Leaders need to apply psychology knowledge and tools to break the limiting beliefs of both the leader and the followers. These slides provide the tactical methods.
1. Dr.Arivalan DBA, PhD
NLP Coach (ABNLP. USA, Certified Master Hypnotherapist (IACT)
arivalankr@praxisynerg
Praxis Skills Training and Consultancy
2. Dear Respected Participants
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the slides and cases will be covered in this
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intentionaly skipped slides can be used as
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3. Leading Oneself
› Developing adaptability
› Increasing self-awareness
› Managing yourself
› Increasing capacity to learn
› Exhibiting leadership stature
› Displaying drive and purpose
› Developing ethics and integrity
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4. Leading Others
› Managing effective teams and
workgroups
› Building and maintaining
relationships
› Developing others
› Communicating effectively
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10. What prevents a leader to increase
his/her circle of influence? Give five
major points according to most
important to least important. Stay
focus on leadership traits (internal
factors) only.
11. Everyone has a unique model of the world. Therefore
respect other peoples model of the world.
The map is not the territory.
People are not their behaviour.
All behaviour has a positive intention.
There is no failure, only feedback
There are no un-resourceful people, only un-
resourceful states.
The meaning of communication is the response you
get.
Everyone can be taught to do anything
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12. Incremental Improvement - new
skills, practices, doing things
better
Re-shaping Patterns of Thinking -
revising frames of reference,
how one sees the world, and
assumptions about the way
things work
Transformation – a fundamental
shift in how one sees oneself
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13. “You cannot lead, coach or teach anyone
without his or her permission-even someone
who reports to you. Sure, you can use all the
authoritarian, heavy-handed tactics you
want to make people accountable for
showing up and doing certain tasks.
However, it won’t make people feel
responsible for the larger mission or be
open to your teachable point of view. The
ability to accomplish your goals depends
ultimately on investing in your relationships
until you have built a powerful partnership
that can move mountains.
What you think?
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Transformational Leadership
– Emphasized the difference between sources of authority
– includes raising the level of morality in others
– Transformational (transforming) – “occurs when
one or more persons engage with others in such a
way that leaders and followers raise one another to
higher levels of motivation and morality” (1978)
– Pseudotransformational – personalized
leadership
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TRANSFORMATIONAL
Process of
engaging with others
to create a connection
that increases
motivation
and morality in both the
leader and the follower
Leader is attentive to the needs
and motives of followers and tries to
help followers reach their fullest
potential.Org. example - A manager or the
supervisor attempts to change
his/her company’s corporate values
to reflect a more humane standard of
fairness & justice – In the process
both manager & followers may
emerge with a stronger & higher set
of moral values
17. Four Faces of Frank
Analyst
Artist
Good Buddy
Task Master
Write beside each face, list the behaviors that tend
to get these personality types in trouble.
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18. 1. They never criticize
2. They fulfill worker’s “desire to be great/ important”.
3. They never kill enthusiasms
4. They talk what others want rather than what they want
5. They always win themselves a listening
6. They always uses right language
7. They always uses the right gestures
8. They never interrupt while others are talking
9. They have the skills of winning a person
by losing an argument
10. They use kindness correctly
11. They always talk something relevant to others
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19. Once upon a time there was bear
who was hungry and a man who was
cold, so they decided to negotiate in
a neutral cave. After several hours a
settlement was reached. When they
emerged the man had a fur and the
bear was no longer hungry.
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21. The main purpose of the innermost
part of the brain is survival.
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Amygdala is
deep within the most elemental parts
of the brain.
22. Positive Impact
› High Empathy
› Very Creative
› Receptive to listening
to personal problems
› Include human
elements in the
decisions
› Learn from Mistakes
› Trustable
› Protective
› Willing to take blames
Negative Impact
› Anger
› Moody
› Unpredictable
› Make decisions
emotionally
› Practice favoritism
› Take action without
facts
› Easily influenced by
feelings
› Workers can take
them for a ride
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23. Positive Impact
› Very rational
› Lingers on the facts and
not emotions
› Reports are very specific
› Less talk more work
› Likes expert power
› Very good in numbers
› Meticulous
› Likes to follow rules
› Preventive thinker
Negative Impact
› Cold blooded
› Lack of empathy
› Tried to avoid blames
› Difficult to trust – facts vs
people, fact wins.
