You may recall my sister Cindy, but should you don't, allow me to give you a brief overview: My sist...

1. Caring for Mother at Home: Remember Her Emotional
Needs
You may recall my sister Cindy, but should you don't, allow
me to give you a brief overview: My sister owned a very
successful stuff-managing company for many years, but she
gave it up to care for our parents in their later years. The
time was right for our parents as well as my sister certainly
desired her. Along the way, Cindy acquired insight into
caring for loved ones.
I would like to talk about a modest but vital part of the
penetration Cindy recognized while caring for our mom -- the importance of focusing on the
psychological needs of the maturing parent/patient, and never permitting the significance of
"physical care" to become your complete relationship.
When you read Cindy's remarks below, I would recommend that you seek help in case you get
consumed with the "physical caring" only and lost the chance to totally benefit from the mental and
relationship needs of your loved one.
She was completely reliant and bed bound, while caring for my very ailing Mom in the last years of
her life. Using a tracheotomy, she was sent home due to issues in coming off the ventilator while in
the hospital that she continued to live with. She had a feeding tube for nutritional support not to
mention, she had a urinary catheter. The wide-ranging amount of attention that needed to be
delivered to Mother every day was overwhelming sometimes. It was important to help keep the
feeding tube site really clean, catheter website, and the tracheotomy website to avoid illness. Along
with bathing and changing her constantly, it was a very active 24 hours for me.
But there was something I tended to forget. When you're making sure you get it right and focused on
a your loved one's attention, you can occasionally forget about the mental demands of your loved
one. Here are some things I learned:
Make sure their room is bright with lots of keepsakes around. Attempt to reminisce about the
significance of a certain keepsake with them and allow them to tell you stories of its own value.
When possible, have their bed near a window for them to look out. My mother appreciated the
squirrels and birds we fed outside her window. Place pictures of the favorite scenes within their field
of vision, if no window is available.
Tune in for their history. My mom especially enjoyed me to pay attention to her talk about her
service in WWII as a Morse code operator and viewing VHS movies with her about the war.
Take time for attractiveness! I learned to spend extra hours brushing my mother's hair, applying the
lotions she adored, and filing her nails.
Cease and spend time together. Occasionally my mother just wanted me to sit with her and hold her
hand. She loved me reading to her until she fell asleep.

2. Toward the conclusion of Mother's time she said to me, "Please hug me, no one has hugged me
recently." It broke my heart to think I'd missed this very special element of her attention. With all
the continuing day-to-day work to make certain her physical care was completed, I'd forgotten one of
the most important areas of care giving - spending mommy and adoring -daughter time with my
Mum.
Should you get in a situation for example this, where you're administering physical attention that is
so much that there doesn't seem to be hours or energy left to stop and spend time with your loved
one, please seek help. Being a caregiver might be difficult. There are caregiver services which will
enable you that time you as well as your loved one really desire so you could be a daughter.
Senior Home Care