1. Anger
Management
Skills

2. Does everybody experience
anger?
 Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re
going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act
is up to you. And that matters, because how
you act leads to consequences.

3. Objectives:
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1.
2.
3.
4.
Identify your anger triggers
Know your anger cues
Know your anger style
Deal with your anger effectively

4. TRIGGERS
What bugs you?
 Something that happens
that makes you angry
 What triggers you does not
always trigger someone
else.

5. 1. You have the highest
average on social studies tests,
but when report cards are
handed out, the teacher gives
someone else a higher grade
than you because he
participates in class more than
you do.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

6. 2. Your brother bumps your
arm while you reach for
something at the dinner
table, and you knock over a
pitcher. The pitcher breaks
and you get blamed.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

7. 3. Your best friend has
a secret that she tells
to two other friends
but not to you.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

8. 4. A classmate spills
juice on your
homework and the
teacher says it’s too
sloppy to hand in.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

9. 5. One of your friends
is so bossy that she
insists on telling you
who to invite to your
birthday party.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

10. 6. A kid in the park
insults your best
friend.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

11. 7. Someone in your
class spreads a rumor
about you.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

12. 8. Your older sister
keeps interrupting you
when you’re trying to
tell your mom
something.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

13. 9. You tell a friend a
secret and then learn
he has told it to
others.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

14. 10. You let your
brother borrow your
new digital watch, and
the
next day he doesn’t let
you use his video
game.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

15. 11. At the pizza place, you
have to wait ten minutes
before your order is taken
because the man behind the
counter has served two
people who came in after
you.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

16. 12. You’re crossing the
street and a car honks
at you as if you’ve
done something wrong,
but you have the right
of way.
a.
b.
c.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

17. MAKE A LIST
 If you know your
anger triggers, then
you can either:
 1. Try to avoid them
 2. Learn how to
deal with them.

18. ANGER CUES
Clenched fist
Racing &
pounding
heartbeat
Sweat
 Your body
sends you
signals,
when
you’re
getting
angry.
Loud voice
Red face
Upset
stomach

19. Complete the Checklist
 What are your anger cues?

20. What’s your anger
style?
 When your anger is triggered, you’re
going to react in some way. The way
you react is called your ANGER STYLE.
Dumping
Acting
Out
Burying

21. ACTING OUT
 Easiest to recognize
 It’s when you strike out
at the person you are
mad at: physically or
verbally.
 YOU’RE OUT OF
CONTROL!!!!

22. Consequences
You get in trouble
Problem is not solved

23. DUMPING
DISPLACED ANGER
 Shifting your feelings to
someone you feel it’s safe
to be mad at.
 Ex. Guy gets mad at his
boss, comes home &
yells at his wife, who yells
at the kids, who kick the
dog!!

24. Consequences
 You hurt innocent people
 Problem is not solved

25. BURYING
( ignoring )
 When you hold your anger down inside
yourself because you think it isn’t nice to
have those feelings.
 Denying your angry isn’t dealing with it.
 It can come out in other ways:
headaches, stomachaches, anxious,
depressed
 One day you might explode!!

26. Consequences
 You hurt yourself
 You may hurt others when you
EXPLODE
 Problem is not solved

27. DEALING WITH
ANGER
 When you find yourself angry,
REMEMBER the only behavior
you can manage is YOUR own!!!
 So, pay attention to your anger
cues.
 And, if you feel like you’re going
to lose it…

28. Get a grip!!!
 1. Cool off, stay calm.
 Walk away
 Count to 10
 Take deep breaths
 Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this.
Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.”
 Imagine you are in a peaceful place.

29.  2. Give yourself some time to sort things out.
 Write the problem down on paper.
 Think it through. Ask yourself: what really
happened? How was I triggered? What were
my cues.
 Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust.

30.  3. Turn your angry energy into a change for
the better.
 Tell the person making you angry how you feel.
 Channel your angry energy into a physical
activity.
 Try to solve the problem.
 Try to accept situations you can’t change.

31. EVERYBODY GETS
ANGRY
 That’s just how it is.
 The difference comes in what you do
about it.
SO:
GET A GRIP!!!