› Uncomfortable to talk
with
› Poor teacher
› Less words more work
› No room to discuss
personal problems
› Usually will loose
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Emotions will be revisited tomorrow.
24. The emotions-attitudes-
behavior model illustrates
that attitudes are shaped
by ongoing emotional
experiences.
Thus, successful companies
actively create more positive
than negative emotional
episodes.
Courtesy of CXtec
25. Social Awareness
Self-management
Understanding and sensitivity to the
feelings, thoughts, and situation of
others
Controlling or redirecting our internal
states, impulses, and resources
Self-awareness
Understanding your own emotions,
strengths, weaknesses, values, and
motives
Relationship
Management
Managing other people’s emotions
Lowest
Highest
27. The coercive style - “Do what I tell you”
The authoritative style - “Come with me”
The affiliative style - “People come first”
The democratic style - “What do you
think?”
The pacesetter style - “Do as I do now”
The coaching style - “Try this”
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Think of the leadership styles as the
clubs in a golf bag. In the hands of
a professional each is used in the
right place and circumstance, often
with unconscious competence.
31. Mr.Sam is a hardworking technician and have worked in a mining
company for more than five years. He is liked by the operators and his
colleagues well. He is very friendly and achieve the assigned tasks
without fail. Ramu joined the company 3 months ago and he is very
close to Ravi, their boss. Ravi and Ramu are childhood friends and Ravi is
the one who brought Ramu to the company. Even though Ramu is a
good worker, sometimes he seeks Sam’s advice on the technical
matters. Ramu is not friendly compared to Sam. Furthermore, Sam used
to guide Ramu on some technical matters. After one year, Ravi
promoted Ramu to become an engineer while Sam was given a normal
pay rise. Sam was very disappointed with Ravi and tendered his
resignation. During the exit interview he gave a nasty comments about
Ravi’s favoritism attitude towards Ramu. The management requested
Sam to reconsider his resignation and willing to promote him to higher
position.
Question: Who is wrong and who is right?
What will you do if you belong to a higher management team?
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32. How do we form our self talk? The way we talk
to ourselves comes from our beliefs.
Beliefs form our opinions about our world and
ourselves.
Our beliefs originate from the way our parents
raised us and what they communicated to us
plus additional life experiences. If we grew up
being told we were shy and that shy is bad, we
will believe that and turn that belief into a
negative self talk. For example, you may tell
yourself you are a bad public speaker
because you are shy.
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33. Negative self talk affects us in many ways. It can
lead to depression, stagnation, self pity, and many
other negative influences. All of these combined
lead us to not live our best possible life. Some
examples of Negative self talk are:
I don’t think I can trust him
He is talking behind my back
He is mixing with my enemies therfore he must be one of
them
I don’t think I can allow him to be better than me
I should torture him because he always speaks he knows
everything
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34. Positive self talk on the other hand can lead a person to live the
best life that they can. If instead of saying you are not good
enough you say “I can do this”. Not only will you achieve your
goals, but you will be happier and healthier. Positive self talk
gives you a permanent cheerleader in your corner! One that
carries positive messages to all areas of your life and helps you
move forward. Other examples include:
He needs time to learn.
I need to change my style so that he listens
I have to get some evidence before taking any actions
I cannot be biased towards him because of one silly mistake
Let him mix with my enemies, It doesn’t mean he is like that too.
I am emotional, therefore should not let my emotions to flare up
and make irrational decisions
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36. Understand the INTRINSIC values and the
metaprogram of the subordinates.
Then match their pattern of the
metaprogram
Thirdly, Build rapport using their own
pattern.
Finally, They will be receptive to your
instruction
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37. Intrinsic values are accumulated as a result
of our life experiences.
Underlying these are some deeper-rooted
values that determines the way you
approach life.
Intrinsic values are easily recognizable
because they show themselves as patterns
in what you say, how you say it and what
you do.
Leaders are able to change their personal
patterns to match with the others to build
strong RAPPORT.
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41. Tony Wong enjoyed his job as a technician.
He admired the top engineers who are in
high positions after producing the results the
management wanted unflinchingly. And he
aspires to be like them.
The way to do this was to engage and
improve the job and people skills at the
workplace.
