence
and Image
E Express your gratitude
You are not Robinson Crusoe to live alone. You need people to live with
you. They work for you. Do you thank them or do you think that you are
God’s gift to humanity and the lesser mortals are expected to work for
you, diligently? Develop the attitude of gratitude. Say nice things and see
the magic which unfolds.
F Finishiate what you initiate
Whenever you start something, take it to the natural conclusion. The
end. This will convert you into a results-oriented achiever. Avoid excuses.
Excuses have no uses.
G Groom your soft skills
Schools and colleges may miss out in the race towards marks. Life won’t.
If you and the other fellow have similar marks, the one who
demonstrates better soft skills would always win. Brush up your
language, communication skills, Leadership and organising skills and
ensure that you treat your time well. Packaging matters. Keep improving
or else you may get passed over. Think and practice before important
communications.
H Honour commitments
Keep repeating the Salman Khan’s dialogue, “Ek baar mein
commitment kardun to mein apni bhi nahi sunta [Once I have
given my commitment then I don’t even listen to myself]”. Be a
man of words. People will take you seriously. Don’t just recite
Lord Rama, “Raghukul riti sada chali aayee, pran jaye par vachan
na jaye [The policy of the family has been that promises given
are more valuable than life].” Practice it.

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PROFESSIONALS
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A2Z Actions to boost
your self-confidence
and Image
I Introspect your principles and live them
Your family gave you ‘sanskaars’. Your upbringing nurtured your values.
You might have discovered your principles to stand-by. If not, dig deep
and find out. Stick by them. For example, if ethics are important to you,
don’t compromise, come what may. Principles and values are not lip
service. They make you stronger from inside. Live with the power that
you possess.
J Join an eager group with similar needs
Look around and you will discover many with similar needs. Create or
join the group. The bonding and commitment will be stronger. The
improvements and celebrations will be more meaningful. Try.
K Keep a good humour
Everyone likes a good laugh. Look at the TRPs of many laughter
programmes. Even action heroes are working on comedies. Enjoy a big
laugh. Before you laugh at others, try it out on your own. People will
accept you as a large hearted person. They may laugh with you and they
may respect you much more. Ensure that the humour remains healthy
and worthy. Skip vulgarity. Refrain from mind-less WhatsApp forwards.
L Lead an active lifestyle
We all know, “Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy,
wealthy and wise.” Irrespective of the schedules you keep, keep
yourself engaged. Look and stay busy with meaningful activities
that may add meaning to your short and long term goals. People
watch you for what you do or fail to do. Make your actions
speak.

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A2Z Actions to boost
your self-confidence
and Image
M Motivate yourself for the day. Every day.
Why should you look for encouragement from outside? You are the
owner of your own personality. Challenge yourself daily and work on
your intrinsic motivation. Enjoy the accomplishments on daily basis with
a pat on your own back or appreciating yourself in front of the mirror. If
you still feel the need for the external stimuli, start motivating others. It
will come back!
N Neutralize negativity and people around
Whatever you may think about yourself, it will happen. Stop acting as
the cry baby. Identify the naysayers and sourful souls around you and
keep a distance. The farther you are the better it is for you.
O Out perform your goals
Keep a tough goal and then beat it. It could be in the form of timeline,
quality, costs or even impact. Be a champion performer like Sergei Bubka
who enjoyed beating his own world records in pole vault. Every time you
out perform yourself, every time you get ready for a newer and tougher
challenge. This makes you stronger and self-delighter.
P Put a stop to your procrastination
It is easy to put out the actions for tomorrow and the tomorrow
will never come. The pending list of actions attracting your
attention will keep haunting you. Take the bull by it’s horns. Use
your pull. Attack the unfinished agenda and finish off. The relief
may make you ready for more.

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A2Z Actions to boost
your self-confidence
and Image
Q Quit a bad habit: keep quitting
An action repeated becomes a habit. A habit becomes a behaviour. If you
find habits like smoking etc., tough to quit, try a different version. Start
forming a new habit. Not smoking is also a habit. Use your internal
strength and motivation to get started to form the new habit of not
smoking. Research says, an action regularly repeated 29 times helps you
form a new habit. Try with all the irksome things.
R Read more and share more
Become a voracious reader. This will help you improve your knowledge,
language and expression. Share what you learn and the learning
multiplies manifold. Seek the learning from others too.
S Smile and be infectious
It takes 14 muscles of your face to smile and 79 muscles to frown.
Conserve your energy. Improve your face value. The more you smile, the
more smiles keep coming back at you. I know you have started practicing
your smile right now.
T Tolerate ambiguity and stop brooding
Things will never move the way you desire them to move. Be tolerant.
Accept people and situations as they are. Avoid being critical in public. If
needed, speak with people alone and share your expectations. Remain
patient for situations to change.
U Undergo periodic introspection/review
Monitoring progress is very vital. Taking feedback is equally
important. Sit back and relax to go through the progress you
have made. Invite the feedback of people around you who are
well intended and eager to help you. Your own formed/joined
help group could also play a vital role.

7. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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A2Z Actions to boost
your self-confidence
and Image
V Volunteer and help others
There are many voluntary organisations and associations which may take
advantage of your competence. Offer them help. The small and big
accomplishments will boost you. At least you will not belong to the cadre
of people who only thrive on drawing room, class room or cafeteria
discussions about the ailments of our society.
W Work on small portions of big projects
Can you eat an elephant? Yes. In small portions. Each big project looks
like the size of the elephant. In smaller chunks, you can bite it easy and
digest it easy. Rome was not built in a day. No body expects you bring
overnight transformation in results. Just get started.
X ‘Xcercise and stay fit
Avoid compromising on your health. Do anything and everything to stay
fit. Eat right. Keep stress at bay. Rest regularly. Rejuvenate periodically. If
nothing else, wear your smart phone and go for a long walk in your
nearby park. This solitude may become golden.
Y Yearn to learn more and keep improving
Learn-Unlearn-Relearn. Understand the power of remodelling yourself.
Apply this to all your knowledge and skills. Expand your mental horizon
to acquire new skills. Remember, in the success journey you have to
always cycle uphill.
Z Zoom ahead with your zest for life
Materialistic comforts are not alone to enhance happiness.
Nature’s bounty are manifold. All free. Enjoy the moments from
sunrise to sunset and under the umbrella of stars. The more you
enjoy the more you charge and empower yourself. Zoom with
people. This is not competitive.
Rajiv Khurana, CMC, FIMC
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8. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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I-OCCUPY-Myself
Obsessive
Compulsive
Cell-phone
Usage to
Piss
You
RAJIV KHURANA
CMC, FIMC
Cell-phone is the greatest gift by man to
humanity. The best way to show the world
with my ‘look-busy-stay-easy’ attitude.
Imagine the state of the world if EVE had
chosen a different apple that we all cherish
today! This could have resulted into an-
engagement-of-a-different-kind. Much to the
comfort for the mankind. Steve Jobs, you
missed the opportunity by few million years!!
I love my cell phone. Who doesn’t?
I care not what people think. They dare not
tell me what to do. My cell phone is my little
world. Dhiru Bhai said, “Karlo duniya mutthi
mein.” Since then, I have been keeping a
strong grip on my cell phone.
I dislike meddling with the affairs of people
around. I confine myself to my own
occupation. Simple. Straight. Solid.
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
Meetings are a great place especially for the
eating…and ofcourse heating of the boss
who is perpetually perturbed about things he
picks up as ‘not happening’ from the
mountain of ‘happenings’. This is the best
time to pretend ‘an important customer
texting’ and move into the peaceful oasis of
solitude amidst the desert of deserting
participants.

9. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I love training. Especially
when the high decibel
trainer gets into his
unending monologue. It’s a
great art to check my-world
on the 4.5 inches of smart
screen. I lead and others
follow. Many take out their
small and big smarties to
check their degree of
belongingness and
longingness with the world
around. Poor trainer. Can’t
even check his status. Pity.
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I am a social
animal…nah… a self-
proclaimed social Page3.
People love to be in touch
with me, often, on my
pestering. This happens
when I am in a completely
different social setting.
Imagine the impressions I
create. The gratitude is
writ-large for taking out my
precious time for them.
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I love my classroom. A lot
happens and more can
happen. Generations ago, I
am told, they used to play
‘tic-tac-toe’ or send love
slips across the rows. How
primitive! Today text has
taken a hit. Emoticons and
mono-syllabi matter. Quick
– Impactful – Customized.
Try it if you are not old
enough to learn the lingo.
What can the teacher say!
We are surfing the net.
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I love going to restaurants.
Eating, meeting and
fleeting is a great time
pass for the time starved
society. The un-expected is
always welcomed. The
chance intrusions are
great ego boosters. So
what if I am in the loo busy
doing other things. This too
is urgency. Speaking loud
while eating out is a great
digester.
I-OCCUPY-Myself

10. Y#35 February 1, 2015
Window for action loving
PROFESSIONALS
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I-OCCUPY-Myself
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I love movies. Bollywood,
Hollywood, Kollywood,
Nollywood…all are jolly
good. I have stopped
talking loud of late after a
couple of not-so-friendly
kisses with the fists of
fellow movie goers. Still it’s
great fun to see the small
screen with the backdrop
of big screen. How else
would the world know the
expensive mall-theatre I
am sitting in. Plus the
bijnus guys need to be told
what to do with the
deliveries and
subordinates have to be
shouted at in hush-hush
tones. Earlier people used
to move out to answer the
call of nature whenever
the song started. Now,
making a call during the
song has become my
nature.
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I love driving. This is a
perfect time to call people
who drive you crazy. Don’t
worry of the occasional
crazy looks you get from
the road. If looks could kill
you would have long been
a history. Just be watchful
of the ‘thullas’ you may
encounter. Why put them
through the dilemma of ’to
take or not to take’
Gandhiji printed papers
from you. I like the style of
holding the cell phone in
one hand and waving out
with the other hand. Takes
practice. Don’t worry about
he car. It will surely take
you. Somewhere!
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF
I-OCCUPY-MYSELF in every
place conceivable from
temples to shopping to
kitty parties to political
gatherings to even when
the National Anthem is on.
Marriage or Cremations
not withstanding. Match
me if you can. Beat me.
You Can’t. I remain the
master.

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