4. The boss who is a yeller, a fighter, a tyrant. The boss who
must have his way or he/she loses his/her temper. Or,
maybe he/she is the opposite and is incredibly passive
aggressive. “That” boss is a boss who doesn’t take no for
an answer and doesn’t support you when you need it most.
“That” boss is demanding, over the top, and makes
everyone around him/her walk on eggshells or isn’t around
much at all to help you.
"THAT" BOSS
6. THE FACT IS,
YOU’LL NEVER
BE ABOVE
“THAT” BOSSHow do you avoid fits of frustration when things aren’t
going well as a boss? What do you do when your
company isn’t giving you the support you need to
support your team of employees? Many of those that
are “that” boss do not have what they need to do the
job well. That is not to say that these bosses are not
at fault for their actions and behaviors, but it does
help us, those who are under them, to have some
compassion for them.
7. People who are “that” boss usually
did not start out that way. They once
were new employees, ones who were
scared and desperate to make good
impressions. Realizing you are not
above becoming a bad boss helps
you have a healthy relationship with
your emotions. You learn to control
them and respect others instead of
lose them and belittle others.
8. MAKING THE
TRANSITION
UPWARD
When transitioning from a lower-level
employee to a manager, supervisor,
director, or boss of any kind, it is
important to realize that you are not
“above” this risky behavior. It takes skill,
experience, patience, emotional
intelligence, and time.
9. When you take on a managerial
position, let’s say, for the first
time, you undergo a major
change of pace in your career.
You go from trying to meet
deadlines to cover your job
duties to trying to make sure
ten people, for example, meet
the deadlines to cover their job
duties. There is a sense of
having control, in that you give
directions to your subordinates
and hold them accountable.
However, there is also sense of
chaos, because you cannot, at
the end of the day, force
someone to do anything.
11. DIVING INTO
SUCCESSFUL
LEADERSHIPWith a promotion comes an entire shift in your
company. You are no longer the friend but the
parent (sometimes). Your social role changes.
Your interactions with people and respect levels
from other people change. You have more say
in what happens, which is awesome. It can also
be entirely terrifying. “What if I make the wrong
choice?”
12. Your actions have much greater
consequences. You have the ability
to choose whether to rule with fear
or with grace. You can intimidate or
guide. You can coach or reprimand.
These all show different manners of
tone and body language you can
implement in your new role. It is
your choice how you lead. No one
else will be held accountable for
your actions. Increase your
emotional intelligence. According
to Psychology Today, “Emotional
intelligence is the ability to identify
and manage your own emotions and
the emotions of others,” and you will
be an aware and reasonable
leader.” Increase this by reading
and discussion with trusted peers
and role models.
Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/emotional-intelligence
13. ... it is important not to think you have “reached
the top,” thinking you have nothing to learn.
Being a leader versus a demanding boss can
look entirely different to different people. What
you have to decide for yourself in this new role
is how you are going to manage people. What
will you be known for? Give this transition some
heavy thought and talk it out with others you
trust.
OVERALL...
14. THANK
YOU
B Y : F E R H A N P A T E L
V I S I T :
W W W . F E R H A N P A T E L . M E