Tony would come up with all kinds of silly
excuses to procrastinate rather than to
make the changes to be what he wanted.
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42. An awareness of your intrinsic values is very
often enough to create change.
Sometimes however, awareness is not
enough and circumstances may suggest
that a change in behavior could be
beneficial. As the majority of the behavior is
habitual, the challenge lies in breaking the
old habits and developing new ones by
repetition.
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44. Structure of Rapport:
Professor Albert Mehrabian, Ph.D., of the
University of California, Los Angles (UCLA), in
1972 in a series of controlled experiments
was able to demonstrate that non-verbal
signals were significantly more influential
than other stimuli (see numbers below).
He found that more than 90% of our ability
to influence lies outside of the actual words
we use.
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45. A state of trusting and openness.
A perception of liking and being liked.
A state of feeling of closeness and safety.
A state where a person is less critical of
ideas offered to them.
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1 to many
Many to many
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93% of our
communication
takes place on
the
subconscious
level
Physiology
Posture/ Stance
Gesture
Facial Expression
Breathing
Eye Movement/ Blinking
Tonality
Volume (loudness)
Tone (pitch) Tempo (speed)
Timbre (quality/ clarity)
Resonance
Words
Predicates Key
Words
Common
experiences &
associations Content
chunks
48. Before we go into how we can elicit
someone's values, let's ensure that we
understand what we mean by
someone's values. (Next slide includes
excerpts from my unpublished
manuscript on Meta-Programs entitled
"Patterns of Influence"
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49. Before we actually get into Eliciting and Creating
Emotional States, let's review a little of what I call
working theory or what is it that makes this work
so well and so easily. We'll briefly look at these
important concepts.
Start with an outcome in mind. What is the
"emotional state" you want to produce in yourself
and in the other person.
Almost anything is possible when you are in
rapport with someone.
To create an emotional state in someone else
you must first put yourself in that state.
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1. “Tank”
Confrontational, pointed & angry
The ultimate in pushy behavior
2. “Sniper”
Rude comments, biting sarcasm
Attempts to make you look foolish
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3. “Grenade”
After initial calm, explodes into uncontrolled
ranting & raving
4. “Know-it-All”
Has a low tolerance for correction and
contradiction
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5. “Think-They-Know-It-All”
Attempt to fool some or all of the people
most of the time
Really an attempt to get attention
6. “Yes Person”
Say “yes” without thinking things through
An attempt to please people and avoid
confrontation
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7. “Maybe Person”
Procrastinates in hope that a better choice
will present itself
8. “Nothing Person”
No verbal feedback
No non-verbal feedback
Nothing
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9. “NO Person”
Able to defeat big ideas with a single
syllable
Deadly to morale
Throw cold waters on good spirit
56. Complainers
Clams
Ultra-Agreeable
Perpetual Pessimists
Indecisive
* Clearly not every DP fits neatly into one of these simple categories
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57. Coaching that:
› supports the achievement of operation
outcomes
› augments the leadership capacity
required to drive business results
› enables systemic change
› is sufficiently process driven to be
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› is measurable
› is accountable for a positive ROI 70
58. What do experts do? Must be Develop
(good practice) effective expertise
(application)
Why? Education
(Research) (Break into
key elements)
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59. Perceptual positions
› Position 1 – Self
› Position 2 – The other person that do
not have good relationship with you.
› Position 3 – Appointed consultant
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60. 1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation
2. Have genuine interest in people
3. Give a gesture how pleased you are to meet or talk to people
4. Throw a real smile
5. Remember the names which is the most important sound
6. Be a good listener by encouraging others to talk about
themselves
7. Talk in terms of other person’s interest
8. Make the person important and do it sincerely
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62. The Case For Mentoring
• Seventy-one percent (71%) of Fortune 500 and
private companies use mentoring in their
organization.
Business Finance Magazine, 2000
• Seventy-seven percent (77%) of U.S. companies
surveyed in 2000 said mentoring improved both
retention and performance of employees.
Business Finance Magazine, 2000
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63. The Case For Management
Mentors
• In a survey it was found that 73% of
organizations used mentoring, yet only 21%
provided any guidance or training.
