Mostly the thoughts of a teen is that parents or guardians would be null, or filled with hate. It is upto the parents to prove to that they are on their side. Kids are likely to be more receptive to feedback and suggestions.

1. a healthy conversation with your teenage kid
Adolescence can be a trying phase not just for parents dealing with teenage
children but also for teenagers themselves because this is the time their mind
and body are vulnerable to a number of changes, most of which are not in their
control. In many cases, parents seek external counseling and psychological
services to guide the teenagers during this complex phase. Communication is
often the key of handling or dealing with teenage children. If you find yourself
beginning a conversation with your teenage son or daughter in a rational mode
and very soon find yourself fuming, frustrated and annoyed, here are some tips
to make your conversation more practical and effective.

2. 1. Inform him/her in advance
Informing your teenage child of a potential conversation on a specific
subject you want to have, gives him/her ample time to ponder on it.
Catching them unawares is the last thing you might want to do to avoid
unnecessary arguments and troubles. Do not expect the teenager to
come prepared with a checklist but what you are giving them is an
opportunity to process thoughts and ideas on the subject.
2. Stop being preachy
This is one of the grave mistakes committed by most adults. And this is
rightly one of the reasons pointed by
any counseling and psychological
service provider, as one of the most
popular reasons for ineffective
communication. Condense your
conversation into points that are
easy to explain and receive response
on. Simple and short sentences
eliminate chances of misunderstanding and allow the listener to think on
and process every note.

3. 3. Avoid stares and direct eye contact
Having a rational and simple conversation without eye contact has
always had a better success rate than direct eye-to-eye conversation.
Talk to your son or daughter as you drive or walk or engage in some
tasks to avoid putting the listener in a zone of discomfort.
4. Put a lid on your emotions
It is very easy to get emotional when you have a strong conversation
with your children. But this is not the time for it. Displaying emotions like
frustration, anger or by screaming, crying or any kind verbal attack is
not going to fetch you any desired or positive results.

4. 5. Be His/Her friend
Most times, the attitude of a teenage son or daughter is that parents and
guardians are their arch enemy. Prove to them that you are on their
side. In such cases, they are likely to be more receptive to feedback and
suggestions.
6. Give time
Do not expect to see results overnight. Give the teenager a few hours,
days or sometimes even weeks to process the intensity and magnitude
of the conversation or subject in hand.
Seeking the counseling and psychological services can be done in challenging
situations. Expert help can always deliver positive results and also ensure
relatively quick outcomes.

5. www.midwestcenter.com
The Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety
Los Angeles, CA