TrainingZone 12-Feb04
• “ A good …….mentor can make a massive
difference to individual and organisational
performance. But a bad one can be an
‘UNGUIDED MISSILE’ and do considerable
damage”
TrainingZone 12-Feb-04
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64. Best Practices & Standards
• 8 Core Standards identified in:
– Design
– Implementation
– Matching
– Training
– Program Management
– Program Evaluation
– Quality Control
– Role of the Mentoring Program Manager
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65. Formal & Informal Mentoring
• Informal Mentoring
– Goals unspecified
– Outcomes unknown
– Access limited & may exclude
employees
– Mentorees/Mentors self-select
– Mentoring lasts a long time
– No training/support
– Organization benefits indirectly
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66. Formal & Informal Mentoring
• Formal Mentoring
– Goals established
– Outcomes measured
– Access open to all who qualify
– Mentorees/Mentors matched
– Training and support provided
– Mentoring time limited (9-12 months.)
– Organization benefits directly
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71. Ex: Listening to dinner conversation between
two people in a restaurant. It was clear to us
that neither could possibly know what the other
was talking about, but they thought they
did. You can have very “meaningful”
conversations and arguments without ever
knowing what the other person is talking about.
72. To demonstrate the approach, the therapist brought to
the stage a woman who had a problem with her
husband. She explained that he often had to work late
at the office and, though he was very good about
calling to let her know, she still felt annoyed about it.
The session proceeded approximately as follows:
Therapist: Where does he call you from?
Client: His office.
Therapist: How do you know that?
Client: Well, he says he's still at his office.
Therapist: Could he have been calling from somewhere
else?
Client: (in obvious growing distress) It's possible, I guess.
73. A technician is having a disciplinary problem. He often comes
late to work, often putting his supervisor in trouble. Even though
the supervisor is kind enough to cover up for the technician, the
news has gone to the higher management. The management
called the technician for inquiry:
Manager: The HR record shows that you came late to work for 5
times last month. How can you improve yourself?
Technician: I am sorry sir, I need to send my son to school every
morning that causes me the delay.
Manager: Do you think, the company should set precedence to
allow you to come late regularly?
Technician: No sir, I know it is not possible
74. Manager: Since you know it is not possible, How could you
promise that you will come on time to work?
Technician: I will try my level best to come early sir next time.
Manager: Is trying your best means there will be chances that
you will come late still?
Technician: No sir, I didn’t mean that way.
Manager: What action do you think the company should take if
you repeat the mistake again, please suggest?
Technician: No sir, I shall not repeat it again, promise!
Manager: ?????
75. Rahim’s (Manager): You are meeting with Ahmad – a supervisor who has
been with the Department for about six years and understands how to get
things done – to review his performance on a recent production project.
Ahmad is a skilled supervisor and works tirelessly. However, his people skills
are bad and the operators’ morale are on high time low and requiring
interference from Rahim.
You ask to meet with Ahmad to provide him with positive feedback and
guidance about the appropriate level of people management.
Ahmad (Employee): You were frustrated by Rahim’s constant interference in
your job. You wish that Rahim had more clearly explained what he was
expecting up front, as well as why explain why he is not happy with you for
doing your job well.
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78. A state of anxiety that occurs when an
individual’s beliefs, feelings and
behaviors are inconsistent with one
another
Most common when behavior is:
› known to others
› done voluntarily
› can’t be undone
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80. An adaptive response to a situation that
is perceived as challenging or
threatening to the person’s well-being
A complex emotion that prepares us for
fight or flight
Eustress vs. distress
83. Stressors are the causes of stress -- any
environmental condition that places a
physical or emotional demand on the
person.
Some common workplace stressors
include:
› Harassment an incivility
› Work overload
› Low task control
84. Repeated and hostile or
unwanted conduct, verbal
comments, actions or gestures,
that affect an employee's
dignity or psychological or
physical integrity and that result
in a harmful work environment
for the employee
85. Unwelcome conduct -- detrimental
effect on work environment or job
performance
Quid pro quo
› employment or job performance is
conditional on unwanted sexual relations
Hostile work environment
› an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working
environment
86. Work Overload Stressor
› Working more hours, more intensely than one can
cope
› Affected by globalization, consumerism, ideal
worker norm
Task Control Stressor
› Due to lack control over how and when tasks
are performed
› Stress increases with responsibility